Don't you HATE when........

Thread originally posted on the Aeclectic Tarot Forum on 24 Apr 2002, and now archived in the Forum Library.

jakyle	24 Apr 2002
Today I was doing a Tarot reading for someone, and she wanted to know if a certain relationship with a guy would work itself out.Not just a few cards were saying it wasn't going to work out,but almost all of the cards were saying "no way in Hell" was this going to work out.She had the 5 of cups, 10 of swords, The Devil,5 of pentacles,and The Empress card in reverse. Those were just the ones that I remember off hand.(Celtic Cross spread).Of course she didn't want to believe what the cards were trying to say, and then got upset and tried to analyze them herself. She thought that since The Devil card came up, that she was dealing with Satan picking out her spread. Needless to say, I told her that she was the one doing the shuffling. Then she started to get really upset,and I ended the reading right then. I have had this happen before with other "clients",who will not like to here the answers to their question if it is negative.I basically don't want to hurt their feelings,and do try my best to smooth around the edges when something negative comes up.Any other stories similar to this one? Would love to hear a good laugh.Karma is Justice.

destinyawaitsme	24 Apr 2002
hehe...Oh the Memories! I remember when I first got started in tarot I was quite on the other side of your story. (In a bad relationship, friends that read cards telling me to get the hell out of there, and me refusing to listen) I figured..hey, anyone can change their future right? Well yes...but sometimes let's face it, we just are prolonging the inevitable. I ended up getting myself in deeper crap because I was too hell bent on being with this person. It was a valuable lesson...sometimes I'm glad I had to go through it to learn..sometiems I want to slap myself in the face. But I have also had your same problem. Particularly with my roomate. She has been dating this same guy since junior high (now in college). The two of them don't get alogn and her boyfriend is verbally and emotionally abusive. (They cheat on each other all the time) She asks for readigns and I am honest with her..that's my job...I'm the messenger. I tell her the obvioius...but she dodges all of it...starts to claim that she isn't upset about her relationship...it's all this studying she has to do...well, she has a point, but I see the tears..I hear the slamming doors and the distressed phone conversations. So, I learned my lesson...it's none of my business...I did what I could, she doesn't want to listen. The rest is up to her. She will learn someday...whether it's tomorrow, when she's 40, or when she's dead...who knows?

truthsayer	24 Apr 2002
everytime i read for my mother, the cards say the same things--stand up for yourself and your rights and things will get better. but if nothing changes then things will stay the same and some days be worse. seek balance. she is a libra. even tho she is good at seeing 2 sides to a story b/t others she can't see the lack of balance when it's closer to home. she bought a deck for herself and got the same things i was! what will it take for some ppl to listen to themselves? i should quit even trying w/ her since i know what the cards are likely to say. no need to make things sound better than they are. \o/

kayne	24 Apr 2002
Quote: Originally posted by jakyle she wanted to know if a certain relationship with a guy would work itself out. You know... for her to ask that question she probably had a pretty good idea it was not going to work out - probably everyone had been saying it! Perhaps to see this reflected back in the cards as well was just too much! Hey, you have to say it as it is and if the quarent can't handle it then that's life. You can't be all sweetness and light if the cards just don't show that!

Liliana	24 Apr 2002
You know, I think some people get readings not for advice, but to rehear what they already know but dont want to admit, giving them an excuse toventonthe tarot reader, and in the long run feeling better, so you did your job the rest is up to her :THP

Umbrae	24 Apr 2002
What a wonderful story, I am glad you shared it. Each of us as readers face a difficult task. Sitter’s have difficulty in allowing themselves to picture their life in a new light. Miserable people can only picture continued misery. Their lives are filled with blame and victimhood (hey, I just invented that word, I like the way it rolls off the tongue). Change? They are comfortable in their misery, change would be painful. Often, you can tell what a person wants to hear by how they dress, act, shuffle, and talk. I use a selection of decks. When in doubt, use a gentle deck. (I have mentioned this before) The Olde English deck is perfect for this use. Nice pastels, a cute death, and devil… It makes it easier to word your reading in a more positive light when the ‘bad cards’ (tee hee hee) are ‘cute’. Also, I like to begin each reading by asking the question of the sitter, “Do you want me to tell you the truth, or do you want to hear only the good things…” Nobody ever says, “Just tell me the good…” Then they have little recourse when you tell the truth (which you should always do).

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