My friend won't let my buy a Tarot deck because she says I can't buy it for myself! Is this tr

Thread originally posted on the Aeclectic Tarot Forum on 30 Jan 2002, and now archived in the Forum Library.

ashleigh	30 Jan 2002
I'd really, really love to have my own Tarot deck. I dunno, there's just this vibe I get from this Mystic Tarot deck... like my whole body is tingling in readiness to pick it up, to learn how... if I don't get it soon, it's going to drive me crazy! Unfortunately my friends tell me that I cannot buy a deck, someone else MUST buy one for me, or I will be cursed. It just doesn't make sense to me, and I haven't found any information anywhere that says I can't, so I'd just like to know if it's true.

Jimilyn	30 Jan 2002
Hello, ashleigh! Welcome to aeclectic! I'm so glad that you've found us here. Please make yourself at home...stop by the snack table and find a comfy seat in the reading area. I'll bring your favorite drink shortly. We've lots of different forums, so be sure and check them all out when choosing your favorites. Regarding your question. I have heard the saying that someone else must give you your first deck. I have also heard that this is most likely an old out-dated carry over from a previous time. As you will soon discover, there are not absolutes in Tarot. There is nothing at all to prevent you from purchasing your own deck. In fact, many of us would still be without a deck if we had to wait for someone to give it to us! ;oD However, if someone feels strongly that they should *not* purchase their own first deck, then that person should *not* do so. Go with what feels right to you. When learning Tarot, you will be relying quite often on that intuition/inner knowing. You said that not buying your own deck for fear of being cursed didn't make sense to you and that you saw no reason not to buy your own deck. So....Go For It! :o) There's some great forums here with wonderful people of all experience levels. I hope you learn as much here as I have. I look forward to seeing you around the forums. Let us know how it goes with getting your first deck! :o) Catcha later, Jimilyn

Major Tom	31 Jan 2002
Welcome to the community. :-) I certainly wouldn't have a tarot deck unless I'd bought one for myself. Tell your friends that just because they don't understand and are afraid doesn't mean that you have to be. Buy yourself a tarot deck. Then you can come back here and ask all your questions. :-) Please feel free to learn, share, but most of all, enjoy.

melikka	31 Jan 2002
dear ashley, the only thing I can say on this is follow your inner feeling. since tarot decks are here for our personal evolvement, and seeing that only you know yourself the way you do, follow your feeling and choose a deck that you feel you relate to. I bought my first tarot deck together with my husband 4 and a half years ago and we both have learned so much about ourselves (and each other) that I think it's a great way to learn about yourself (isn't that the reason why we are here on earth?) good luck and don't be held back by what anyone tells you.

blue	31 Jan 2002
Hogwash! There are some things in life that won't get done if you wait for someone else to do them for you. Tarot is a life long journey. Don't relay on someone else to start it. No one has ever bought me a tarot deck and I have a box full of them. I haven't suffered any ill effects from my self-indulgence.

Pollux	01 Feb 2002
1) WELL, don't give a damn about people telling you it's a sin. If YOU feel it as a sin, then it's ok with you too! :) 2) I know the stuff of the "gift" myself, and tell you what happened. I thought of it as a stupid thing, so bought a Rider-Waite for myself. But, belonging to a Christian, Agricultural community ("new" things are always looked at with suspicion, especially if they go against religion, her... THAT religion! And, even though you're tolerated, you hardly are accepted ever... :( ) it weasn't easy to carry on. Not really because people around would bug me, but because they almost convinced me it was something "a bit bad", let's say. In addition, Mama seemed to suffer for this. So I decided I wouldn't have "expanded" till someone didn't make me understand I was accepted (with Tarot-cards in the package, of course! ;p). I am not saying "quit", I thought I might have sticked to my deck, I wouldn't have made this public, and I would have kept that to myslef, till it wasn't less "disturbing" for others too (my family, I mean, not the whole COUNTRY! :D). I wouldn't have bought other decks, books and the rest of it - at least as long as I had been living under my parents roof! Well, to sum up, as if I wanted to wait till I was given a deck, instead of buying it. Almost as the story of the curse. This situation, after 2 weeks, was released all the same. A faraway uncle gave me a Tarot-deck for Xmas (the Tarocchi Celtici I've posted about). It was unexpected and so GREAT! I thought I could have dismissed my proposal (it only lasted 2 weeks :), as that was a proof of my being accepted together with my Tarot decks welling out of the shirt :) . I want to think of it as a sign of destiny, an "award" for my "temperance" in my proposal. Yesterday, after one month from the whole stuff (I was so busy, and still AM, for the EXAMS! ARGHHH!!!) I ordered Gill ad Aquarian at Alida! :) :D

tarotbear	11 Feb 2002
Tell your friends that you can't buy any tarot decks for yourself and THEY have to buy them for you instead! See how fast they change their minds!

Kitty	11 Feb 2002
I think that if you feel an attraction to the pack get it for yourself. I don't think there is any particular rule about how you actually get your first pack.

piccolo	06 Mar 2002
Hi Ashley, I heard too the myth that one should always get their first Tarot deck as a gift. I think that's a charming idea. But it didn't stop me from buying my own! My partner bought me the 'lovers tarot deck' for Valentines day. It's very special, partly because he's a serious agnostic, and is so not interested. But he knows I am.. sweet huh. now THAT's charming... go for it I say! ____________ don't just be good, be good FOR something...Edgar Cayce

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