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wizzle
14-04-2007, 13:03
We've had lots of threads about favorite gemstones. But how about discussing what doesn't seem to work for you and maybe why.

I can't seem to get into rose quartz no matter what I do. It just hangs there like a big "blah" for me. Apatite is also pretty iffy for me. So I just have to figure I'm not meant for the "pretty" pastel stones. I do fine with clear quartz and even very light citrine, though. I can only figure I'm too big and noisy to work really effectively with those more subtle stones. I limit my use of these colors to readings for clients who like the softer shades.

Among my least fav stones are malacite and turquoise, both found in cooper ores. And turquoise is my birthstone, but yuck!! I love the colors of these stones but they practically make me itch. I'm not all that fond of lapis either.

If there is a trend here, let me know.

Alectra
14-04-2007, 13:42
Well I can second you on the rose quartz. I am not too fond of the color and it doesn't do much for me either. I always here people rant and rave about how it is so great. I dont get that from Rose Quartz. I think alot of people suggest Rose Quartz because they dont realize that there are way better crystals/minerals used for the heart chakra. I tend to use green stones more for healing then pink.

Turquiose I have never really felt either. They have alot of it out here in the west. Its ok.. nothing special. It has a nice color, I just dont feel draw to it for healing purposes. But I do like Malachite alot... :)

A~

Sophie
14-04-2007, 16:43
I actually adore rose quartz - I've not found better for the heart chakra over the years, and I've tried. It's not the only one I use, but for me, it's the best.

But for those I don't like or don't do well with...well, many of the jaspers do nothing for me, except for dark red jasper. I have a green jasper wand, and have tried to work with it several times, but it feels like a stranger in my hand.

Malachite I like as decoration, but can't seem to work with it - so I just have it around, or give it as presents. I bought a lot of malachite in Lubumbashi, the copper capital of Congo - there they make it up as necklaces, jewellery boxes, animal figurines, etc. Really beautiful stuff. I think it works on you even if you don't work with it!

I'm not a big fan of jet, which I find dull and leadening in effect, quite different from either obsidian or black tourmaline, which I love. Turquoise always seems to me more like something so culturally-specific (both Native American and Eastern Mediterranean/Middle Eastern), that I haven't yet found a way of working with it in a way that makes sense to me, except when I was actually in the Middle East. But it makes nice jewellery ;).

Brown stones...apart from a Kalahari desert stone my shamanic teacher once leant to me, which was tremendous, I don't get on with brown stones, especially the lighter ones that look like sick.

Moonstone - funny thing about that one. Some days I like it a lot, and it helps me and I work with it very fluidly, and other days I can barely look at it, it makes me feel queasy. I suppose it's the lunatic effect ;)

I don't like nephrite, I never have. Light green jade, yes, but not that heavy nephrite.

I have a mixed record with agate. I love moss agate and blue lace agate, but I tried working with Botswana agate and it fell flat - but it looks good.

Not a big fan of chrysoprase, which some people recommend for the heart chakra. Those I've seen look like a blob of toothpaste to me, including one I have, which I've never felt drawn to work with.

On the whole, with the exception of obsidian, black tourmaline and lapis lazuli - and forest agate on a good day - I don't do as well with stones that have a solid, non-translucent colour than with those that have a translucent or glassy colour, whatever the tone and intensity of that colour is (so carnelian and fire opal I love, as I do aquamarine and amethyst).

wumpkie
14-04-2007, 17:00
Aventurine doesn't do anything for me, in any colour. I just think its monotonous. Also I find jaspers don't really work for me apart from like Fudugazi said Red jaspers and the Dalmation jasper which I use for my animals.
Apart from them I'm good to go :D

wizzle
16-04-2007, 05:04
Nephrite!!! pah.. gasp. Do NOT like that stone. I wonder why. I'd forgotten just how much I dislike it.

I think dismissing the jaspers might be premature. I've gotten a couple, notably poppy jasoper and ocean jasper, that are not in the usual brown range.

wumpkie
16-04-2007, 06:32
I think dismissing the jaspers might be premature.

I don't mean to sound dense...but what do you mean? :confused: :D

HearthCricket
16-04-2007, 06:36
I seem to be drawn mostly to the lighter coloured stones: quartz, amethyst, rose quartz, citrine, anything soft or pretty or pastel. I have a few darker stones, but they don't seem to draw me to them. My favourite is Ametrine.

When I think about it, my favourite gem/crystal stone colours also match my wardrobe!

wumpkie
16-04-2007, 06:45
When I think about it, my favourite gem/crystal stone colours also match my wardrobe!

That's a very good point: My favourites are malachite, turquoise, dioptase and ruby. So my wardrobe as my friend once said, looks like a dressing up box :D

crystalwoman
16-04-2007, 07:51
We've had lots of threads about favorite gemstones. But how about discussing what doesn't seem to work for you and maybe why.

I never wear rose quartz as jewellery, I find it's a little too blah for me, but I do recommend it to people for relieving physical pain or if someone needs to be calmed down. Out of all the stones I've worked with or used for jewellery there's only one that I've actually had real trouble with and that's ajoite, or anything that had ajoite included in it. The impression I personally get off ajoite is that it wants to be left alone in the earth. I got a couple of pieces of ajoite that I didn't get any particular impression off them when I acquired them. But then I tried meditating with them and sleeping with them and the results were horrendous. I had horrible nightmares from sleeping with them, and meditating with them gave me a nasty headache. So now I leave them alone and only defer to them when the ajoite itself calls out to me to be used for doing a healing treatment on somebody else who is experiencing traumatizing chaos. For those folks the ajoite works wonders during a treatment.

SilverCloudedWolf
21-04-2007, 21:20
What seems to be odd about my dislikes is that they are very specific (except jade, both types). I love aventurine, but blue aventurine makes me feel queasy - despite blue being my favourite colour. And I'm fine with any jasper, tiger's eye and hematite but cannot stand tiger iron.

I think it's the same as not liking every single person you meet in your life, there's bound to be some people you just don't get on with - a personality clash.

Elven
22-04-2007, 03:25
Meteorite *shudder* extremely powerful when worn close to the body *ack!!*

RedRobin
15-05-2007, 06:08
I don't actively work with Rose Quartz, and have never been drawn to it either. I do keep a heart shaped piece on my alter, though.
Rhodocrosite is my favorite for pink pastel-ish stones. Anything opalescient, yellow, purple, green or black are stones I wear alot of but not all at the same time :)
As you mentioned, turquoise and other copper ores feel "uncomfortable" perhaps is the word. I can't put my finger on why exactly either.. Just seems the the wrong vibration at this time.

Charoite is an all time favorite. If you aren't familiar "google" it. Ran across it at a local mineral shop and find it's complex and rare nature to be extremely powerful in healing and meditation.

Selenite is another great mineral I have been working with alot more lately. Excellent for grid work.
Namaste, Robin

sharpchick
15-05-2007, 08:20
It makes sense to me that I am drawn to darker stones, probably something subconscious that knows my type A, whirling dervish personality needs some grounding.

Sometimes, the lighter stones make me jittery. One reason to always keep a handle on those for me, and use them for specific intentions. Since I have started making jewelry with gemstones, I have found many people drawn to darker stones. I have to wonder if that is an after effect of our dizzying, busy world. My personal favorite combinations are jet and amber, and picasso jasper and hematite.

Briar Rose
15-05-2007, 12:29
I love them all. When I go to the gem and mineral shows, I love them all.

ravenest
15-05-2007, 12:59
Diamond.

Can't wear it anywhere on my body below eye level.
LOVE it on my 'third eye' though.

Sophie
15-05-2007, 15:33
Diamond.

Can't wear it anywhere on my body below eye level.
LOVE it on my 'third eye' though.Oh, that's alright, ravenest - you can give me any spare diamonds you have. They are a girl's best friend, I'm told, and a girl can't have too many friends :D

(casually putting out her hand for ravenest's diamonds)

wizzle
18-05-2007, 07:47
I"m glad to see I'm not the only person who doesn't like rose quartz and the copper based stones. Phew!!

Wumpkie,

Didn't mean to ignore your question about my comment on jaspers. I just haven't been on line much of late. When I said one shouldn't dismiss jaspers too quickly, I had in mind that the range of jaspers is remarkable and not well explored metaphysically, imo. Most of the info/advice seems to be focused on the more common red/earth tone jaspers. But this is a remarkable group that includes a stone I find absolutely stunning both visually and metaphysically, namely, ocean jasper. It's truly a combination of earth and water in one stone.

Another jasper I have which intrigures me is poppy jasper. I haven't worked with it much, but it seems a very happy stone. And my plain old breciated jasper is so so wonderful just to fall back on. Never needs "cleansing" or anything fancy. It's just "there" and clears me after I hold it for a moment or two. How much better does it get??

ravenest
18-05-2007, 10:02
Oh, that's alright, ravenest - you can give me any spare diamonds you have. They are a girl's best friend, I'm told, and a girl can't have too many friends :D

(casually putting out her hand for ravenest's diamonds)

No way baby!

What about that ruby ? AND the engagement?

Then you run off to S.A. and plan to marry someone else and THEN you want a diamond off me?

Some women !

wumpkie
06-09-2007, 06:54
I thought I might bring this thread back into the light.

I was looking in the gem shop, (I had an excuse my dentist is near by and I wanted to cheer myself up, as you do :D) I thought to myself I will buy myself another piece of jewellery. I looked at the amber and my word, 'ack' (to quote elven :) ) and 'keep it away' were the first things that I felt when I saw them. Luckly enough the amber jewellery is kept to a seperate section so it didn't disturb my shopping, but still, I don't like to really look at it.

Amber is supposse to boost energies and generate enthusiasm and sharpens the thinking process. I'm wondering that because I'm extremely enthusiastic, as many people, I'm sure, would love to calm me down (work colleagues :D) and my mind goes a mile a minute.
So I guess I am repelled away from the amber as I would imagine gives me an overload, hence the 'keep it away from me' syndrome

I bought a Malachite pendant in the end. A crystal a day keeps the dentist away :D

Briar Rose
06-09-2007, 08:27
Diamonds don't get me too excited. Weird for a girly girl to say.

wizzle
06-09-2007, 09:09
I got a kick out of Wumpkie's amber experience. Yup, yup... we all experience stones in our own way, eh? I'm wondering if one of the honey colored gemstones... zircon, citrine, etc.... would match her energy and work for her. I can see where amber... being very slow... might feel like a drag.

Tiger's eye also might be a great stone for a fast-paced person. It's both quick and grounding at the same time.

HeavensVault....

I too am not at all thrilled with diamonds. I vastly prefer cubic zirconia (which I believe has good metaphysical properties) as long as the CZ jewelry is in good settings. White zircon, topaz and CZ make great subtitues for diamonds both in jewelry and as healing stones imo.

Chronata
06-09-2007, 09:58
I love my rose quartz! Love it to pieces! It's so soothing...maybe because I lived 20 years in a pink room!

I am making peace with certain stones I used to dislike...like rhodochrosite, and amber, and jaspers.

Ruby and I don't get along though. I am not sure why...it makes me feel hot and irritable. I have no such problems with sapphire, or garnets (love them) but just with rubies.

And Amethyst. I know that amethyst has always been touted as a good all around stone to have.
Me and Amethyst have never really worked all that well with each other. It's like our personalities don't mesh. Especially multiple cystals pieces, and darker colors.
Gives me the worst nightmares and serious crappy dreams, or else makes me feel belligerant.

Oddly enough, I use two amethysts in my lithomancy reading set...(including one to represent joy) and I can't seem to work with it at all, when reading for myself (I always replace it...otherwise...it will shoot out of my hand while dropping or scurry under the table!)

wumpkie
06-09-2007, 17:13
I got a kick out of Wumpkie's amber experience. Yup, yup... we all experience stones in our own way, eh? I'm wondering if one of the honey colored gemstones... zircon, citrine, etc.... would match her energy and work for her. I can see where amber... being very slow... might feel like a drag.

Tiger's eye also might be a great stone for a fast-paced person. It's both quick and grounding at the same time.

Now you see I don't have a problem with citrine, it's not a favourite of mine but I'm quite happy to hold it and use it when necessary. I love Tiger's eye, I think it's because of the wonderful, almost holographic nature.

thorhammer
22-09-2007, 17:13
Labradorite. Nasty, superficial, cold, heavy rotten stuff. Makes my skin crawl like I've just been lied to by a dozen defence lawyers and politicians!

Ambivalent about rose quartz, although bought a big piece shaped like a really squat, fat wand recently and put it by my bed. It's subtle, I'll say that. Like, invisible subtle. :-)

I know this isn't for favourites, but must say I love citrine to BITS! Okay, no more raving . . .

\m/ Kat