Settling with the one partner ........ 'honey, I'm home!'

Thread originally posted on the Aeclectic Tarot Forum on 01 Jul 2004, and now archived in the Forum Library.

Little Baron	01 Jul 2004
Through this whole tarot journey, I have had many a tarot liasson. As I have said, many times before, my first deck was the Rohrig. I eventually purchased the RW because I thought I needed to learn with the 'proper' deck (yes, I know hoe silly that sounds now - even though I still value my various Waite decks). I bought the Morgan Greer because I thought the artwork better than the RW. I bought (and still adore) the Phantasmagoric because it suited my playful side. As much as I have more than just one side, I always wanted that 'one' deck that was the main one and was never completely satisfied - always doing seraches on google; scrolling through the images, thinking 'is this the one', then clicking on a picture and thinking 'oh, maybe not'. I always wanted the 'Rohrig' to be 'the one' - people describe that feeling as 'coming home'; I am happy to say that eight years later, holding it in my hands again and using it for the past month as my daily draw and for readings, it feels like maybe that first one really is. I remember the original readings I did with it for a year or so afterwards and they probably were some of the most 'spot on'. Maybe I had a really good 'getting to know you period' with it. I still occasionally have those moments when I am not so sure about the 'modern' vibe of the Chariot, for example, even though I do like the feelings that come from it. I wonder sometimes, if when I do a reading for someone, whether I am more worried that they will feel these cards are not what tarot should be - dark skeletons jumping all over the place, entwined lovers and fire breathing devils. Having said that, everyone that I have read with this deck have been awed by the size and artistic brilliance/detail of this deck. So, even though there are a lot of collectors and tarot-holics on the boards, has anyone 'settled down' with the one partner, without those 'wandering eyes'?????? Don't get me wrong, I have no problem with buying loads of decks and am sure that I havnt bought my last. It's just a feeling of unity I have with the Rohrig now and wanted to know if anybody else shared it. Best wishes, as always Yaboot

DarkElectric	01 Jul 2004
Oh dear... I must admit tarot promiscuity here... I too have wanted to settle down with one deck, and believe me, I've tried. My relationship to my Spiral deck is the closest thing to monodecky that I have been able to accomplish. However, it is due to the fact that it "looks the other way" when a new tarot fling becomes the order of the day. I don't know if it is biology, or social conditioning which causes me to stray. Somehow, no matter how dedicated I think I am, when a new deck coyly bats it's eyelashes at me, well, I'm only partially human after all. No one has hurled the vehement epithet; "Tarot Slut!" at me in the marketplace...yet.

Little Baron	01 Jul 2004
Quote: Originally posted by DarkElectric No one has hurled the vehement epithet; "Tarot Slut!" at me in the marketplace...yet. That really made me chuckle!

Xarokys	01 Jul 2004
Alas, I'm still waiting for that "one true deck." The one that will make me forget all the others. I've had many decks over the years. Some I fell in love with at first sight, but over time the passion waned. Others I have been attracted to for various reasons, but none of them have turned out to be "the one." We all still remain good friends though.

mercenary30	01 Jul 2004
I am sorry to say....(maybe not), that I have a tarot harem. I have a quality brood, and I love them all!!! (not necessarily equally) ;)

Moonbow*	01 Jul 2004
This is interesting Yaboot... I'm not sure I have found the perfect deck for me, one that I am at home with and can forsake all others, but... the only deck I have got close to it with is the Rohrig. And, like you, it was my second time round with it too. I had it quite a while ago and journalled the cards but never read with them. Recently, since joining in with the study group and doing some readings with it, I have found that I can see more in these cards. I know people say that cards talk to them, but some of my decks take alot of effort for this to happen. The Rohrig just flows, there are alot of possiblities within the cards. **Moonbow now admits that she still hasn't read with some of her decks, or even looked at some of them in a looooong time**

Little Baron	01 Jul 2004
Hey Moonbow I agree. It's like when you have a really excellent friend. You havn't seen them in years but when you were mates, you did everything together, you understood each other, were locking into your own little world together - like soul mates. Others used to say that me and my friend Francine were 'in our bubble'. Then, if you havn't seen that person for a long time and you meet up again, sometimes, all those feelings and memories come flooding back; which is how it is with me and the Rohrig. I never journaled the cards, and in a way, I didn't need to because the memories just go 'ding' in my mind. Because I knew nothing about the tarot when I bought the Rohrig, those memories and responses are totally natural and instinctive ones. I look at other decks these days but they can often feel flat to me. Is it because that deck and I bonded better (it could have been another one I spent that first year with) or is it that its symbolism is more in tune with me? I don't know. Probably both. Look forward to studying more with you on the Rohrig Moonbow. I did post a few threads just before the hacking incident which I think are lost now. Best wishes to you and everyone else Yaboot

Alissa	01 Jul 2004
I have one deck that I come back to, again and again, but I hesitate to commit to it exclusively. Maybe, like DE, I'm just born that way, or maybe it's the constant exposure to the eye-candy I'm exposed to on Aeclectic that makes me stray... I dunno. But, my Universal Waite deck was my first deck, and still remains my personal, primary deck. I talk to it almost every day, often more than once in a day. Although we've been together for years, I covet it still, keeping it in a treasured place that few are allowed to venture into (my underwear drawer). I would panic if I didn't know where it was at any point in a day. There was one period though when we weren't speaking to each other. It was after I came to AT, and bought another deck for the first time. I couldn't help myself, I was drawn to Arthur theme in Legend. And then, I did it again. I went and bought another... and an ORACLE deck to boot (I wanted something exotic by then, surely you see....) The Faeries Oracle came into the home, and shared the space with my Universals now too. My daily draw, for about 6 days in a row, despite shuffling, was the Hermit. My Universals did not want to speak to me. They wanted to be left alone. I set them down for a week, then tried again. The Hermit. Go away, we want to be left alone. Go be with your OTHER decks if you want someone to read with. I set the cards down, and for (I'm serious people) about 8 months I only drew the Hermit when I picked it up and drew for a daily. I drew less and less, so it got to only pulling a card once a month or so. There weren't 100s of Hermits in a row, but there was no other card for me from that deck for a very very long time. Finally, one day I drew a Universal Waite card, just to see how it felt about things, now so long past. The 3 of Cups. It was ready to make friends with the other decks. And I haven't stopped using it quasi-regularly ever since. (True Story...)

firemaiden	01 Jul 2004
One partner???????? [insert fainting icon here] What are you mad?! Or have I simply not found my one true deck? (is there such a thing? the concept is a bit... absurd, I mean, woudn't you get bored of always looking at the same pictures??)

lunakasha	01 Jul 2004
Well....I guess I am with the majority of tarotholics here.... I don't think I could ever be completely satisfied with just ONE deck....they all have such distinct personalities, different things to teach me...and quite honestly I think I would become bored if forced to stick with only one deck....:D Having said that, I do have a select group of favorites....and yes, this also changes periodically....fickle you say??? Yep....fair enough!!! :P I am currently getting acquainted with my current "favorite", my precioussss Gilded....which I think may actually be THE ONE!!!! It is, for me, the most beautiful and exciting deck I have ever seen...love at first sight you might say. But even so...I would not want to limit myself from collecting or reading with other decks.... Gotta have some variety, know what I mean??? :D :) Luna

WolfSpirit	01 Jul 2004
I have for one year now done most readings with my Ancestral Path, and it just feels so comfortable for readings. I do sometimes use another deck for readings, when I want a different kind of energy - the Animal Wise I use regularly now (another old favourite of mine) But of course, having a main reading deck does not stop me from looking at other decks (or buying them) :D I need decks for the artwork and for study and just for fun. And to read for people who don't like the Ancestral.

inanna_tarot	01 Jul 2004
You are all a bunch of romantics! One deck? FOR LIFE! i'm all up for the tarot swinging life i have at the mo thanks! Though actually, alot of my decks when i've done the first intro spread have said if you settle with me i'll be all you need - but i'm too young to settle! I havent seen all the decks in the world yet! Hmm Maybe my new Gothic deck will make me a few offers i cant refuse... ohh to be seduced by the dark side .... lol. I guess i am looking for the deck that makes me cry, the deck that comforts me as soon as it is in my hand - like ringing up a lover and saying i just needed to hear the sound of your voice to brighten up my day. GAWD look what you are doing to me! Yaboot, i hold you personally responsable for this - But YOUR tarot deck is such an intimate thing - hell i sleep with my decks half the time. DarkElectric - do you bed hop with your decks? or am i more of a slut than you? lol Much love to you all!!! Sezo x

WolfSpirit	01 Jul 2004
Romance has nothing to do with it - lazyness more likely, or refusing to change a comfortable situation. Other decks are just too demanding - I want their fun but not their trouble :P

DarkElectric	01 Jul 2004
Oh Inanna! I'd much rather hop in bed with a tarot deck considering who( or perhaps, in retrospect we could refer to them as "what"...) I've hopped in bed with.... :D Actually, it used to be that when I'd get a new deck I'd put it under my pillow and go to sleep. But it got to the point where I was buying so many new decks, the pillow would lump up and I'd get no sleep at all. I now carry the new ones in my handbag at all times, and bond with them that way.

Little Baron	01 Jul 2004
Thanks for your responses! As I said, I am sure I wont be able to resist buying just a few more decks; I was just wondering if anyone did settle with one more than others; just interested. I suppose I am in that loved up stage, which as we all know, never lasts for long lol. Best wishes you guys! Yaboot

The 78th Fool	06 Jul 2004
This is an interesting one. I have to confess that I'm a tarot whore!!! I could never fully commit to one deck. My favourite deck is the Gilded Tarot but I also read with my own deck, The Golden Tarot and The Tarot of Prague. Those are my frequent use decks. After these come my 'Intermittent use decks' - any number of Rider Waites and Clones, Tarot of the Witches, Grimaud Marseilles, Swiss 1jj, Nigel Jackson, Enchanted/Zerner Farber, Sharman Caselli, Visconti etc. After that are any number of 'impulse decks'. These are ones that I bought when I was researching for my own deck. I may only use them once every few months but I do nevertheless connect with them. I primarily read through the Rider tradition, but love to keep acquainted with other types of deck - It keeps my readings fresh and flexible. As I said, My Gilded is my most dear deck - but call me a tart and I'll have to confess you're right!

lawguy51	06 Jul 2004
Funny to come upon this thread after just posting why the Thoth deck is the best deck ever in the Tarot Deck forum.... http://67.19.40.82/showthread.php?s=&threadid=28379 Sure, I 'fool around' with other decks, but my Thoth deck, she knows me so well, she is kind, sometimes she must be cruel to be kind, she points the way and lets me stumble and I trust her completely. And she feels so good in my hands ;) . Lawguy51

amyel	06 Jul 2004
There's nothing wrong with Looking....although I confess to handling others occasionally. But eventually, I find that I only want to work with one at a time. Currently, this is "Shining Tribe", because I like the depth it provides.

azuremariposa	06 Jul 2004
i suppose since i spent 15 yrs w/the same deck that this idea might appeal...but if i had kept to JUST that deck, i never would have let myself be won over by my Fey...romanced by my Victoria Regina...or felt that new spark of lust over my Universal Waite... i DO tend to stick to one at a time, tho'...so, i guess i still have a "faithful" twinge ;) and i definitely do not NEED any other decks...for now :D hehe oh, and my original deck was the RWS...typical, eh? lol

diane drizzy	07 Jul 2004
I've always envyed those who have found their "one true love". Even though I have searched and played around with others, I have found that I now do appreciate RWS all the more. I'm especially fond of the Radiant deck. I can say though I have been true to my Faeries Oracle. Yes, I have been with others, they are my true loves hands down.

Emily	07 Jul 2004
I must admit I am still totally loyal to my Morgan Greer - its the only deck that I feel I really know. I don't have to read with this deck all the time just to shuffle after a hard days work is calming. But this doesn't mean I don't like the challenge of using other decks - I still buy just as many decks as I did, sometimes just for the artwork as I do now consider myself a collector and my collection is growing. But others like the Golden and the Tarot of Prague I've bought to read with. But now it doesn't matter as much if I don't connect with a deck like I thought that I would because my Morgan Greer is there waiting like a patient friend.

Kissa	07 Jul 2004
i'm a serial monogamist (sp?). i have long romances (at least two weeks in a row) with the same partner. i keep them all on my night table and they come from Tarot Garden: International Icon, MerryDay, Golden tarot (Kat Black's). The Songs for the Journey Home is my comfort deck, like a chocolate bar without the calories. and then there is the LOVE of my life. but our relationship is too intense, we have to be apart sometimes not to burn ourselves in the fire of passion. My Tarot of Prague. some flings: Hoi Polloi, Ancestral Path, Universal Waite, Vetrate, Nigel Jackson... oh! and i almost forget! my husband! the one that i don't use but keep because it will always offer me financial security when i am in trouble: the Greenwood! ;) Kissa

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