Difficult Questions

Thread originally posted on the Aeclectic Tarot Forum on 27 Oct 2002, and now archived in the Forum Library.

mirja crimson	27 Oct 2002
I have someone whom I have talked to extensively and he wants to know if there will be cheating, lying, etc. in the future of his new relationship. Now, his new relationship is with my sister, so... right off the bat I can't say just based on his concern that there might be some. I did a three card present, near future, distant future, spread for them and although they agreed with what I took the cards to mean, they want to know more specifically what will happen. I know a technique where you shuffle the deck and pick out the cards next to the original card... any suggestions on spread?

Umbrae	27 Oct 2002
A spread is a spread is a spread. Trust the three-card spread and focus on the question. Also remember that folks who don’t trust others, have underlying issues that need to be addressed…things bubbling below the surface, that need to brought up and examined in the sunlight. If he is worried about your sister, look at him and his behavior – that may drive your sister to the behavior that he fears most.

faunabay	27 Oct 2002
I agree with Umbrae. Focus on what the intial spread told them and if they continue to worry about the lying, cheating, etc. I think there are other problems that need to be addressed -- specifically trust issues!! :) I believe that what you focus your thoughts on is what you get in life. Sooooo if they're focused on watching for lying and cheating that's what they'll get. But if they both calm down and focus on trusting each other I think it'd work out much better. Just my two cents worth. :)

mirja crimson	27 Oct 2002
You know, all this adivce is very true. I do think that the guy asking me to examine more closely is afraid to trust or something. I think I'll direct my sister to this thread to she can read it and see what she thinks.

Teranar	27 Oct 2002
Well, to be perfectly honest I don't think your a impartial reader who could be a fair judge of the situation because you're sister's involved, meaning you have a vested interest in the situation. My suggestion would be to get someone else to read the situation, prefabably someone who doesn't know you or your sister at all so the answer is as honest and untainted as possible.

Fuzzmello	27 Oct 2002
Yeah, I agree with all the above. The cards are always correct, regardless of the spread. It's probably a pretty good idea to get someone else do a reading. I'm not trying to be a wiseguy but I can't help asking. And I'm sorry if it's offensive... :) Why is this guy even thinking of getting into a relationship if he can't trust? Maybe he needs to just date her casually for a while until he knows how he feels or something. Fuzz

Kiama	28 Oct 2002
Quote: Originally posted by Teranar Well, to be perfectly honest I don't think your a impartial reader who could be a fair judge of the situation because you're sister's involved, meaning you have a vested interest in the situation. My suggestion would be to get someone else to read the situation, prefabably someone who doesn't know you or your sister at all so the answer is as honest and untainted as possible. I second this. I have been put in this situation alot before, or even worse, when I have come up in the reading, and I've had to tell the person, who is usually a close friend, about it... It gets embarrassing or tricky, esp. when it comes to love interests, etc... Why not hand the cards to your sister's bofriend and get HIM to read for himself. Simply tell him, when interpreting, to trust what comes to his head first, and say what he sees in the pictures... This works for me. Kiama

Keslynn	28 Oct 2002
In this case, I wouldn't do a reading, nor would I recommend that someone else do it (though I did like Kiama's suggestion that he do it himself). He's got a serious trust issue, and he needs to talk to your sister. I agree that maybe they need to casually date so he can work this thing out before they get too serious. Also, your sister might want to reconsider dating a guy who would want to ask this kind of question at the outset of a relationship. :) Kes

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