readings for family

Thread originally posted on the Aeclectic Tarot Forum on 17 Feb 2003, and now archived in the Forum Library.

cheekyminx	17 Feb 2003
On occasion my sister does readings for me & I've been know to do a few for her & my mother. Is it okay to read for family members? My sisters been accurate so far, but she's said to me that one shouldn't really read for their family members??

RedWood	17 Feb 2003
My take is..If you are comfortable go for it..I will not read for my mom because I am too close..so I feel to biased to give an accurate reading.

lupo138	18 Feb 2003
to a sister or brother I think it could work. But I wouldn´t give a reading to other family members as well, as there would be too many prejudices.

Kiama	18 Feb 2003
I wouldn't for my parents simply because htey aren't interested, however I did have a reading from my 11 year old sister, which was very good! She saw engagement for me and my boyfriend, which was correct, though we had not yet told her that! I wouldn't mind giving family members readings at all, as ling as they weren't having the reading simply to 'test' me. Kiama

Karenwhe	18 Feb 2003
I have wonderful memories with family readings as both my mother and my grandmother read.... From the age of 15 until the age of 19 when I left home, my mother and I had a tradition……… we used to do a reading exchange every Saturday morning, it became a tradition. This is how I learnt to read. My sister does not read because at the time she was too young (10 years old) and later in life my mom didn't have the patience to teach anymore as she got older. After I moved out we used to make special reading days to keep the tradition. Today we don't live in the same country and I miss that a lot. From my grandmother I learnt to read in mud coffee and we also used to do that a lot, it was great fun. Of course I read for all family members that ask, but these were the highlights of my reading life with family. So, I don't see why not.

angelwhispers	18 Feb 2003
Quote: Originally posted by cheekyminx76 Is it okay to read for family members? My sisters been accurate so far, but she's said to me that one shouldn't really read for their family members?? I don't read for my mom because she asked that I don't which is fine. I did several readings for a cousin once, we don't speak now because of it, I was gentle with what I told her the cards said but it wasn't what she wanted to hear. So be careful when reading for family.

Mimers	18 Feb 2003
My family is the only people I have read for besides myself. I love reading for my family. As a matter of fact, my Mom is very excited about it. I have also done readings for my little girl and have let her do readings for me. My Aunt has been reading since I was a little girl, and I always felt drawn to it. This past Christmas she came to visit and I was so nervous about reading for her that I drew a complete blank. Oh, my goodness. I was so worried that I would mess it up that I did. The wonderful thing about it is that she just chuckled and told me to not worry about it. She then told me stories of time when she had the same thing happen. Family can be very understanding, and they know I am still learning. Hopefully when I see my Aunt again, it will be different.

Eviemay	18 Feb 2003
The only reason i can understand for not reading for family members is that your personal view on their circumstances may taint the reading. So if you can take a step back and leave you own views to one side, then why not?! Personally, I do read for family members and try to not let ego get in the way of the message the cards are convaying. Bright Blessings, Evie

Demonesse	18 Feb 2003
I don't think it is a problem reading for family members although I do agree that one's perception of circumstances will influence the reading, however unconciously. Same goes for reading for friends. However, I wouldn't advocate reading for family if the issue concerned is something is one that you personally are deeply involved in. I was gentle with what I told her the cards said but it wasn't what she wanted to hear. ---angelwhispers And yes, this is MOST definitely a issue to consider when reading for friends or family. Some people just can't take it, and may tend to feel that you are actually expressing your personal vendettas against them...

sagitarian	18 Feb 2003
I was a "closet" reader for YEARS. I don't even remember how my mom found out. Her reaction to it was "cool, will you read my cards?" I said "sure". It was accurate...and I've read her cards every once in a while since. My sister Alissa, lives out of state, but we still are willing to do readings for each other. Just a month ago I asked her if she would mind doing a reading to clarify some things in my marriage that I had come up in a personal reading. She did so lovingly, happy to do it. I haven't read for her in QUITE some time, but she is the one that got me back into tarot after leaving it for two years. I've also done readings on my children. They are all too young to start reading just yet. My oldest is 3 and my youngest 2 months old. So a lilttle too young. I plan on helping them develop their intuition if I can, but this is best up to their spirit guides. If they show interests in divination, then I would be happy to oblige them. I see NOTHING wrong with reading for those you love. Family is only something that we as humans define by blood and marriage. The celestial realm doesn't have (I don't feel anyways) relationships like we do. They simply are, and they love unconditionally the universe, all that is within. Special connections such as family relations due to marriage and/or blood related has nothing to do with the messages the universe has to give others. I feel it could care less who is related to who, in the universe, we are all family, we are all related in energy. If their guardian angles see that you have it in you to relate a message that they desperately need to whisper in their ear, then why not be the deliverer for that message. What better way TO communicate to your family then to have a special connection to the universe and be able to communicate and bring forth messages to help them? HOW could this be a bad thing?

Trogon	19 Feb 2003
I don't see that there would be that much of a problem with doing readings for family members, any more than for friends that you are close with. I can see that, yes, your own personal knowledge and feelings for the person might affect your reading, but wouldn't that be the case with doing any reading for any person with whom you are familiar? But in anycase, a lot of caring can be given to a person through a Tarot reading, can it not? Personally... none of my family members, with the exception of my wife, have asked me for readings, so I haven't done them yet, except my wife. ;) So, as is frequently heard here at A.T., if it feels right... do it. Quote: Originally posted by Karenwhe From the age of 15 until the age of 19 when I left home, my mother and I had a tradition……… we used to do a reading exchange every Saturday morning, it became a tradition. [snip] After I moved out we used to make special reading days to keep the tradition. Today we don't live in the same country and I miss that a lot. Karen, is your mother on the Internet? If she is, perhaps you guys could do what I do with my friend who lives in Canada... we do readings via Yahoo Messenger... AOL Instant Messenger would work too.

Aerin	19 Feb 2003
For me, it's the same as coaching someone: I do it if I'm not attached to a particular outcome from the issue or question. I guess this supports what others have said. So, for example, if a friend was going out with a boyfriend I hated I would not read on the relationship for her. I would be worried that not only would my relationship to them both be reflected in the cards thus muddying the waters, I would not be able to ensure an objective reading. If, on the other hand, she wanted me to read on a career issue and I had no stake in the outcome then I would probably do it. As long as you are able to be very respectful of the other person's outcome and unattached from the question, I can see no reason why not. One thing I wouldn't do though is read for someone else without their knowledge, that I wouldn't do no matter who they were - feels like crossing their boundary. I have read for a country out of curiosity, that did feel OK though. Aerin

Karenwhe	19 Feb 2003
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