Its tough times..

Thread originally posted on the Aeclectic Tarot Forum on 23 Apr 2002, and now archived in the Forum Library.

Menmay	23 Apr 2002
Im a college student and my fiance just moved in with me a few weeks ago. Times are hard and its tough paying bills and the rent!!!! This month I have to ask my mom for help...and she has helped me so much ever since I left home. The point is I dont want to rely on my mom, I want to show her that my fiance and I can pull threw this. Well your asking yourself what does this have to do with tarot right. Well ever since things have been getting rough I have this overwelming feeling to ask my cards what to do. But I feel strongly about my positon so Im afraid my reading wont come out properly!!!! Can anyone out there please help me!!!! Thank you so much. Menmay

amyel	23 Apr 2002
If your cards are calling to you, maybe it means they have a message to tell you. Why are you so certain the message will be something you don't want to hear? Isn't it remotely possible that the cards might be able to help you see a way to lead you out of your rough patch? Remember: the cards aren't going to tell you what you *must* do. Ultimately, you still have free will. Try not asking the cards "what to do" but instead ask for guidence on how to make it better or what life lesson you are meant to be learning from all this. Finances are often tight as a college student. Is *this* why you are in a rough patch? Or is it possibly that classes are hard with finals exams coming up & term papers due? Or that even you are still adjusting to living with your fiance (it's not always a bed of roses, ya know!!! I've been married 4 years & I'm still adjusting!!!!)? Or even all of the above? Be brave!

lunalafey	23 Apr 2002
I agree amyel, if your feel the need to read, then do it. Find a moment when you can relax, put all the worries aside, and go for it. Yes, asking for guidance is the best approach. The reading will come out properly, how you use the info is the key. My question is, what about your fiances family ? Can't they help ? Where you having a tough time paying the bills before, and is that why you two decided to live together ? Is he a student too ?

Rhiannon	23 Apr 2002
(((hugs))) Sometimes I get an overwhelming feeling that I have to do a reading. Not necessarily anything bad going on, but the cards will "call" to me. I just won't be able to stop thinking about them! When that happens I just ask "What do you need to tell me?" Go ahead and do your reading. You may gain helpful insight. Don't be afraid of what the cards are trying to say. Besides, if you need help after, you can always ask! Rhiannon :)

Andryh	23 Apr 2002
I think you are right in thinking that your strong emotions will affect your own readings. My recommendation in this situation is that you find a reputable reader (not Miss Cleo or the like!) to consult. I know if I'm too emotionally involved regarding something, I can't effectively read for myself.

MeeWah	23 Apr 2002
Menmay: It is difficult to focus when the attention is scattered by concerns. A preparation ritual assists greatly in setting the proper frame of mind & emotions to be receptive. Before attempting a throw, have the cards ready, with paper & pen to write any thoughts on the throw. Decide what kind of spread you will use. One with fewer cards may assist in a better focus as there would be less to contend with; or make up a spread, from between 3 to 4 cards. I think there is a thread posted by Lee on favorite spreads in one of the Tarot forums, possibly this one (sorry, I forget exactly where). You might take a look at it for ideas if you have need a spread. Sit in a comfortable position, with both feet flat on the floor. Say a prayer to your Inner Self or whatever deity you relate to for guidance. Be expectant that such guidance is forthcoming, thank in advance. Take about 3 deep cleansing breaths & empty the lungs out in turn. Center the inner core by imagining the self imbued with Light from a star above, flowing down from the top of the head, down the spine & then back up the same way, about 3 times. Then ground the self by imagining roots growing from the bottom of the feet, extending to the ground or to the center of the Earth. Imagine receiving grounding energy from Earth's center. It helps to balance the Light energy from the star. Grounding also helps "anchor" the being. Surround the self with the protection of Light. Feel the Peace & Comfort that passes understanding envelope you. Once in that quiet space, reflect on the needs. Then attempt a throw, leisurely. There is no need to rush. Any question important enough for guidance deserves to be treated with respect. More to the point, treat the self with respect. Proceed with the throw as you would usually do, making sure to shuffle or mix throughly the cards. Then choose the cards & lay them out. Look at them one by one. Note any thoughts that come to mind. For the time being, it is not necessary to interpret each card, but getting a general impression will do. If you have trouble with it or want another opinion, post the throw on Your Readings. Some of us will respond. Hope the foregoing helps, & best wishes!

Menmay	24 Apr 2002
my mom is a single parent and she has to take care of my younger sister. If I were to ask for help of course she would, but she has to take care of her bills first. As for my fiance he is a student also. I didnt have trouble paying the bills before. Its just that my mom told me that she would give him a month to get a job and support me. Hes gotten a job but hes only had it for about three weeks and the rent is due next week!! I just feel ashamed about asking my mom for help I dont want her to worry about me anymore. I want to show her that we both did what we said we would. Thank you so much for helping me out of this mess I will ask my cards why they have been calling me. Menmay

Mystick Dragon	24 Apr 2002
I used toget that, where my cards all but screamed at me to be read. If I didn't comply, I couldn't sleep, I couldn't concentrate because there was this nagging feeling to read. So, I would lock my door, put on some soft music, maybe light some incense and read. Because I use Dragons, they are very domineering, and help me with the reading. They play with the deck if I don't read. Try reading, then post it if you need help and we''ll help you! --Dragon

Original Destiny	24 Apr 2002
Hi Menmay..i am also a student at the age of 51..ive taken redundancy and have gone back to college for a year to study...cash is short for me as well...My cards also call , especially when i am under pressure. I don't often need to do a reading ..just enjoying them is often enough...i feel their support..I guess i have invested a lot of ME in my cards and they are wanting attention...wanting to be united with me when i am having difficulties...Bit crazy i know...:tfool

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