distraction in a reading

Thread originally posted on the Aeclectic Tarot Forum on 17 Nov 2003, and now archived in the Forum Library.

ros	17 Nov 2003
Why do people get up in the middle of a reading & go do something? (e.g. like get a glass of water etc.) I am confident with my readings but sometimes people get up just to get a glass of water when I'm half way though. Do they do this because: I am telling them what don't want to hear or they want to controll the reading by trying to distact my thoughts or I'm boring them or what? Any ideas?

Diana	17 Nov 2003
If it's really a glass of water, then I reckon they're thirsty. I always pour a glass of water for myself and the querent before we even start the reading. And they're always empty at the end of the reading - sometimes I have to fill them again in between. If they get up to do something else, it's because they need a little break - too much information can be too much in one go. I doubt they're bored. I've noticed that there is often a little slump in the middle of a reading, if it's long. If it goes on for an hour, the slump comes round about the middle - which probably relates to how long someone can concentrate without having a break. I wouldn't worry about it, if I were you!

Mystic Zyl	17 Nov 2003
Maybe they are really thirsty. I know I get hot and thirsty when I read, all that energy! lol

Majecot	17 Nov 2003
I have never had someone get up during a reading, but unfortuanately I have had people interrupt a reading. This has happened on a couple of occasions, and it's mainly family members. (teen-agers and brother in law) That is extremely annoying. I think readings are personal and if the querant wishes to share that information with some one else that is fine. But to constantly walk in the room repeatedly and sit down to try to listen is not acceptable. So I stop the reading and wait till they leave.

Umbrae	17 Nov 2003
You may want to figure out how long your readings are.

ros	17 Nov 2003
Thanks for the replys. My readings go mabee 45 mins. I never thought of it being energy or too much information before. About half of my readings are people that has never had a reading, so I think they have a few doors open when they have a reading done. There is something unique about tarot . It is a different language but familiar to us all!

Umbrae	17 Nov 2003
45 minutes is FAR too long for a single reading without a break. You may even think of shortening your time to 20 minutes...with 10 minutes for Q&A and feedback. Cuz if 50% of your clients are getting up for water, the other 50% are paying rent on their water…

ros	17 Nov 2003
o.k. thanks

Majecot	17 Nov 2003
Quote: Originally posted by Umbrae Cuz if 50% of your clients are getting up for water, the other 50% are paying rent on their water… :joke: Umbrae... you r cracking me up!

DeLani	18 Nov 2003
Hmm...that sounds very rude to me. I've never had a querent get up and walk away, but my readings usually only last about 20 mins. (on average). I do frequently have clients "interrupt," but I tell them at the beginning of the reading to feel free to give input, ask questions, etc. I see it as a 2-way street, a link between reader and querent, and I want them to feel comfortable and empowered. My suggestion (take it or leave it), would be to do a couple little things to make them comfortable before the reading (if possible), like get them a drink, an ashtray (if they smoke & you're OK with it), etc. And do practice getting to the point (no offense). A reading should only go on that long because the querent is doing most of the talking (this is often the best, most theraputic service we offer - LISTENING). Learn to summarize. But I do agree with you, it is rude to just get up and walk away when someone is talking to you - and especially when they are reading for you! Perhaps, when this happens, you could say, "Oh, I'm sorry, is there something you need? Please sit and I'll get it for you" or something like that, so they have to justify their rude action while you are being so polite. Or maybe not. Some people are just so d--med rude they don't even care. You deserve respect, and if they don't give it to you, then they don't deserve your services.

ros	18 Nov 2003
I don't think I take too long. By the time they say their Hi, & By the readings are not that long. Maybee it's people who are afraid of what I might tell them. People that I don't know don't do this, now that I think about the situation, it's the ones I know!

Majecot	18 Nov 2003
I think that the people that we are most comfortable with probably do act the most ignorant. ;)

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