Hooked on TdM said:
I have so far obliged most of the time, and I've found that really this is about them "testing" me. I get comments about either wow you should read professionally or snarky comments about how they already knew that. Then why ask for a reading? Duh.
Oh, that has happened to me a gazillon times, Hooked. And it sucks!
I have to control myself, my impulse is actually being very blunt (close to rude). My ex-boyfriend used to criticize me about believing in tarot, and how it was bull****, and yadda yadda, and one day i turned to him possesed by the wrath of God and said: "You DON'T talk about tarot! You just DON'T. Because you have no idea what is it about. You know nothing - you haven't read a single book on tarot, and never, ever got a reading. You are so close-minded and petty sometimes, trying to show off your rationality. I don't need you to save me from my 'foolish beliefs' - they were here already before you arrived. So SHUT UP , because of tarot, you know nothing, and thus you also say nothing. Shut up."
He never opened his mouth to criticize tarot again. Thankfully, my surrent s/o is very interested in Tarot - he even has his own deck
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Of course, i never said that to one of those 'testers' who just want a reading so they can show you what a fool you are. They are just afraid - afraid that you'll know something they don't. When they come with that kind of actitude you mentioned, i look at them bored and nonchalant , letting my eyes tell them that they are wasting my time, and also wasting their saliva.
I know i should probably try to explain them how tarot works, etc etc, but frankly, nowadays i just can't be bored. I've done it a thousand times, and for what? Almost never works - these people are not interested in learning, they interested in joking. I don't need to explain myself, what i do, or what i believe in.
I usually can tell when someone is open-minded for a reading, when they are insecure because they have had bad readings in the past (THESE are the people who deserve our patience) and who is here so the can later tell their friends how tarot is stupid and laugh out aloud. Their loss, anyway. Definitely not keeping me awake at night.
My advice is: don't discuss. Treat them with the level of imbelicity they deserve - if they can't respect, so can't you, and you have more important things to do. You needn't even to speak - your action will tell how concerned you are about their 'tarot testing'.
You don't need to prove yourself to people who won't appreciate your work anyway, Hooked
EDIT: Just to make it clear, before any misunderstanding, i'm talking here specifically about the rude testers, people who ask for a reading so they after it they flaunt and say how it didn't work, how you only told them what they know, or how you didn't guess the color of their underwear right and the like. Unfortunately, i know lots of people like that, and i've been in said situations more times than i'd have liked. It wasn't directed to people who ask for reading out of sheer curiosity because they just found out you read tarot. But even in this case, i think boundaries are necessary.