Sharing decks:2 people 1 deck?

Thread originally posted on the Aeclectic Tarot Forum on 26 Apr 2004, and now archived in the Forum Library.

hyatt	26 Apr 2004
My husband is now getting into tarot. I guess it's Ok. I encouraged him and he helps me study....but sometimes you want to be the only one. For example, i am ordering him a thoth deck of his own but he is using my decks now and I think will continue. I'm not an uptight person but sometimes when I come home and see my cards on the floor or him with the cards.....well, I not crazy about the idea. So does anyone else study with someone and share decks?

HudsonGray	26 Apr 2004
Not me! LOL. Steve's got his own two decks, I've got mine (we don't have the same ones). I vote you get a fresh new one for yourself & let him have your oldie, especially if it does bother you to any degree.

ros	26 Apr 2004
I am not greedy at all except when it comes to my cards. I'll share anything but, PLEASE get your own Tarot Cards!

punchinella	26 Apr 2004
Hmmn, I live alone so this isn't an issue for me. But if I did live with a significant other, I think I'd be just thrilled to death to share decks with him--how cool is that??? Finding a guy that's actually into tarot, well, how could I possibly knock it? & of course if I liked him well enough to sleep with him every night, I suppose I'd want his energy in my deck too (at least I hope I would :D ) It gets pretty dull here sharing decks with myself . . . Well, aeclectic does help, but a lot of the time when I want to talk something over (like, what's the 3 of Coins doing HERE???) it's just too trivial for starting a thread on. A partner in crime would be *punchinella sighs*

September Pixie	26 Apr 2004
I have shared my decks with some people who were just testing the waters in tarot, but I find they are much more difficult to read if someone else is working with them because they are my cards.. and my take on them is obviously going to be different than someone starting out... If you are using the thoth deck and this is the one he is taking, you could either give him yours, and break in the new deck, or buy a replacement for yourself. I think if Sergey (my significant other) were to take an interest I would be thrilled.. but.... that will never happen, but I love that he is so supportive of my interests. The only deck I am very stingy with is my Faerie Oracle.. I go nuts when someone else wants to touch them or read with them... ironically its the only deck I find myself hiding LOL

Lady Mary	26 Apr 2004
For me a Tarot deck is something very special and personal. So I don't let others work with my decks.

hedgecub	26 Apr 2004
My decks are tools I use to look deep inside myself, and they have become very personal to me. I wouldn't share them with anyone, not even my mate. If he were to get into tarot, then I may well give him a deck that I don't usually use, like my Rider-Waite, but I don't think I could share with him, especially not my super special decks, like my Vertigo. I don't trust anyone else to take proper care of my babies :)

Bosorka	27 Apr 2004
Personaly, I donīt mind others to touch my cards. But I gave to my sister her own deck, just because sometimes I like to cary my cards with me, and sometimes I wish to meditate on them withoud her and donīt want her to have them that moment. But our cards are the same RWS, so we can work with them even now, when we are for few days in different cities.

Nycelle	27 Apr 2004
I can see why it would bother you - someone using my decks a little to test the water is fine, but I wouldn't like to share a deck in a permanent way - "Hey, El, it's Thursday. My turn with the Glastonbury . . . El, come down from the attic, we can talk about this. . . ."

BlueLotus	27 Apr 2004
I live with my son, who is 17, and made it clear from day one that he is not to touch my cards. That's because I was so tense in the start that someone else's energy will be on them. When I eased up a bit, it turned out that my son was never even sligtly interested in tarot , just a bit curious in the beginning. Although it does hurt that he doesn't believe in tarot, leave alone my worrying that he may sneak behind my back to touch my decks, I wonder how any body can not like tarot :confused: As someone else here said, I do need a partner in crime at times, but , it is ok, since I am so addicted to my cards/decks, this presumable partner would probably run out the door/window LOL, once he finds out how addicted I am to Tarot or worse yet would be as addicted or even more so than me, then I would really feel left out.

Alissa	27 Apr 2004
I have TWO copies of the Baphomet deck on back order... one for me, and one for my husband. We were "sharing" my Buckland Romani, until it got Gollum-ed by him! He stashed it in his desk, and then when I asked him if I could use it for a bit (about a month after giving him the deck so he would have one) he said his cards didn't want me touching them!!! :D (Maybe you have to know my no-nonsense architect husband to realize how FUNNY that statement is coming from his mouth). So, due to my husband's Tarot Gollum nature... we don't share. We don't even swap. ;)

hyatt	27 Apr 2004
thanks so much for your thoughts! i have been feeling greedy! i have quite a few decks and think i just need to get double copies of what we both use!

miss_apples	27 Apr 2004
I personally wouldnt mind...especially if its one of the decks that I dont use very often. However I dont have that problem because no one I live with is very interested in tarot.

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