PentQueen
So I haven't been reading very long, but much of my friends and family have allowed me to wow them with my skills. Most of them (nearly all I would think actually) were skeptics open to being amused and ended up walking away amazed.
However, this weekend I hung out with one of my good girlfriends--actually the first person to ever forward me a reader's number. I never did go to see her psychic (bumping into another shortly after that), but it had always appeared that this friend was open to the new-agey practices. She even goes to psychic fairs quite regularily.
Anyway, the subject of reading came up, and she was talking about how she would likely go and get a reading in the near future regarding some troubling family stuff. At that point, I suggested that I could give her a reading if she wanted. But she responded oddly, changing her tone and saying "Oh I don't want to know, actually. I had a reader tell me my grandma would die and it didn't happen until years later. I just worried uncessesarily for too long about it." I responded by telling her that my style of reading is more laid-back/not that predictive, and would moreso give her a look at the deeper energies at work within the current situation and to give counsel for the future. At this point, she became very defensive and said: "yes, but you can't just go pushing this sort of thing on people when they don't want it!". I was pretty shocked and really didn't know what to say at this point, as I felt that I was merely offering a service that she was looking for in the first place. I never would have offered if I didn't think she was interested in it. It was very strange.
Anyway, it made for a slightly awkward moment. I obviously chose to respect her emotions regarding the subject and didn't say another word about it, but I felt that her reaction was unwarranted and it moreso worried me that she may have adopted some unrealistic viewpoints of Tarot reading. I can't say I wasn't temped to give my views to defend Tarot, but I kept mum on the subject to respect her sensitivity to the conversation. Perhaps she just didn't want me to know what was going on in her life--but I would have rather her have explained this instead.
I'm no stranger to being told to keep my spiritual views to myself. My bf used to erupt in anger at the talk of anything having to do with predicting the future--he would probably die if he knew that I had cards of my own (horrors!).
I remember another instance where I was performing in a show, and was entertaining the cast with my knowledge of astrology, when one of the makeup artists, (who just happend to be a studying scientist as well--oops!) surprisingly exploded during the fun conversation the cast was having and rather than finish my makeup, decided to give me a 45 minute lecture about the ridiculousness of astrology. Thankfully, the anger propelled my performance that night--lol.
And then there are the skpetics who turn around. My dad once said he would go to see my fortune teller just to prove her wrong (needless to say, i didn't give him her number). But he's just one of the many who have been amazed by my readings, and now seems to really respect the tool.
Anyway, I thought I'd share this topic and find out others' thoughts about this sensitivity/ettiquette to Tarot. I never bring it up unless with close friends and family, and I must say, I am most shocked that my friend objected to it, when she usually appears so open to it--more than anyone else I know! When she showed a fear toward being read, it made me think that she might not be as knowledgeable as she likes to appear. But I guess I now know not to bring it up again.
It just bothers me that people take it so seriously/superstitously. It seems wierd to me...I dunno. Any thoughts on this?
However, this weekend I hung out with one of my good girlfriends--actually the first person to ever forward me a reader's number. I never did go to see her psychic (bumping into another shortly after that), but it had always appeared that this friend was open to the new-agey practices. She even goes to psychic fairs quite regularily.
Anyway, the subject of reading came up, and she was talking about how she would likely go and get a reading in the near future regarding some troubling family stuff. At that point, I suggested that I could give her a reading if she wanted. But she responded oddly, changing her tone and saying "Oh I don't want to know, actually. I had a reader tell me my grandma would die and it didn't happen until years later. I just worried uncessesarily for too long about it." I responded by telling her that my style of reading is more laid-back/not that predictive, and would moreso give her a look at the deeper energies at work within the current situation and to give counsel for the future. At this point, she became very defensive and said: "yes, but you can't just go pushing this sort of thing on people when they don't want it!". I was pretty shocked and really didn't know what to say at this point, as I felt that I was merely offering a service that she was looking for in the first place. I never would have offered if I didn't think she was interested in it. It was very strange.
Anyway, it made for a slightly awkward moment. I obviously chose to respect her emotions regarding the subject and didn't say another word about it, but I felt that her reaction was unwarranted and it moreso worried me that she may have adopted some unrealistic viewpoints of Tarot reading. I can't say I wasn't temped to give my views to defend Tarot, but I kept mum on the subject to respect her sensitivity to the conversation. Perhaps she just didn't want me to know what was going on in her life--but I would have rather her have explained this instead.
I'm no stranger to being told to keep my spiritual views to myself. My bf used to erupt in anger at the talk of anything having to do with predicting the future--he would probably die if he knew that I had cards of my own (horrors!).
I remember another instance where I was performing in a show, and was entertaining the cast with my knowledge of astrology, when one of the makeup artists, (who just happend to be a studying scientist as well--oops!) surprisingly exploded during the fun conversation the cast was having and rather than finish my makeup, decided to give me a 45 minute lecture about the ridiculousness of astrology. Thankfully, the anger propelled my performance that night--lol.
And then there are the skpetics who turn around. My dad once said he would go to see my fortune teller just to prove her wrong (needless to say, i didn't give him her number). But he's just one of the many who have been amazed by my readings, and now seems to really respect the tool.
Anyway, I thought I'd share this topic and find out others' thoughts about this sensitivity/ettiquette to Tarot. I never bring it up unless with close friends and family, and I must say, I am most shocked that my friend objected to it, when she usually appears so open to it--more than anyone else I know! When she showed a fear toward being read, it made me think that she might not be as knowledgeable as she likes to appear. But I guess I now know not to bring it up again.
It just bothers me that people take it so seriously/superstitously. It seems wierd to me...I dunno. Any thoughts on this?