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ana luisa
04-04-2011, 01:50
I did a spread for a friend and I got the 6 of Pents for feelings. What could it possibly mean ? Sharing the same affection ? Feeling one is weaker than the other ? One feeling sorry for the other? Begging for attention/love? Help !

taylorkiteling
04-04-2011, 02:32
In terms of feelings, I would read this as being very giving and caring. The 6 of Pentacles, in my decks, has meanings like "generosity" and "selflessness," and I think that in terms of a relationship, this could represent one (or both) people selflessly giving each other love and caring.

Of course, if it was reversed or if there are signs of something negative, it could also be read as a person being TOO giving, putting their partner's needs before their own, and not taking care of themself.

starrystarrynight
04-04-2011, 08:23
Whenever I get this in a relationship reading, it usually indicates that the two principals are on two different pages as far as feelings go...one cares much more than the other does.

nisaba
04-04-2011, 14:07
Being forced, willingly or unwillingly, into the roles of eitehr "victim" or "carer" in a relationship, either because of relationship dynamics, or because of health, or money or something else.

WalesWoman
04-04-2011, 15:08
Feelings... between both of them or one for the other? I think it could be showing that one is wanting what the other has to give, the other gives as much as they feel comfortable with or is willing to give. This could be mutually satisfying back and forth or it could be that one is feeling pretty needy and willing to accept anything the other is willing to share... no matter how much or how little.

6 is about harmony, balance, give and take... the quantity and quality of that is best determined by the cards surrounding this I'd think.

starrystarrynight
05-04-2011, 00:31
Feelings... between both of them or one for the other? I think it could be showing that one is wanting what the other has to give, the other gives as much as they feel comfortable with or is willing to give. This could be mutually satisfying back and forth or it could be that one is feeling pretty needy and willing to accept anything the other is willing to share... no matter how much or how little.

6 is about harmony, balance, give and take... the quantity and quality of that is best determined by the cards surrounding this I'd think.
This bears rereading...I agree 100% and wish I had said it! :) I'm taking it on board.

PAMUYA
06-04-2011, 05:14
Being forced, willingly or unwillingly, into the roles of eitehr "victim" or "carer" in a relationship, either because of relationship dynamics, or because of health, or money or something else.
Yes I agree. One is the giver and one the reciever, not equal. The relationship can work if both parties agree to the arrangement.

YDM42
06-04-2011, 05:40
In terms of feelings--I've gotten it when one person "feels" like he or she is giving more than the other- weather it is actual or not- one person "feels"- they are giving too much.

The most memorable situation I recall is when one guy felt like he was the one always calling the woman- and this was causing considerable frustation for him- the frustration always showed up as the 10 of wands.

Middy1452
06-04-2011, 06:28
One person has seen something in the other that has struck a chord with them, something that nobody else has seen in that person.

Middy

Glass Owl
06-04-2011, 06:53
I've had the 6 of pentacles turn up when there is a lot of giving and taking (money, services, favors, knowlege, love, etc) in a relationship. Sometimes it can point to giving with strings attached (there is the requirement or expectation that there will be something given in return). This exchanging is often the reason or basis for the relationship. This card has also pointed to me an unbalance in regards to exchanging or a desire to give/take.

In terms of feelings, one or both of the parties may feel a sense of obligation or gratitude.

nisaba
06-04-2011, 14:27
Yes I agree. One is the giver and one the reciever, not equal. The relationship can work if both parties agree to the arrangement.
But then the "victim" heals or grows, and the wants the "carer" to give up their position of strength and become an equal, and the whole relationship collapses. I've seen it time and time again. Best they can manage then, is to live in the same house as strangers.

WalesWoman
06-04-2011, 20:53
Seems like the more negative qualities of 6 Pentacles would be if it was RX or had swords and wands around it... since those aren't friends with earth and weaken or neutralize it. Otherwise it is creating some kind of balance, a symbiotic relationship that is mutually beneficial in some way. I scratch your back, you scratch mine... and yes that can be seen as co-dependant. It can also be "settling" for something, not great, but good enough and better than nothing. It really, really depends on the cards surrounding it... and the people themselves...and their level of maturity, experience and history... and expectations.

ana luisa
06-04-2011, 21:50
Thank you SO much for your interpretations!! They've been wonderful and very helpful. I was asked not to mention the other cards in the spread because that would fall into the "your readings" category but, just so that you know, the other cards were mostly cups and pentacles. HOWEVER, I do believe WalesWoman nailed it. This is in fact a simbiotic relationship. What I have a hard time seeing though is the difference between a relationship where each one "sucks up" as much as they need and another where they "give away" as much as they can. It may be that the end result is having both parties satisfied (having their fill but... for some reason, that doesn't sound like it). I do not want to go into details but in this particular case both parties are EXTREMELY dependent on each other but for completely diferent reasons. Funny, I always thought the 6 of pentacles stood for harmony and charity and the goody goody meanings...

BodhiSeed
06-04-2011, 22:22
Funny, I always thought the 6 of pentacles stood for harmony and charity and the goody goody meanings...
I have a stepson who is an addict and a DIL who is a textbook definition of a codependent. Their marriage is one of harmony, but not one that's healthy!

ana luisa
06-04-2011, 22:34
I see what you mean, bodhran. Something else that always bothered me about this card is that it usually shows 3 people. Not two and most of the readings talk about the exchange between two. I know, it's just a scene REPRESENTING something. But shouldn't the giver and the two beggars be given the same attention/importance? Maybe the beggars are the same person who sometimes receives something and sometimes doesn't, depending on the giver's mood/will... Hmm. Will give this more thought...

BodhiSeed
07-04-2011, 00:12
One of the meanings I often apply to this card is using balanced judgment. If I give to this person, will they become dependent on me, or will it help them? From the beggar's point of view, if I take something offered, will it have strings attached?

magenta
08-04-2011, 02:09
the way I see the 6 of pentacles, is as a card of generosity and giving. Then the cards around it can give more context, but in general, this is a 6 card, which relates to the Lovers and to a number that brings the energy of balance and harmony . The pentacle is a suit of Earth, concrete things, things we can see and manifest...so for me it is a card that often speaks of concretely giving something to others, even it is only a phone call or a note to let them know are thinking of them. It is selfless, and totally loving. This type of person enjoys the giving, I had this card come up for a healer...she just loved the feeling of helping.

Some people truly love giving, and that does not mean they are co-dependent...maybe they are more in touch with their souls, that can love unconditionally and with compassion....when the soul speaks it asks " what can I give you ?" as opposed to the ego that asks " what can you give me? "

In the 6 of pentacles what I see is an harmonious give and take, and the giver is happy to do so.

starrystarrynight
08-04-2011, 02:39
...Something else that always bothered me about this card is that it usually shows 3 people. Not two and most of the readings talk about the exchange between two. I know, it's just a scene REPRESENTING something. But shouldn't the giver and the two beggars be given the same attention/importance? Maybe the beggars are the same person who sometimes receives something and sometimes doesn't, depending on the giver's mood/will... Hmm. Will give this more thought...

That's why I generally see the imbalance of the give-and-take with this card that, to me, goes well beyond mere generosity of spirit or wealth. The "giver," who is usually dressed in fine clothes (representing that he has "more" to give--and, subsequently, more to be able to hold back, if he wants to) stands up above the beggars looking down at them. So, there is not only the difference in class or financial standing being depicted, but also a difference in height, and he holds a scale that is not equalling balanced, either.

Now, I can see a symbiosis in the energy or a co-dependency...but it would still make me feel that there is no "even-ness" to it. One is necessarily "up" while the other is "down," and though the balance between them may swing in the opposite direction, putting the second guy up while the other falls down, they are never quite equal...

But, again, that's just how I see this card--so that's what I feel its significance is to me when I come across it in a reading.

PAMUYA
08-04-2011, 02:47
I tend to agree more with starrystarrynight.

When I first looked at the Six of Pentacles, I didn’t see generosity I saw a balance of power taking place. This man stands above the two beggars, not placing the coins in their hand, but dropping them. The scale caught my eye right away. This is a card of balance. Those who give and those who receive. This is a mutual relationship; this could be financial, emotional or spiritual.

A financial one could be one of generosity or charity. The giver gives a gift that one can afford and that the receiver “will accept”. Many people will not accept charity or will only take what they absolutely need. There is the opposite to this, give too much and then it will be expected, they no longer appreciate the gift or act of charity. You give people what they need, not what they want.

This balance can be seen in the work environment, you stay in a job that pays okay, but is unwilling to give up what security you do have in this unsatisfying job, keeping the relationship of power in check by choice, not by the mandates of the employer. This balance of power stays in place as long as both sides agree to their status in the relationship.

On an emotional level, staying in a relationship which one partner is dominating another either physically or emotionally. The dominated partner is comfortable and finds security in the relationship; a balance of power is struck. This may or may not be a healthy relationship, but both parties stay in the relationship through emotional ties which are a part of this balance of power. Like in the Devil card, this power is given willfully to the other person; it is not taken from them. It is knowing how much a person can give and take.

Om_Vanya
09-04-2011, 05:54
I just recently had this card come up for feelings and my first impression was that one person would like to share their feelings and/or have those feelings given back, reciprocated. I think its interpretation leans heavily on surrounding cards...but in the case there are none, well....it is the card of give and take, feeling generous. Hope this helps.

Eddie
09-04-2011, 06:29
Feelings... between both of them or one for the other? I think it could be showing that one is wanting what the other has to give, the other gives as much as they feel comfortable with or is willing to give. This could be mutually satisfying back and forth or it could be that one is feeling pretty needy and willing to accept anything the other is willing to share... no matter how much or how little.

6 is about harmony, balance, give and take... the quantity and quality of that is best determined by the cards surrounding this I'd think.


Spot on Waleswoman!

This six means, that as feelings, this person is willing to compromise. communicate and co-operate with the other person. Sounds like a successful relationship to me.

Eddie

Snookum
12-12-2012, 11:37
Feelings... between both of them or one for the other? I think it could be showing that one is wanting what the other has to give, the other gives as much as they feel comfortable with or is willing to give. This could be mutually satisfying back and forth or it could be that one is feeling pretty needy and willing to accept anything the other is willing to share... no matter how much or how little.

6 is about harmony, balance, give and take... the quantity and quality of that is best determined by the cards surrounding this I'd think.

I just stumbled across this thread as I keep drawing the 6 of pents.

I see the six of pentacles as a power imbalance; someone is giving because it's a favour that's been asked of them, and with that knowledge is power. There's a certain master/slave dialectic to this: the recipient needs the giver, and the giver needs the recipient. All fine so far, except that the giver starts to become the recipient (he needs to feel needed) and the recipient starts to become the giver (he's needed to be seen to need). In a sense it's mutually satisfying for both parties, but when either stops needing, or being needed, then you have a problem. This is when you could break apart because there's nothing else to be gained from the experience.

In my experience, that's when these feelings run their course; or you have to negotiate a new dynamic between you.

PAMUYA
12-12-2012, 13:48
But then the "victim" heals or grows, and the wants the "carer" to give up their position of strength and become an equal, and the whole relationship collapses. I've seen it time and time again. Best they can manage then, is to live in the same house as strangers.

and that is how life goes, we all continue to grow and change...one could always leave.

Tomorrow
11-03-2013, 09:56
I got the reversed 6 of pentacles for feelings when I asked about a guy I'm seeing and reading the replies on this thread sure opened up my eyes. I was in denial about his feelings for me. It was so obvious....

At first he was all over me but now I am the one who almost always initiates contact. If I don't, it takes him days to call. When we see each other, he is very affectionate and acts kinda like a father figure, always giving me life advice. He used to be really jealous but I told him how much I care for him and now he takes me for granted. He is very protective of me but knowing what the 6 of pentacles means, it all makes sense. He sees me as the slave and himself as the Master. He sees me as something that belongs to him, that's why he gets mad when other guys try to hit on me. I thought it meant that he might have strong romantic feelings for me but if he did he would call and text a lot like he used to. I have felt so much frustration because of this guy but now I am moving on. I deserve better.

Pique Dame
15-01-2014, 12:19
I know this spread was about the 6 of P's as feelings, but what about representing where someone wants a relationship to go? I've been getting that card a lot in spreads that ask "Where he wants the relationship to go", so I was wondering if anyone had any words of wisdom in that context. Seems like a good omen, but hard to decipher in a directional sense. Maybe it means he wants to be fair to everyone involved? Or he wants a relationship where we both give and take equally.

WalesWoman
15-01-2014, 15:40
I know this spread was about the 6 of P's as feelings, but what about representing where someone wants a relationship to go? I've been getting that card a lot in spreads that ask "Where he wants the relationship to go", so I was wondering if anyone had any words of wisdom in that context. Seems like a good omen, but hard to decipher in a directional sense. Maybe it means he wants to be fair to everyone involved? Or he wants a relationship where we both give and take equally.

One of the things about 6 Pentacles is giving and receiving, mainly giving as much as one feels comfortable with giving or getting. It does NOT mean equal measure, even if we might wish it were. Usually it answers a question, does it feel fair? Or does one seem to do more giving and feels happy with getting crumbs? The harmony is kept by keeping it in balance, but by no means is it equal. It's one of those balances where what you get is enough to get by on, it may not fill you, but it doesn't leave you completely empty. But it's more about the physical side of things, some sort of trade off. Staying in a relationship even when it isn't fulfilling because it's better than the alternative? Getting into a relationship because it's convenient and meets your physical needs or whatever. It says nothing about love at all.

Elizav
17-03-2014, 07:05
I wanted to reply to this thread because the 6 of pentacles has been stalking me for a while and the forum was so helpful. I finally understand what this card means (for me at least). And it's basically what you've all said in many ways. This is just my experience of it as far as feelings go. I received this card both as my feelings and his feelings so I was stumped for a while.

The one giving may feel burdened and wish someone could give to them and the one taking feels unwanted and wishes they didn't have to beg, that they had something to give. None of the people are actually focusing on the other, they are more so focusing on their own "plight" in relationship to the other. So the giver isn't looking at the beggar and thinking negatively of them, they think the beggar is lucky to just sit there and receive. People care about him and he just soaks it all up without having to worry about the sacrifices it took for it to get to him. The beggar is thinking how lucky is this rich man, he never needs to ask or receive while the beggar does. The "rich" man has so much to give and he chooses when and who to give to.

This came about in a relationship where I felt like the giver, and he was the taker but it could be seen both ways where I felt I was wishing he gave to me while he just stood there and gave his time elsewhere. We were both trying to be seen as an equal by the other and both felt "neglected" whether giver or taker. He was thinking she is stable, she has unlimited resources (energy, affection) so she gives me of her time, but she needs no one, she's not impressed with me, what more can I possibly bring to her life, why bother when I have other areas in my life where I am valued and can give energy to. I was thinking I hold him to high regard and am lucky to know someone like him. He is self made while I'm stable because I have my family. I wish he would reciprocate and give his time/energy to me. I could give my time to anyone else but chose him because I do need him in my life.

At the end of the day it is equal. Both people can give and take equally and have the capacity to but they don't realize how equal it is and how much they are both needed and wanted by the other, that they are both giver and receiver in a way and that they both have a lot to bring to the table.

So feelings wise, the person feels they need you in some way, they value your presence, whether to give to them or because they may want to spoil you, but they think you either don't need them, won't give to them, or don't appreciate them. So they may simply try to stay away so you don't see them as needy, or they'll go somewhere else where they feel needed or appreciated.

canid
17-03-2014, 08:06
It's also known as the 'now' card, timing wise. What's going on RIGHT NOW. Sharing, things are in balance, harmony, etc. Giving or receiving, which we all know about it. But right now.

wind
17-03-2014, 18:43
6 of pentacles is Moon in Taurus - and this is the caretaker, the provider, the one giving safe and stable environment where the needs can be fulfilled.
Moon is exhalted in Taurus and it provides security and also pleasure and satisfaction of basic needs, so the feelings are quite generous. The need and desire to take care, to enjoy, to be of support...

In my experience, this card meant nice things - positive resolutions, understanding,balance. It predicted really lovely and happy times with my beloved, it also predicted my financial needs will be taken care of.

I see it mainly as a positive card.

As for the 'imbalance' view - it is one aspect, of course, I have also seen it manifested in this way, as balancing giving-receiving. I have seen it as being in debt to someone as well, also as extortion.
But in my opinion, we depend too much on rws images. RWS image are an important aspect, but being too stuck on that narrows the experience of the cards and the energies. The number should be considered (6), perhaps relation to the Majors (6 as lovers), the suit (pents), astrology, kabbalah...So many things that go beyond the scope of the image on the card.

werewolfmoon
17-03-2014, 23:34
The Six means 'spending time' to me, it comes up when friends are coming or my guy is going to call. It also means give/take and a balance of emotions. It's a happy card and I love it when it comes up.

ana luisa
18-03-2014, 00:50
I wanted to reply to this thread because the 6 of pentacles has been stalking me for a while and the forum was so helpful. I finally understand what this card means (for me at least). And it's basically what you've all said in many ways. This is just my experience of it as far as feelings go. I received this card both as my feelings and his feelings so I was stumped for a while.

The one giving may feel burdened and wish someone could give to them and the one taking feels unwanted and wishes they didn't have to beg, that they had something to give. None of the people are actually focusing on the other, they are more so focusing on their own "plight" in relationship to the other. So the giver isn't looking at the beggar and thinking negatively of them, they think the beggar is lucky to just sit there and receive. People care about him and he just soaks it all up without having to worry about the sacrifices it took for it to get to him. The beggar is thinking how lucky is this rich man, he never needs to ask or receive while the beggar does. The "rich" man has so much to give and he chooses when and who to give to.

This came about in a relationship where I felt like the giver, and he was the taker but it could be seen both ways where I felt I was wishing he gave to me while he just stood there and gave his time elsewhere. We were both trying to be seen as an equal by the other and both felt "neglected" whether giver or taker. He was thinking she is stable, she has unlimited resources (energy, affection) so she gives me of her time, but she needs no one, she's not impressed with me, what more can I possibly bring to her life, why bother when I have other areas in my life where I am valued and can give energy to. I was thinking I hold him to high regard and am lucky to know someone like him. He is self made while I'm stable because I have my family. I wish he would reciprocate and give his time/energy to me. I could give my time to anyone else but chose him because I do need him in my life.

At the end of the day it is equal. Both people can give and take equally and have the capacity to but they don't realize how equal it is and how much they are both needed and wanted by the other, that they are both giver and receiver in a way and that they both have a lot to bring to the table.

So feelings wise, the person feels they need you in some way, they value your presence, whether to give to them or because they may want to spoil you, but they think you either don't need them, won't give to them, or don't appreciate them. So they may simply try to stay away so you don't see them as needy, or they'll go somewhere else where they feel needed or appreciated.

Brilliant definition! Thank you for sharing ! :)

Lilmz84
18-03-2014, 06:47
I got the 6 of Pents in a one card reading about feelings and found this thread. Elizav, I love your interpretation, it's so spot on for the question I was asking. Thank you.