Lessons to be learned from a Tower year

Thread originally posted on the Aeclectic Tarot Forum on 26 Jul 2004, and now archived in the Forum Library.

Pook	26 Jul 2004
I just recently learned how to calculate your year card and discovered that this is a Tower year for me. And boy, if anything could be more accurate I dont know what it is. My first child was born at the beginning of the year (jan. 3) and many things have changed since her arrival. I originally intended to go back to work, but have since decided to stay at home with her for as long as we can afford it.....but even if I did work, I would only be working, really, to pay for child care.......like being between the metaphorical rock and a hard place-a typical tower theme. I gave up all the bad habits I used to enjoy. No more drinking, smoking, or partying til 6 am.....which isn't really a bad thing after all. And now, even though my fiance is working himself to death to support us, we cant seem to get ahead. We currently live in a 1 bedroom apartment and would love to move on to something bigger with more room for us to grow, but since I dont have a job, I get turned down for credit every time and even though he has excellent credit, it's not enough. We have tried co-signers, who all sem to have credit problems of thier own, so no matter what we do, we come out losing I know its hard for young couples when they first start out, and I understand that everyone has to pay thier dues, and were not giving up......but geez... I know there is a lesson to be learned here. The problem is I dont see it. I see the tower burning down with only the shark infesteed waters for refuge. Anyone see a way out? I still have half of this tower year to go. Also, it might be interesting to note that I have had the tower show up MANY times in readings this year when reading for myself or my fiance. MANY times BTW...I know it sounds like a rant...and thanks for letting me vent, but I really would like some insight....

Eco74	26 Jul 2004
Some of the rocks from that tower will be hitting a few of those sharks in the head, and there are bound to be enough scrambles of wooden beams and rope to build a raft to stay afloat on. Maybe you can even find a canopee to keep the rain out? I think stay low, keep out of sight from the sharks by keeping a low profile for a while. Don't start rebuilding until the tower has finished falling (except for the liferaft ofcourse) since the continous fall of large rocks can dismantle most of the new constructions. Make plans, but try not to set them in motion until the year is over. And meanwhile, enjoy your dreams and hopes for the future. It may make many a wonderful goodnight story for that beautiful baby of yours.. While there is oportunity in the tower, it also cautions us to rethink previous strategies and find new paths so don't be afraid to go out on limbs of the imagination where you have not ventured before. Granted, some of them will not hold up, but neither is the real world now so what's an imaginary loss in all this rubble? Sooner or later you will find that branch that not only holds up but lifts you all to higher ground.

hyatt	26 Jul 2004
Oh, I wish I had some fabulous advice...but I just don't. I can lend my sympathy. When me and my husband started out it was difficult. I had great credit and his was so bad he couldn't even be on the lease. It took him many years even after everything was cleared up to get to a good starting point. Space is just something that every family needs. We tried to stay as active and out of the house as we could. When we came home from work we would just go on walks even if it was around the block a few times. Sometimes the less you are actually inside helps. We also went to as many free events as we could. Free concerts in the park or free movies at the university next to us, whatever came our way. My thoughts will be with you because I completely understand!

blackroseivy	26 Jul 2004
I can certainly sympathize, as I have gone under in the past year with my bi-polar illness. Twice, it has gotten me kicked out & homeless. I hope never to be there hitting those rocks again.

Ace	26 Jul 2004
I really sympathize with all of you. The Tower can be so hard to take. But it really can be a good thing too. You might see the tower as kicking out the jams. What can you do without? (You have already done a lot of deleting: parties, alcohol, etc) what is the BARE minimum of whatever that you need? Financially, put every spare penny (and yeah, with a new baby, there aren't very many) in the bank. What stuff can you get rid of? What dreams are absolute priorities, while others can wait a year or two? Don't give up on everything, that just exhausts you, but the tower rips things apart, so let those rocks fall where they may, and think about what you want to build (now that you have cleared a space) next year. The Tower sounds like a real growth card for you, it is a beginning as well as an ending. Good luck.

Pook	26 Jul 2004
Just in this last few hours, I have been given another chance to try and get our mortgage approved with a co-signer. Now I'm worried that the tower will rear its ugly brick form again and have us be denied. Or worse yet, what if we get approve and then the tower shows up and we now have a house but nothing else.....O the song of the tower.

Flavio	27 Jul 2004
I hope your mortagage in co-signing goes well, don't be afraid of the Tower, use the knowledge you already have to plan how to deal with the meeting regarding the mortgage. During my own Tower year the death surrounded me, friends, acquaintances and even my own father died, also I turned 30 and was very shocking for me; as for my job had a lot of trouble as if the world were against me... terrible year indeed. What did I learn? that I can only trust in myself at 100% times, that all those experiences are meant to make us stronger improving our capacity for adaptation to quick changes adaptation and tolerance to frustration. The Star is coming...

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