My son asked me for a reading!

Thread originally posted on the Aeclectic Tarot Forum on 14 Jun 2003, and now archived in the Forum Library.

Mimers	14 Jun 2003
I am in shock! My 16 year old son, who rolls his eyes everytime I pull out a deck. My son who wants so much to impress his very Christian Dad, asked me for a reading. With respect and seriousness he asked me for one. We were at my Mom's last night because my Aunt Nancy is here from out of state to visit. I brought my cards with me in case she wanted a reading. Well, she did ask for one and right after that my son piped in with, "can I have one too?" My jaw dropped, as did my Mom's and my Aunt's. My daughter Rachael made a comment something like, 'Daddy wouldn't like that". His reply "I'm a big boy now" Yes he is a big boy. Actually he is a young man now. (Mom's eyes are getting teary) Will be 17 in August. The past few years have been very tough for him and he finally seems to be getting his act together. Anyway he picked up my Ancestral Path deck and the Magician was on the bottom. He asked me what the Magician meant. With my replies, he said he would like to be more like the Magician. So, I decided to use the Magician as the cignificator. The reading was very good also. Very possitive. He asked me questions about the cards in his spread and seemed to really take it all in. Just had to share that with you all. My son and I rarely see things from the same angle and this really meant a lot to me. It is as though he is finally taking me seriously. Mimi

allibee	14 Jun 2003
((((((((((((((((((((mimi))))))))))))))))))))) I am SO happy for you! I have one of those young men 'things' too, well I have two actually, but only one who is into my interests. I gave Matt - my special son - the Tarot of the Gnomes last Christmas. Just right for enquiring young minds. A.

Dark Inquisitor	14 Jun 2003
Isn't that cool ?? My daughter (formerly an eye-roller also) asks for readings & has started on a small deck collection too. I told her some stuff that would happen at work, and some stuff about the character of an unknown new employee that turned out to be true, so I am getting more respect now! It's kinda fun for both of us, which is rare when they get to be older. Tarotphelia

Astraea	14 Jun 2003
Now, there's a great validation! Sounds like a very positive, warm and meaningful development for both you and your son. I'm so happy for you both!

wavebreaker	14 Jun 2003
How wonderful! :)

Mimers	14 Jun 2003
Thanks everyone for your responces. It really was very encouraging to me that he came to me. I also see that I am not alone! :) Thanks again!

punkangelgcm437	14 Jun 2003
Yay for Mimi!! ::huggles Mimi:: Thats really special...that parent&child bond. And I think tart can be a good tool for it. But, my parents are the eye-rollers (since I'm only 15). Kinda wish they'd take more interest in it...I offer and they decline so I just dont try much anymore. *But*, that's what I have everyone here for...people who want readings and who'll appreciate them. You said your son's gonna be 17 in August...maybe you should get him a deck of his own if he keeps getting more interested. Maybe a deck and then something else un-related. Maybe he'll get interested too and yall can have something special to share together. Tarotphelia-Thats really cool how you and your daughter have that. I've never met you before so here's my chance to say Hiya to you!! :) :) ~Much Love~ ~Sarah~

Dark Inquisitor	14 Jun 2003
Now that's a right coincidence, because I never met you either Sarah--- Hi back to you ! Tarotphelia

Alissa	14 Jun 2003
yeah yeah Mimi! As a mother, how rewarding it must be to see how much he is coming to the point where he's ready to test new ideas, and try new things. That's growth, and it must be such a thrill to see as a Mom ... I'd interpret that as a job well done.....:D ((((((((((Mimers)))))))))))))

RedWood	14 Jun 2003
Thats so great Mimers!!

Khatruman	14 Jun 2003
May I have the fortune you do now with your son when mine reaches that age. Right now, he is five, and I have moments with him that I cherish, that bring tears to my eyes. It is when he will, out of the blue, put his arms around me and say, "Daddy, you are my best friend." And no, it isn't that he wants something from me, or that he has been trained to say it or anything. It comes from pure heart!!! That is what you have there. The battles that occur in teen years, the striking out on his own, that sometimes is distressing when he is your "baby." I haven't felt it, but I have seen it almost daily with my students. They so desperately don't want to listen, but you catch them listening if you pay attention sometimes. I find myself more and more, throwing out philosophies in the middle of a lesson, and mostly students are totally oblivious, or think I'm being insane again (my moniker has a reason..:D), but I will catch that one student who is looking in my face, who is listening, and though I keep on as if I don't see it, I project to him or her, and maybe it started a seed. I'm sorry, I am digressing from your post. I just want you to know that I empathize with your happiness. Cherish that moment and hopefully it is a seed of a young man's blossoming wisdom!

anjocoxo	15 Jun 2003
Wow, mimers, I'm very hapy for you... it's not always easy for teenagers to actually "start thinking for themselves", if you understand what I mean... we are raised in a way, and it's not easy to "escape" our parents point of view (in your case, his dad's) and make a point of view of our own. That's also a sign of hope for all of those here who have parents, children, relatives that are not interested in Tarot.... with time we'll get there. I don't know if I ever told you that I always have faith in the human race... well, in cases like this my hopes go down if we talk about jeovah's witnessess, but even those, one day - very far away, I know - will open their eyes to tolerance. Anjo

Mimers	15 Jun 2003
Thanks so much guys! For those of you with the little ones at home, Khat, Alissa, Redwood, Sagitarian, my advise is this. Enjoy every second!!!! because every second is precious. I was so busy going to school full time and working when Joey was small that I missed a lot, so, most of what I am dealing with right now is my own fault. I remember the night of his preschool graduation, I had an economics final. I actually completed it in 30 minutes and raced to his ceromony! Got there just in time to see him walk onto the stage. When I walked in I could see him up there looking for me. As soon as he saw me his face lit up! These little ones need to know you are there for them. Also to make them feel from the beginning that they can come to you and talk about anything. OK, the lecture is over, sorry. Thanks again everyone. Mimi

Trogon	15 Jun 2003
Mimi... There's already been so many wonderful things said and so much support sent your way, I have very little left to say... other than; ((((((((((((((((((Mimers))))))))))))))))))) How great and thank you so much for sharing your moment with us...

sagitarian	15 Jun 2003
Oh Mimi, what an awesome experience! And People out there wish they could keep their children as babies all their life. Wow, to see your baby grown up as a man, all that he's been through, and now coming back to you with that unconditional love that you two shared when he was a baby, but now as an adult...WOW. That is so awesome. I really believe your relationship is going to keep changing drastically for the better, or at least, he's going to keep shocking you in a lot of other ways. Your tears are tears of happiness and rejoice of a job well done, and better done then what most mothers could've done. You've suceeded spiritually and physically, not just survived girl, SUCCEEDED! I'm so happy for you I truly truly am!

Ruby Red Slippers	15 Jun 2003
(((((((Mimi))))))) Ditto what sagitarian said so beautifully!!! :D Since mine are older, I can tell you that you have influenced his life more positively than you probably realize now. It is amazing what kids take in and don't tell you until they are adults themselves. I am ever amazed! You tolerance and your values are a "part" of him. You will most likely see it more and more as he comes into his own. Congratulations from one parent to another! Ruby Red Slippers

theredhead	15 Jun 2003
(((((((((Mimers))))))))) I am so very glad that things are going better for you and your son. A gift to treasure, and hopefully the first of many more between you and him. Love and light sent to you.

Mimers	16 Jun 2003
Thanks everyone! No one was kidding when they said raising teenagers was tough! And I still have one more to go! Yikes! I just love my kids so much. Thank everyone for sharing with me. Mimi

Tor	16 Jun 2003
How wonderful Mimers! I liked that your son picked the magician. It seems that he's on the right track.....leaving the teenage fool. So help him use his tools! :) It must be a great experience to see this change in your own son. I'm very happy for you both. :)

mac	16 Jun 2003
i'm really happy this happened for you mimers, i know something of the feeling as last week my mother, after years of avoiding asking anything to do with tarot or i ching asked me for a reading, and found it helpful and wants another. the next day i said something about her hiding her feelings and she said well not any more, you can see it all in the cards. it made me feel really close with her and happy, actually i think she'd be a natural reader herself...

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