Lilija
Recently, I did a reading for a friend, regarding the future of his relationship. It was tough for me, because he's insecure to begin with, so I knew if anything negative came up, he would take it directly to heart, and freak out.
Before I turned over the first card, I said "Listen, this isn't your future set in stone, this is more like guidance, and what the Universe wants you to know about that. If anything really bad comes up, take it as a lesson or a warning, and try to deal with it."
Well, plenty of things came up, negative, including that he was trying to control the relationship, that he was fueled by lots of unnecessary fears of betrayal, lots of false notions, and that he was fueled by violent emotions. At the end, the 8 of swords came up, in a "Where is this relationship headed in the future?" position...
I have a problem, though. The filter that goes between my brain to my mouth doesn't always work. I blurted out "Imprisonment". Then I went on to explain how it's not inevitable, and all the positive points of the card, but overall, how he should avoid entrapping her in situations, moreover in the relationship. I said all this, while studying the card, not looking at him, and when I finally looked up, his eyes were filled with tears.
So, after seeing him this way, I reminded him of the negative stuff that came up, from his side, and to use them as lessons on how not to be, or what to let go.
I still felt like a heel. It was difficult for me, and a very emotional reading for both of us.
How does everyone handle the difficult stuff?
I just realized, I probably stuck this in the wrong place, I'm sorry...this probably belongs in Talking Tarot.
Before I turned over the first card, I said "Listen, this isn't your future set in stone, this is more like guidance, and what the Universe wants you to know about that. If anything really bad comes up, take it as a lesson or a warning, and try to deal with it."
Well, plenty of things came up, negative, including that he was trying to control the relationship, that he was fueled by lots of unnecessary fears of betrayal, lots of false notions, and that he was fueled by violent emotions. At the end, the 8 of swords came up, in a "Where is this relationship headed in the future?" position...
I have a problem, though. The filter that goes between my brain to my mouth doesn't always work. I blurted out "Imprisonment". Then I went on to explain how it's not inevitable, and all the positive points of the card, but overall, how he should avoid entrapping her in situations, moreover in the relationship. I said all this, while studying the card, not looking at him, and when I finally looked up, his eyes were filled with tears.
So, after seeing him this way, I reminded him of the negative stuff that came up, from his side, and to use them as lessons on how not to be, or what to let go.
I still felt like a heel. It was difficult for me, and a very emotional reading for both of us.
How does everyone handle the difficult stuff?
I just realized, I probably stuck this in the wrong place, I'm sorry...this probably belongs in Talking Tarot.