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I wonder if there is a gem or a crystal to "heal" the spirit (soul)?
Or should I say... To drive away all the evil inside... something that has a power to make a better feeling...
I'm lost since my mother died and I feel like I'm dying inside.
I don't know what is right or wrong, I don't even know who I am anymore.
But I have heard that some gems makes people feel better... and I just tought to ask If there is something?
Hi Kagura,
A quick look through my notes found these four:
Agate – Discerns the truth, accepts circumstances, powerful emotional healer.
Carnelian – Releases sorrow, envy, fear, apathy, and rage, past life work.
Diopside – Brings necessary tears, heals trauma, aids regression, scrying stone.
Elestials – Assist in comprehending life, levels of death, spirit and the immortality.
You may also want to carry an obsidian stone for protection (or any other protection stone you are familiar with) during your time of grief. You have my sympathy during these difficult days.
I don't mean to offend, but I think that grief counselling would be the best for you at this point. It will help you deal with yout feelings.
However, for a stone, rose quartz comes to mind. It would probably be the best for you as it is potent in healing the emotions.
Good luck, and you have my sympathies.
Yes, I too suggest counseling. Therapy and the healing arts go well together. Counseling with someone you trust (you do have a choice) helps one to know where to use the stones effectively.
I am a Reiki Healer, but i am also a person who utilizes psychological therapy. It has proven to be a great combination.
I lost my mother a few years ago and depression hit me hard. It got so bad that i couldn't control it, even with Reiki, crystals work and meditation. I finally went to my doctor and got my anti-depressant changed and i got back into therapy.
Please don't try to 'fix' it on your own, OK? Depression is nothing to mess around with. Just ask your 'Guides/Spirit' for direction to someone who can help you, someone you will feel safe with.
All of the above listed stones are good to use. Chinese fluorite and smokey quartz are also helpful.
Blessings! - skytwig
I know I nead therapy, but it has taken me 5 years to realise that... I'm still waiting for the call from this person who I'm supposed to meet...
I got some trouble to my self cause all of this. My mind is not so clear about enything anymore... I couldn't see how badly everything had gotten and how it effected them who are me near..
I just needed something to belive in... something that helps me together again... Just some little hope....
Well, at least you are willing to get help. Do you have local resources to turn to if this person doesn't call back? and if it gets to the point of self-harm, please go to the hospital, OK?
You mind not being clear could be from depression, so be careful with yourself. seek immediate help if you feel overwhelmed. Call a crisis center or go to the hospital. sometimes, we just have to see we can't handle it on our own.
I shall send some Light your way.... Don't stop seeking outside help, though.
skytwig
I got an time when i'm supposed to go there, but I have too much in school by then... so it will take more time for me...
I'm not that deppressed anymore... I'm just tired of trying to be something that i'm not... an angel as everyone of my relatives sees me... can't understand why...
It's hard to do what people says that I have to do when I don't wanna do it....
but im ok.... I will survive.... And thanks for the light....
I've found lithium crystals to be helpful - I have a double terminated one on a chain that I can wear helps sooth the wounds of the spirit.
Kagura - I applaud your investment in yourself to follow through with the grief counseling. Each of us has to decide in our way how long we will grieve.
My mom died when I was 22, and even though I wasn't living at home any more, it rocked my world. The fact that you now can see how your grief-behaviors were influencing those around you is a b-i-g step in the right direction.
It's also important that you learn the grief can end, but the love continues forever. I wish you peace in your heart.
Originally posted by Kagura
I'm just tired of trying to be something that i'm not... an angel as everyone of my relatives sees me... can't understand why...
It's hard to do what people says that I have to do when I don't wanna do it....Kagura,
They must love you a lot and think you're very special. They just may not be very skilled at helping you with your grief. When you're experiencing grief, you can't be everything you or others expect of you. You need to be in the grief for a while and just let it hurt, and let it work itself out. Sometimes it feels as if your heart is literally breaking apart inside you. But that pain will pass. Saying goodbye to one you love can take a long time. If it's been a very long time -- over a year -- and you don't think you've made any progress then you should definitely get counseling. If the appointment you were given is a bad time for you then please call them back and ask for another time.
I lost my mother a little over a year ago. In my case, I knew ahead of time that she was dying, and I think I actually started through the grieving process while we were still taking care of her. But it is hard, and there isn't much that can help the pain except time, and working through it. It helped me a great deal to go through photographs of my mother from many different times of her life, including those when I didn't know her. It helped me know her spirit better and wish her many blessings on her way into her next life, whatever that may be.
I was 45 when I lost my mom. If you're much younger, then it's probably going to be more difficult to accept that she's not here for you in the physical world. We grow independent of our mothers very gradually as we get older, though the ties always exist. The grief is always hard, but I think harder for younger people.
Sometimes something happens, either good or bad, and I want to pick up the phone and call my mom to talk to her about it. Then I realize she's not there to call on the phone. Sometimes when this happens, I just talk to her anyway, wherever she is, and tell her what I would have said on the phone. I've found this very helpful when I'm missing her. I also found out what the nickname was that her friends called her when she was a girl. I bought myself a little teddy bear and named it by her childhood nickname, Percy. Whenever I felt really sad I would hug and talk to that bear. This helped me a lot too. I don't need it so much now, but I still keep that bear close, and now it will always be special to me.
I don't know what you believe, but I believe that my mother will always be my mother. It's a tie that never breaks completely. Think about what she wanted for you, and her love for you that brought you into this world. She's always with you, a very positive force in your life, a part of who you are.
We have a hospice here near where I live -- a place where people with terminal illnesses receive palliative care. The hospice also provides help for the grieving family members. The hospice my mother was at when she passed provided us counseling if we need it for up to 18 months after her death, and they had a chaplain we could speak to at any time we needed to. If you have a facililty like this in your area, perhaps called by a different name, you might try contacting them. They may be a good resource of helpful information in handling your grief. Perhaps they could refer you to a good counselor. If the first counselor doesn't feel like a good fit for you (ours didn't and we requested another), then try someone else. Sometimes the personality combination just isn't right, and you should feel that your counselor is someone you can safely open your heart to.
I hope some of this helps you. Grief is a process that is a little different for each person, though it follows a general pattern. You are normal, you're just hurting! You will get better. Though you'll always miss your mom to some degree, the pain will dissipate, and you'll live with loving and comforting memories of her all your life.
Please take care of yourself.
Hugs
Kagura, in my experience Rose Quartz is a great heart healer. It is gentle and does not have to be purified. It is forgiving, a stone of love and self-love and can ease feelings of separation. A technique that is very healing is to place several rose quartz's on your body (the belly, the navel, the heart) for 20 minutes or so. It is a consumate healer.
bluestar
11-07-2003, 14:20
I agree with the rose quartz recommendation, even if you just have one, lie with it on your heart and focus on gentle even breaths deep in your belly for a while, you should feel more nurtured and even.
Green Obsidian can be good for the heart too.
blessings
bluestar
I happy that I have got so many answers and so on...
I will try to find some of the things that you have mentioned...
Red Emma
23-09-2003, 21:19
Kagura, I have thought of you frequently over the past months and sent you healing wishes.
If you're still with us, would you let us know how you are? Did the crystals help? Even better, were you able to see a grief counselor?
Best wishes,
Red Emma
TCarbonell
17-10-2003, 14:23
hi - my heart goes out to you - i lost my grandmother recently and didn't think it would hurt me this much. i find myself feeling very anxious and depressed. but i have been to a doctor and have gotten medication to help me feel a litlte better and better cope with my anxiety and depression. it's important to be able to talk to someone about how you feel - if you can't - then write down what you feel. if you're too confused, then seek a doctor that might help give you medicine that can help you focus a little better. as for cyrstals and stones, i'm a great believer in amber. amber is a yellow resin (not actually a stone), and it'sa beautiful color that reminds me of sunshine. i wear it and instantly feel uplifted just because i think it's so beautiful. find a stone that appeals to YOU, that you think is beautiful and uplifting, and work with that. prayer helps too, even if yu're not religous, praying to a 'higher power' or even to the powers of the 'universal spirit' can help. good luck to you. let us know how you are.
All Is One
19-10-2003, 02:34
Kagura, I just tonight found this thread and I noticed that you and I both lost our mothers and both reached out on this forum and both got a lot of support...I was surprised to see how many people - like my younger sister and I - had to get antidepressants, and I - like many others on the forum, wonder how you are doing these days.
My mother died so suddenly and so violently last March that no one has recovered very well. Her entire new home and everything in it burned...and she died trying to get out. She was healthy and only 68, whereas her mother lived 100 years.
I was only 6 blocks away when it happened, but I did not know for almost 24 hours.
Like you- I feel lost.
I hope you are feeling some relief, and I hope you will drop in again sometime.
Shadow Wolf
27-10-2003, 19:41
I have found amythyst particularly helpful for healing !!!
Love and Light !!!
Shadow Wolf
IrishRiotGrrrl
28-10-2003, 16:56
This might sound a bit off the wall, but I have a friend that has been using some large Amethyst to help heal himself. His mother has passed away recently and he is having a hard time dealing with it. Of course, I'm sure you have heard it a million times but alternative healing is not to be used as regular medicine. Meaning: you might want to get some counseling for what you are going through right now. I do know that many places offer free counseling to individuals that have insurance and/or money issues. There are also several non-profit support groups in most major cities that are willing to offer once a week counseling. You might want to find something in your local phone book.
Back to the stones again. I have found that crystals are great for healing, but as I said before my mother in law and a friend both swear by the Amethyst. Maybe it will work for you.
Sorry to hear about your loss my condelences(sp?) are with you.
Kagura: Please, if you still visit us, let us know how you are doing.
When my mum died I broke into about 10'000 pieces. It took me some years to find them and try to piece them together again.... until I realised that some of the pieces belonged to her and not to me. Then I had to do some searching to find my "own" pieces.....
In the end, I swear, you will be a stronger person for this.
You are also welcome to PM me or e-mail me if you need to talk to a stranger.... who understands.
Mystic Zyl
29-10-2003, 17:40
I am sorry for your loss and I have read the many replies that you have gotten. It is all good advise and I really cannot add anything, but to say I'll keep you in my prayers.
Love,
Zyl
WhiteDrag0n
02-11-2003, 12:25
As others have said, Rose quartz is a good healer. I would also recommend some Smoky Quartz it helps to drain away negative feelings, a very useful item is a Smoke Quartz Merkaba Necklace. You can find one at http://www.wehug.com/merkaba-jewelry-gallery.html. I offer my condolences to you but remember: even though family has left us in this world, they are never truly gone they will always watch over us :).
Blessings to you and your family
White Dragon
hi... I think having faith that she is watching you from up above... and that she wishes for your happiness... and is w/ you in spirit... will help you enormously. when someone passes, we do not really lose them, they are always w/ us. my father passed on when I was 4 and I have ALWAYS felt his presence w/ me. I think once you get passed your mourning, you will begin to feel and tune into your mother's presence on a spiritual level... and that can be a beautiful thing.
here is a suggestion: get yourself a nice size rose crystal quartz and tune into it frequently... and at night when you go to bed, put it on your chest (heart area) and ask for healing from within... this really helps. and get a smaller one and carry it w/ you for healing throughout the day.
God bless.