Asbestos Mango
OK, I've been doing readings for folks around my day treatment program, and there's this problem I have whenever I give an in-person reading. The problem is this- my sitters don't talk.
It's not everyone, a few people will give me feedback as to what the cards are relating to, but most of the time, they just sit there. And I start to babble, giving any and all possible meanings of each card that I can think of, and they sit there. And I move on to the next card and start giving my interpretation of that one, and they sit there. Often, there's not even a facial expression or a nod (or shake of the head) to let me know I'm on the right track.
I often feel like they don't see Tarot as an interactive process, like they just want answers handed to them rather than talk to me about the issue that the reading is about. Often a five-card reading lasts less than five minutes, I have no idea how I did, and don't feel like I've done my job as a reader (I'm not getting paid, but I still want to do justice to my sitters, and to the process of the reading itself).
I know I'm capable of this- the feedback I get here in the RX is overwhelmingly positive, but, well, I feel like I don't know what I'm doing when I've got an unresponsive sitter.
How do you draw a sitter out, and get them to talk? I have on occasion asked direct questions, but when I do that, I feel like I'm cheating, even though it does confirm that I'm on the right track.
It's not everyone, a few people will give me feedback as to what the cards are relating to, but most of the time, they just sit there. And I start to babble, giving any and all possible meanings of each card that I can think of, and they sit there. And I move on to the next card and start giving my interpretation of that one, and they sit there. Often, there's not even a facial expression or a nod (or shake of the head) to let me know I'm on the right track.
I often feel like they don't see Tarot as an interactive process, like they just want answers handed to them rather than talk to me about the issue that the reading is about. Often a five-card reading lasts less than five minutes, I have no idea how I did, and don't feel like I've done my job as a reader (I'm not getting paid, but I still want to do justice to my sitters, and to the process of the reading itself).
I know I'm capable of this- the feedback I get here in the RX is overwhelmingly positive, but, well, I feel like I don't know what I'm doing when I've got an unresponsive sitter.
How do you draw a sitter out, and get them to talk? I have on occasion asked direct questions, but when I do that, I feel like I'm cheating, even though it does confirm that I'm on the right track.