Sinduction
So I ordered this book on communicating with the dead. I got it just for fun, to see what it had to say.
My problem is this, there is a section of the book where they talk about cold readings from mediums. It goes on to say that cold readers will ask questions like, "Does this make sense?" "Do you know what that means?" and "Do you understand this?"
While I realize that this is just *one* of the many ways people cold read, I have to say that I use these phrases a lot when I read for my sitters. This got me thinking.
Why do I use these phrases? I began to freak out a little bit, thinking maybe I do not have any abilities and I'm just cold reading. But I don't even know how to do that.
Now, as I'm still pondering what I've read, I never ask my sitters to elaborate. If I ask if something makes sense to them and they say yes, I simply move on to the next card. In fact, once my sitter sits down the first thing I tell them is to only answer yes or no and to not give me any info I don't ask for. Which is really great for those sitters that will talk your ear off! For most people, I never know what the issue is, I simply relay what I get from the cards. One of my friends was quite impressed by the fact that I never knew what the situation was and I still gave her an accurate reading.
Perhaps this is all in my head. I sincerely care for my sitters and want to help them. I thought I asked these types of questions to make sure they understand the messages I'm relaying and also to make sure I'm accurately applying it to their situation. I've never thought about their body language and such things that cold readers notice. But now I'm beginning to wonder.
I'd really like to hear (or read) what you have to say about this. Not about me specifically but do we generally cold read? How do we know we are not?
My problem is this, there is a section of the book where they talk about cold readings from mediums. It goes on to say that cold readers will ask questions like, "Does this make sense?" "Do you know what that means?" and "Do you understand this?"
While I realize that this is just *one* of the many ways people cold read, I have to say that I use these phrases a lot when I read for my sitters. This got me thinking.
Why do I use these phrases? I began to freak out a little bit, thinking maybe I do not have any abilities and I'm just cold reading. But I don't even know how to do that.
Now, as I'm still pondering what I've read, I never ask my sitters to elaborate. If I ask if something makes sense to them and they say yes, I simply move on to the next card. In fact, once my sitter sits down the first thing I tell them is to only answer yes or no and to not give me any info I don't ask for. Which is really great for those sitters that will talk your ear off! For most people, I never know what the issue is, I simply relay what I get from the cards. One of my friends was quite impressed by the fact that I never knew what the situation was and I still gave her an accurate reading.
Perhaps this is all in my head. I sincerely care for my sitters and want to help them. I thought I asked these types of questions to make sure they understand the messages I'm relaying and also to make sure I'm accurately applying it to their situation. I've never thought about their body language and such things that cold readers notice. But now I'm beginning to wonder.
I'd really like to hear (or read) what you have to say about this. Not about me specifically but do we generally cold read? How do we know we are not?