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divinerguy
10-08-2002, 14:04
No, its not redundantly repetitive. Its called a Relationship-Relationship Spread because its a reading about relationships, in which the cards are read "in relation" to one another. If you don't modify the card meanings based upon the other cards, the reading is not as meaningful.
You draw three cards. Card 1 is the querent. Card 3 is the other person. Card 2 is the dynamic between the two.
In this spread, you don't limit each of the card meanings to a specific aspect of the relationship.
Its a free-form reading. The querent card can refer to an emotion, a situation, on obstacle or anything about the querent that comes to the reader. The same holds true for the card representing the other person.
The middle card - the dynamic, links the two cards. It is the "dynamic" or the interaction between the two people cards.
These are the only limitations on the spread. They are intended to be read in relationship to one another.
Here's an example of how I think they influence one another:
Card 1 - 2 of Cups
Card 2 - Chariot
Card 3 - 7 of Swords
In Card 1, the querent obviously has romance or a relationship on her mind.
In Card 2, the Chariot suggests that her love interest is strong and forceful.
In Card 3, he sees the strength of her ardor, and tries to leave quietly, possibly after having sex with her. (Moving away with the swords in hand).
It is how I do relationship readings, because it allows for greater flexibility, story telling and intuition.
Divinerguy: That is interesting--just like a 3-card I call the Here&Now to determine the dynamics of a relationship or a situation! I also take a free-form view of the spread in that it permits a range of associations not limited strictly to the interaction between 2 people or a person & a situation, but also can indicate what is brought to the table.
divinerguy
10-08-2002, 22:44
Another advantage is that you'll seldom get stuck during a reading.
lunalafey
11-08-2002, 04:39
SO, DG. what would your story be for these 3 cards?
1. :T3S
2. :T4C - rev.
3. :TLOVE
divinerguy
11-08-2002, 07:37
Originally posted by lunalafey
SO, DG. what would your story be for these 3 cards?
1. 3/Swords
2. 4/Cups - rev.
3. Lovers
Okay - the Querent has suffered or suffers from some type of sorrow, quite possibly related to loneliness or separation.
The Other Person has some legitimate feelings regarding the querent. Those feelings are not yet fully developed, but are obviously present.
The dynamic between the two is "new possibilities." There is the possibility the two may become closer on a friendship basis. This is suggezsted by the suffering of the querent and the emotional interest of the Other Person. Accordingly, it makes sense that conditions are favorable for a more close friendship.
Like all affairs of the heart, whether it goes further depends on the people involved.
Lunalafey - Is this what you read as well?
lunalafey
11-08-2002, 13:00
you had visited my 'poor' ego post, have you been back? there has been a development because of it.
These cards pertain to this event.
Whenever I want to know about someone I draw 3 cards(sometimes 4) they are "open" in their meanings such as your spread. Now here's the fun part. While shuffling, I was thinking how funny it would be to draw the Lovers since this fellow is a Gemini. I was doing my final cut when cards fell from the deck, 3 of them. Upon turning them over I was face to face with the 6th card of the majors - go figure.
Yes, this is basically what I came up with, except the all cards are thiers. Having card #1 apply to me is VERY fitting because the last true lover I had was killed 4 years ago and I have not had anything meaningful since. I saw there to be wonderful potential no matter what direction this 'friendship' will take. We have yet to meet (4C rev) but look forward to getting to know each other.
tieduptinkerbell
24-10-2005, 01:27
this is a great spread...offered terrific insight to a relatioship I was reading about...
thanks
Bell
VoodooGyal
06-02-2006, 04:19
I just tried this spread, i felt at ease in doing the spread. So nice to have only 3 cards for relationship!
I only spoke his name...
Extra card popped out while shuffling.
Got me right there....
Very good spread~~! :)
I just tried this spread, and every card on it was a court card. I ended up drawing 3 clarification cards and they were more people!!! except the tower, but still, it has people on it too. It gives me the feeling that there are too many eyes on us, and too many "friends" sticking their nose in our relationship.
It is a really cool spread.
HonestPuck
29-07-2006, 02:56
Great spread. I really prefer simple spreads like this.
Simple spreads are really the best way to learn and form a base with. Once you become familiar with and have ease of them, it naturally progresses to those spreads which have the subtile intracacies. And if you notice with a three card spread or four if you pull the base card as I always do, you will find that you're using your intuitive mind spontaneously and don't really need the bigger spreads, except that they are fun and challenging. ;) Anyway, I still will use a three card spread for myself and for friends.
Baroli:D:D
Little Baron
23-08-2006, 18:39
This is very much like how I read three cards generally. Except that I turn the second one to the side and instead of the dynamic, I will look at what is holding 1 and 2 apart.
But I do that for all kinds of readings.
Thanks for sharing this one DG. I will definitely use it.
LB
caligrlatheartx
04-05-2007, 17:11
I love simple spreads like this too! Especially since I've just started learning, and one of the most difficult things for me is relating the cards to one another. I can come up with reasonable keywords for individual cards, but trying to connect an entire spread and vibe the cards off each other is still beyond me.
Here's what I got for this spread. I did this for myself and a friend I've had a crush on for the past two years almost (sad but true). Unfortunately he has a girlfriend but I just love torturing myself with the "what if" scenarios. And I'd really appreciate anyone & everyone's input and insights:
Card 1 (the Querent): The Universe. I see this card as being at peace with the world, and more importantly with yourself. There's a sense of completeness and fulfillment, almost like this is too good to be true. But at the same time you are able to acknowledge your blessings. That's honestly how he makes me feel.
But also, I have the Crowley deck so I don't use reversals, but I always look at the ill-dignified meanings anyway if I come across them on sites, and something I found for The Universe rang true -- "Situations drawing to a close, but not yet ended. Fear of and inability to change; fear of the unknown." This resonates with me because I'm graduating and most likely I won't remain as close, if at all, with him. And I think I'm just so used to liking him and so comfortable, I don't want to (or even know how to) like someone else and open myself up to someone like that.
Card 2 (the Dynamic): 10 of Wands. I associate this card with a heavy load, not necessarily work related but just trying to take on more than one can handle. I also think of responsibility, whether you're shying away from it or placing unrealistic expectations on yourself.
I honestly was at a loss as to how read it in this spread, so I pulled a clarification card and got The Moon. Right away I thought of illusion and losing myself in a fantasy world, my imagination. In my head I've built up this amazing idea of what him and I could have as a couple, and maybe that's what I want. Not even him necessarily, just that fantasy.
Card 3 (the Other Person): Princess of Disks. I found this - "In your readings, this Page suggests that an opening may appear that promises enrichment, comfort, trust or the chance to make your dreams real. When you see such a chance, act on it!" Is this how I see him, the chance to have the guy of my dreams?
pascentia
22-07-2007, 21:05
I never had a fondness for simple spreads lol, but nevertheless I tried this out.
At first the 3 cards were abit confusing to me, I sort of knew what they meant but not how they linked up or why they were there, and drew clarification cards for each.
Most of the cards appeared in a reading I just did earlier, which cleared things up alot. Thanks for making me believe in this spread ^_^
Waterfaery
27-09-2007, 22:01
Great spread! The weird thing was it kept putting his card first, then mine, then the relationship. The cards that kept coming up were a little too obvious who they belonged to in this case, so it was easy to tell. In case you're wondering, I always try new spreads several times in a row to see if they will work for me. The last time, The Knight of Coins jumped right out of the deck on a shuffle, then the next shuffle, the nine of hearts jumped out, and the final shuffle, the Lovers fell from the deck. Pretty obvious I was meant to use them. Can you tell me a story with those? You're really good at that ;)!
Thanks!
Arcana XV
28-09-2007, 07:03
Just tried this and it worked beautifully. It gave much more insight, depth and clarity to the reading than my usual 3 card Relationship spread. I'll definitely be using this one from now on instead.
Just tried this spread and really prefer it to the more elaborate ones. But the many possibilities are also giving me some problems with the interpretation. Could someone give me their thoughts on this? I don't really like the look of it. :(
1: Two of Cups
2: The Tower
3: Ten of Cups
Not here, no, but if you take it down to the "Your Readings" section and share what your interpretation is of your reading people will be glad to offer their thoughts on it.
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The Enchanter
23-01-2008, 02:08
I used this for a friend and it worked really well. I kinda used it a little differently, but my way and your way works decently. thanks for sharing!
GreenMoonBeam
31-10-2008, 02:26
bump.
Tried this spread. Found it easy to read and interpret. Yeah! :thumbsup:
GMB!
What a great, simple thread, I'm going to give it a try today. Thank you!
The Enchanter
31-10-2008, 10:20
What a great, simple thread, I'm going to give it a try today. Thank you!
Cool, let me know how it works out!
itskelvinkkc
01-11-2009, 02:26
This spread is quite nice. It's very simple and easy to use, yet it can solve many problems and questions =D.
Jamie_1311
01-11-2009, 05:29
Whats awsome about this spread is it's not too many cards and it can reflect off each other for a lot of info, also I think you could easily add on.
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