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Amanda_04
06-04-2011, 13:31
Dear sitter,

This is going to be short and to the point with all that I've had going on, and with no one else signing up (and I wrote this up yesterday). I hope it still resonates and you can find meaning in it.

1. What demands are placed on you by others? - Knight of Swords

I would say that others expect you to know the answer, direct them, or deal with their problems on their behalf.

2. What demands do you place on yourself? - Hermit rx.

I would say that you're overly critical of yourself, especially if an answer doesn't immediately come to you on what to do about something. Perhaps you doubt yourself a great deal more than the others who expect so much of you, do.

3. What are your limits? What is your breaking point? - Page of Wands rx.

I would say that when you just want to throw your hands up in the air- when you feel like you can't do everything or please everyone, you perhaps then do nothing and temporarily hide out for a little while away from everyone and everything.

4. How can you respect your limits and relax? - Empress rx.

Make sure your own house is in order before you go taking in strays. Don't rob people of taking care of themselves either. Others may ask you for your help, but you must learn to react in a way that allows them to take care of themselves; that allows them to answer their own questions... basically, shove them gently, out of your nest. ;) Try not to let yourself get too worked up if they don't do what you expect them to do, and if they aren't taking your advice after asking for it, quit giving it to them- it's a waste and it burns up your energy.

5. How can you turn these pressures into an advantage? - 4 of Cups rx.

Peaple love and respect you a great deal; they rely on you because you've always been there for them to lend a helping hand. Now, it's time for you to know and realize this and that it's okay to ask for help and re-establish better boundaries in order to make sure you are fully satisfied in order to be able to keep on giving.

Base: 2 of Wands rx. - Something that really burns your butt is when things don't go to plan, or don't work out the way that you expected them to; but sometimes, life has other plans! :) Try to see it as life giving you a helping hand, and run with it.

You can begin your feedback anytime now (and sorry for the wait). I'll try to get around to getting a summary up soon. :)

Hope this reading helps and makes sense!

Amanda

GryffinSong
07-04-2011, 13:53
Hi Amanda, thanks for filling in the third reading position! I really appreciate it! :)

Dear sitter,

This is going to be short and to the point with all that I've had going on, and with no one else signing up (and I wrote this up yesterday). I hope it still resonates and you can find meaning in it.

1. What demands are placed on you by others? - Knight of Swords

I would say that others expect you to know the answer, direct them, or deal with their problems on their behalf.

I'm not sure about this one. I feel like all the damands are being placed on me by me. I'll have to think about this some more and see whether there's something I'm missing. People USUALLY see me that way, but I'm pretty isolated right now in terms of close people. My friends here in my new place are still new enough that they don't expect much out of me. Friendships haven't deepened yet, which is a problem for me. I need some closer friendships for support and because I am energized by being with close friends. My energy can be sapped by being with aquaintances a lot, especially in large groups.

2. What demands do you place on yourself? - Hermit rx.

I would say that you're overly critical of yourself, especially if an answer doesn't immediately come to you on what to do about something. Perhaps you doubt yourself a great deal more than the others who expect so much of you, do.

Yes, I definately doubt and judge myself pretty harshly. Oddly, I do know within myself that I've got talent and lots of potential. But I get really hard on myself, feeling that I'm not fully living up to that potential. Or that I'm not good enough. Or that no one will want me. Yada yada yada. Bad self talk that I'm STILL trying to tone down.

3. What are your limits? What is your breaking point? - Page of Wands rx.

I would say that when you just want to throw your hands up in the air- when you feel like you can't do everything or please everyone, you perhaps then do nothing and temporarily hide out for a little while away from everyone and everything.

Yes, absolutely. And I spend WAY too much time in hibernation. TV, online, sudoku puzzles ... anything but doing what I need to do. I feel like I've lost my mojo, and sometimes wonder if I'll ever get it fully back.

4. How can you respect your limits and relax? - Empress rx.

Make sure your own house is in order before you go taking in strays. Don't rob people of taking care of themselves either. Others may ask you for your help, but you must learn to react in a way that allows them to take care of themselves; that allows them to answer their own questions... basically, shove them gently, out of your nest. ;) Try not to let yourself get too worked up if they don't do what you expect them to do, and if they aren't taking your advice after asking for it, quit giving it to them- it's a waste and it burns up your energy.

I feel like I have to re-learn this lesson over and over during my life. I seem to get it, cut down on it, and then pile it all on again. And while reading your post and writing this response, I'm thinking that I need to create a loose schedule for myself to help me manage my time better. Delay the gratification of watching a favorite tv show until I've put in a couple of hours in my studio. Set aside time for design, time for sewing, time for relaxing. If I don't budget the relaxation/down time, I feel guilty for taking it. Then that feeds the depression and sense of worthlessness. If I schedule work and rest times, then perhaps I can enjoy the rest instead of it becoming stressful.

5. How can you turn these pressures into an advantage? - 4 of Cups rx.

Peaple love and respect you a great deal; they rely on you because you've always been there for them to lend a helping hand. Now, it's time for you to know and realize this and that it's okay to ask for help and re-establish better boundaries in order to make sure you are fully satisfied in order to be able to keep on giving.

Thanks! I was good at accepting help while I was fighting cancer. But now that I'm supposed to be all better I'm back to trying to do it all. And I can't. I know that. But I feel guilty having "rested" for the year I was sick, and put a lot of pressure on myself to do anything and everything I possibly can now that I'm well. It's hard for me to admit how little stamina I have, both physically and emotionally. I need a lot of battery-recharging still, even more than a year later.

Base: 2 of Wands rx. - Something that really burns your butt is when things don't go to plan, or don't work out the way that you expected them to; but sometimes, life has other plans! :) Try to see it as life giving you a helping hand, and run with it.

:) Thanks, I'll try!!!

You can begin your feedback anytime now (and sorry for the wait). I'll try to get around to getting a summary up soon. :)

Hope this reading helps and makes sense!

Amanda

2 out of 3 are done. Will see if I can think straight enough to do the 3rd tonight.

Your reading makes lots of sense, and picks up on several of the same issues that the other reading did. And thinking through the issues you've raised and my responses has helped me. Thanks!