Solitaire* said:
I find that it's usually people who are trying to test you or test the tarot to see if it's for real who want you to read without a question.
I have seen this "testing" of the cards and I hate it. In retrospect I shouldn't have even done the readings but that's family pressure for you. The two of them wanted to see how the cards "worked."
It's like the cards became circus animals and they want the animals to not just be animals but to perform tricks for them.
The first person, Mary*, tuned out after the second card. I think she expected flames or sparks to come out of the deck and she was very disappointed that it didn't happen. What really sucked is that deck we were using was the deck I had just bought for her as a gift. While at the bookstore she had seen this deck and wanted it. (She hadn't owned a deck before.) So I bought it for her as her birthday present.
For the second person, Jennifer*, I didn't even get to finish the reading, if you want to even call it that. By the second card she got cold and defensive. She didn't want to communicate... it was like she wanted to hear that she was going to win the lottery or something like that. Jennifer* didn't want it to be about tangible or "real" matters. By the third card she abruptly turned around and started talking to someone else and basically blew me off. It was a five card spread. She actually then said to me later when I asked her if she wanted to finish the reading, "Why don't you just write down the cards and Mary* can tell me what they mean later?"
*Names have been changed to protect the innocent/guilty.
Solitaire* said:
People think you're not a "real" reader sometimes if you don't do cold readings and you ask for background information. I tell them "I read tarot. I don't read minds."
Exactly! It seems that a lot of people want to be lazy and uninvolved. They want someone to just tell them the answers...as long as it something they want to hear
At work I'll have people stand right next to the large sign which state the hours that the store is open. Then when they ask "What are your hours?" I point to the sign and say, "The store hours are posted here on this sign." I say this because the hours vary on different days and even if I mention them all no one ever remembers all of that or they walk away before I finish.
Then, without even looking at the sign, they sigh and ask again. "Well, what time do you close today?" If the time I tell them is not agreeable to them then they actually make a big production out of reading the sign (in the hopes that I am wrong or lying to them) and then say, "Why? On the sign it says that you are open until xx time on Tuesday."
Which I then counter with "Yes, we are. But on Saturday we close at xx time." Then, they ask "Why?" again to which I say, "Because those are the store hours. They are posted on the sign."
The danger with asking a question is getting an answer you don't like. Maybe that's why some clients don't want to ask a question of Tarot in the first place.