FaeryGodmother said:
So is the most important thing to you to know whether you are "right" or accurate?
What about the how you get the message across?
I guess the point I'm trying to make is that I personally don't think feedback should be just about the accuracy of the reader but also about the other things that make us good readers. Feedback should teach us to be more compassionate reader, to be clearer in describing what we are seeing and the messages we are recieving.
I agree with what you said that feedback should not just tell you it somethings is off the mark, but also why and what the actual situation is. And yes, something that sounds wrong at the time may turn out to be accurate later on. I have found over time too, that we don't always see ourselves clearly, but Tarot does. I have had readings that I did for myself that I thought were dead wrong, then lwhen I reread them months later I found they were completely accurate. It was just that I had these blinders on and could not see things in another way yet.
Yes, to me, the way we present the info is very important too. To me I have an idea of what I am trying to do when I read for someone. A reading, to me, is meant to enlighten, to empower the person to live their best lives, and to give them hope and hopefully confidence. So how I present things is important to me too.
I am careful never to just say something negative about a situation. There are always two sides to everything and I think it helps to present both. I think this duality is inherent in Tarot. If something bad is about to happen then you tell them all in life happens for a good reason and that something good will come of it (even the Death card has this meaning, and the Tower is followed by the hope of the Star).
Then you tell the person that they have the power to change this future, it is not written in stone, and that hopefully you can help them do so, with more readings...
Even in good situations there is likely something to look at that can make things even better, something to work on to maintain the good times... There is always the duality, something to work on. Life is learning and change and growth...
So yeah, if I ever said something that made someone lose hope or fear ...I would need to know so I could correct it.
Babs