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A month or so ago I did a reading for a friend I work with. Her cards were particularly negative, her partner's present was represented by the 10 of swords, her present was the hanged man and her future the 8 of swords.
Last week I did another reading for her which had much more positive cards, 4 of wands, 9 of pentacles etc. etc. afterwards she breathed a huge sigh of relief and said thank God they are so positive and thanked me.
I asked her about it and although she felt my last reading had been completely accurate, the negative "feel" had made her deeply concerned. I had tried (as I always do) to put as positive a perspective as possible on the reading but she had still felt the need to dwell on negative aspects, even going so far as to double check the meanings of the cards online, which very much undermined any positivity I had tried to entwine in to the reading. I was disturbed to think I had caused her any undue concern.
My question is basically this; When performing a reading in which you get particularly negative cards, how do you convey the content without deeply upsetting the querent? I know you can do little if they already have knowledge of the cards meanings or decide to research them elsewhere and I do not see outright lying as being a sensible option, however I am sure much can be done to avoid them feeling the need to question it further (externally) in the first place.
nb - I did try to search but could not find anything that fit with this, if somebody can point me to a previous thread covering this I would be very much obliged.
A month or so ago I did a reading for a friend I work with. Her cards were particularly negative, her partner's present was represented by the 10 of swords, her present was the hanged man and her future the 8 of swords.
Last week I did another reading for her which had much more positive cards, 4 of wands, 9 of pentacles etc. etc. afterwards she breathed a huge sigh of relief and said thank God they are so positive and thanked me.
I asked her about it and although she felt my last reading had been completely accurate, the negative "feel" had made her deeply concerned. I had tried (as I always do) to put as positive a perspective as possible on the reading but she had still felt the need to dwell on negative aspects, even going so far as to double check the meanings of the cards online, which very much undermined any positivity I had tried to entwine in to the reading. I was disturbed to think I had caused her any undue concern.
My question is basically this; When performing a reading in which you get particularly negative cards, how do you convey the content without deeply upsetting the querent? I know you can do little if they already have knowledge of the cards meanings or decide to research them elsewhere and I do not see outright lying as being a sensible option, however I am sure much can be done to avoid them feeling the need to question it further (externally) in the first place.
nb - I did try to search but could not find anything that fit with this, if somebody can point me to a previous thread covering this I would be very much obliged.