Have you ever fudged a reading?
Thread originally posted on the Aeclectic Tarot Forum on 13 Jul 2002, and now archived in the Forum Library.
| divinerguy |
13 Jul 2002 |
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You're doing a reading for a friend or family member, and its going well, and then, "Kaboom," a truly nasty card comes up.
What do you do do? Do you call it like you see it?
Or maybe, you avoid saying what's on your mind, to avoid telling someone uncomfortable news?
Be honest now. What do you do?
Divinerguy
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| amyel |
13 Jul 2002 |
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I have read for friends and colleagues...rarely my family because of distance...and well, I find a way to "couch" the news in a softer way.
Here is a real life example: Last Nov. I was reading for a colleague and the spread clearly said "your relationship with your long time partner is ending, you've been thinking about it for quite some time, and you are moving to get away from this man." Did I say this? No, I did not. It's funny, perhaps because it was a reading for a colleague who I really didn't know well on a personal level (at the time, we've since forged a very close perosnal bond - because of this reading, oddly enough!), I was afraid she would take offense and/or think less of me if none of it came to pass - even though I believe the cards are not absolutes, often querents are looking for more decisive readings.
BUT: the cards were dead on. I just didn't know it. My colleague later said I must have had some voice whispering in my ear what was really going on in her life. I can't remember what exactly I said - something about possibly a new house and some tough decisions regarding her relationship - but when things got really bad for her at the end of the relationship, she turned to me and 'fessed all.
She recently asked if I saw it all so clearly in the cards - I'd never told her I had - and asked that next time, I don't hold back. Oddly, this has done more to helped strengthen my faith in myself and my intrepretations.
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| HOLMES |
13 Jul 2002 |
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an tarot reader has to be full of light,, and detached at the same time.
allow me to explain what i mean.
i was reading for some people and they broke down in front of me.
and there was .. an attraction between us as there was some flirting.
so what i did was detached myself and went all spocklike on them.
i came from the universal mind. and sent love yet kept it at a differnt level then what it could of turn.
and i read for family and because i am not detached. i either can' read nothing and i mean nothing no energy , i try to read by the book meanings even and it was like reading with my veil on my psychic eye.
or it gets alll too deep and i hear this and that and my cousin is sitting in front of me and i dont' want to destroy her and i tell her the light truths, not halfs truths, but not the deep truth for there is a reason for some reason when my family comes to me for a rea ding they come with their brother or my uncle and i don'twant to t ell their secrets openly.
then i kind of wait or thm to be alone and i say to the effect oh yeah remember when i said this ? it means this i get the feeling.
if it is really inportant like the feeling is really strong i ask them if i can speak to them outisde.
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| MeeWah |
13 Jul 2002 |
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Divinerguy: Depending on what I see, I express it in terms of possibilities, a wake-up call/warning &/or suggest an approach. I prefer to avoid unduly alarming the querent, but sometimes it cannot be helped & may even be helpful.
The following is an example. I had some very bad moments because I sensed an immediacy to the throw & I was not sure how it would all wash. Fortunately, things worked out very well.
During a cold reading for a young woman, I saw a car & a young man as primary areas of concern. I do not recall what cards were involved, but amongst other things, I saw an accident waiting to happen. It was not clear if the car was hers or someone else's, but there was car trouble on the horizon & a young man who drank. She & the young man had a solid relationship.
I told her that there was a car she used or was a passenger in that needed to be serviced properly to avoid problems on the road. I suggested that another used car might be better in the long run than sinking more money into this car. It was important to keep the attention on the driving only; no talking on the phone or otherwise being distracted. & definitely no drinking & driving!! The young man seemed to be her boyfriend. Of the two, she was the more responsible & stable but often deferred to him. I felt uneasy about him & asked if she knew where he was.
She told me she has a car that her boyfriend also used, & that he was using it that day. He had gone off somewhere with another friend since she had plans with friends. She was worried because she had not heard from him & it was now evening. She was unable to reach him on his cell phone. The car had not been running well & they had been too busy to take it to a shop. Her boyfriend sometimes drinks too much. She was in the habit of talking on her cell phone whilst she drove. She became increasingly agitated over her boyfriend's whereabouts & I was concerned as well, but I told her there could be a reasonable explanation for his delay & to please let me know.
Subseqently, I found out that she did reach her boyfriend, whose cell phone had been turned off. He & his friend hung out at a bar. On the way home, the car broke down & needed to be towed. They had to wait for another friend to pick them up. The car needed a new engine. They could not afford to buy another car.
Since a new engine was the less costly solution, they had a rebuilt engine installed. The boyfriend personally expressed his appreciation for what I told his girlfriend, who said they will be more careful now.
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| the hermit |
14 Jul 2002 |
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Originally posted by MeeWah
Divinerguy: Depending on what I see, I express it in terms of possibilities, a wake-up call/warning &/or suggest an approach. I prefer to avoid unduly alarming the querent, but sometimes it cannot be helped & may even be helpful.
MeeWah:
Excellent answer. Your example showed how your interpretation was correct, but in this case, your deeper concerns were deflected by the eventual proper actions on the part of the parties involved.
I always try to stress ahead of time that the Tarot shows possibilities and paths, that the future is a mutable, variable stream of branches and intersections. And during the reading, if one of the more ominous cards appears, I try to reiterate my advice concerning paths and possibilities.
But sometimes you just have to come out and say that you feel the correct interpretation of the spread implies an unpleasant occurrence in the very near future. You can offer warnings and suggest approaches, but you can’t always tell the querent what they want to hear.
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| mondk |
14 Jul 2002 |
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Mee-Wah: Okay, I just got chills reading your post. I just did a reading a couple of months ago for someone that involved the same situation: a car, drinking, and an accident waiting to happen. As this reading was for a relative, I was reluctant to tell her what I saw but went ahead and did so. Nothing has come of the reading but she says she took the necessary steps to prevent what I saw from happening....so I think it is important to tell the querent everything even if its bad, because they always have the power to change it in some way.
(Although I know just how you feel too!)
Blessings, M.
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| Starfish |
14 Jul 2002 |
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I also got goosebumps while reading MeeWah's post. Although this hasn't happened to me yet, I feel I wouldn't want to scare the querent. It would depend on what I see in the spread.
:T7W Starfish
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| Sam |
14 Jul 2002 |
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yeah... the death card came up in a reading for my dad and i; i; i lied to him about it! ok! i said it!
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| Vespertine |
18 Jul 2002 |
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Bleh...I just fudged an online reading for one of my friends.
It was horrible...I think what the biggest problem was was that she doesn't know very much about tarot, so she kept asking me super specific questions about each card. Like, if I were to draw a card that said the she needs to protect her relationship with her boyfriend, she'd ask me who the dirty girl is that's trying to break them up.
*sigh *
It was horrible.
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