...and then the darkness came

Thread originally posted on the Aeclectic Tarot Forum on 07 Jun 2003, and now archived in the Forum Library.

Tor	07 Jun 2003
Hi :) I've done some readings for friends lately, and it has gone so well. But today I did a reading for a friend which was very depressing. I don't how I should explain what happened, but when I got feedback from her, she was a bit angry and thought I've missed completly. I got so depressed and thought of starting with something completly different.... Anyone had a similar experience? Anyway - I went to the chatroom where Kaz picked me up from the gutter of darkness. (Thank you Kaz! *big hug*) I believe in the cards again, and think I told my friends things she didn't want to hear. But I was scared of what effect she had on me... Nice people can have a dark side I guess. Any advice on how to deal with this?

allibee	07 Jun 2003
Look for a carpet and sweep the experience under there is my advice. You can't change what has happened, so it is time to acknowledge that it happened, thank whatever God you pray to for giving you a new lesson to learn and just move on. Easier said than done sometimes, but dwelling on it won't help you on your own journey. Sounds to me to that your sitter's angry reaction was bourne out of you getting maybe a little too close to the truth. Maybe their question to the cards wasn't what they were really focused on wanting to know. Their problem... don't make it yours. Tomorrow is another day. Have confidence that you interpreted what the cards said..... allibee

Tor	07 Jun 2003
I know you're right... Just wanted to share this so I could move on Thanks! :)

allibee	07 Jun 2003
You are very welcome, anytime :O)

Sobeknofret	07 Jun 2003
I agree with allibee, sounds like you got a little too close to the truth for comfort. Let it go, and consider it 2 lessons learned: 1. You certainly can read the cards accurately, lol, and 2. don't read for this person anytime too soon again. --Sobe

Maan	08 Jun 2003
There all right i think! And believe me Balder your readings are very accurate the reading you did for me was amazing (((HUGS))) Love Maan

Tor	08 Jun 2003
Thank you guys for all the support!

Kiama	08 Jun 2003
Hi Balder, I've had this experience before too. The important thing to remember is not to blame yourself: You simply said what you saw in the cards, and that is all one can ever ask of a Tarot reader. :D It is not your fault if the querent doesn't like what they hear. It is not your fault if the querent didn't get what they were looking for. It is not your fault if you hit a little too close for the querent's comfort. A few months back, I did a reading for a friend. She asked me the question, and I dealt the cards, and answered the question she had asked. What I didn't know, was that she had secretly been asking a different question, and she got very angry with me when I didn't answer that unknown question. She said it was all my fault, and that I was a bad reader because I hadn't answered the 'real' question. At first I was gutted. But then I realised that I was not to blame. I answered the question she asked me: How was I to know she had secretly asked something else? Sometimes querents expect too much of us: They expect us to be all-knowing, and all-powerful. Sometimes they blame us for the things they don't like the sound of. Please don't be too hard on yourself because your querent misplaced the blame and turned on you when you didn't deserve such harsh treatment. *Hugs* Kiama

Alissa	08 Jun 2003
Sounds a lot like you're suffering from what I call "psychic residue" -- those times when what you're feeling is particularly nasty after a reading, not just a feeling of general malaise. Doing a reading puts you into a state where it's very easy to take on the energy(ies) of the person you're reading, or the energy around their current situation. If that person's in a state that's black and nasty, it's common for me to go away feeling black and nasty for a bit myself until I can shake it off, and/or come back into myself. The best remedy I know of (which can be the hardest) is laughter. Laughter gently stimulates the 3rd chakra, (know that good feeling you get after a really good belly laugh?) and that will encourage your own personal power to recover over this other person's parasitic energy. If you can't laugh it out, try breathing it out. Sometimes the best way to get rid of it is to cry, and that's just a different way of releasing the energy too. And, when reading for nasty little "test the psychic" creeps who have "secret" questions to see if you know what you're doing ... well, they don't understand energy exchange and are sabotaging the reading, IMHO, before it even begins.

Umbrae	08 Jun 2003
(An opinion – let’s not take it too serious) Sometimes readings seem wayyyyyyy off, because there the reading is pointing directly at an underlying issue – that the sitter is in denial about. Example: A person wants to know about career issues. The reading is all about romantic issues (or visa versa). We have to look – is one aspect of a persons life affecting another? Often, work issues affect family and romance. Sometimes when someone is ‘seeing’ someone in the office, it affects the work quality and environment. But folks don’t want to hear that. They think that denial is a river in Egypt! Further – I recommend not sweeping the experience under the rug, or turning your back on it. It was a valuable lesson, but only if you learn from it.

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