Single Parent/Tarot

Thread originally posted on the Aeclectic Tarot Forum on 31 May 2005, and now archived in the Forum Library.

bladeraven	31 May 2005
I was curious how many single parents were here who used the Tarot and how did you find the Tarot impacting you as a single parent?

Nina*	31 May 2005
Well... I am sure the Tarot is impacting in a way that I will remain a single parent ;) xxx Nina

MercyMe	31 May 2005
When I was a single parent (I voted former), I didn't read tarot but I had a tarot reading. It was interesting, but I can't say it impacted my parenting any. The reader did give me the disappointing news that my son's father would be in my life for a long time to come and, sure enough, no matter how much I wished he'd be exiled to Siberia, he stuck around and was a thorn in my side until my son turned 18. My son was 4 at the time of the reading. :P ~Mercy

jumptothemoonyea	31 May 2005
Tarot makes me a better single parent, I think :D

Moongold	31 May 2005
I have a 15 year old tabby cat who goes from loving to cranky in a few seconds. She is particularly insecure at present. What about being an "Aunt"? I am the only member of my family who does not have children but nieces and nephews are really important. I think Tarot has helped me greatly at a particular time in life :)

Phoenix Rising	31 May 2005
a single parent yes.....and I think f I didn't have an interest like tarot or cartomancy, I'd be bored shitless! But always new ideas.

bladeraven	31 May 2005
Since I've really begun studying tarot...I notice the more "visual" cards I have can be use to share with my toddler in engaging in more play with words and colors and just teaching him to finds way to express himself.... Nights particularly now..I would just used the card to mediate and yes...cry..I can't help but wonder...in periods like now ...I'm having a more closer and deeper relationship with my cards...I wonder is there a difference between if I was married or still involved if I would have that same level of intimancy with my cards..... At nights when it's quiet I would just shuffle the deck, pull a card and reflect and pour my heart and soul into the card.....

jumptothemoonyea	31 May 2005
bladeraven - do you think we can take this one step further and start creating Single Kid/Pet Parent Tarot Deck?

bladeraven	31 May 2005
jumptothemoonyea wrote: bladeraven - do you think we can take this one step further and start creating Single Kid/Pet Parent Tarot Deck? Lol...that would be a fun deck..how would we design it?? I know the fool would be the parent who lets the child dress themselves.

stella01904	31 May 2005
bladeraven wrote: ...how did you find the Tarot impacting you as a single parent? MM ~ It's reassuring! When one of the kids is whereabouts unknown, I can cut a card or two and see that they haven't been hacked to bits and will be home soon! BB, Stella

MeeWah	31 May 2005
I voted "I'm a former single parent". At that time, I did not use Tarot per se, but read with a regular deck of playing cards & Zolar's Astrological Tarot Deck (the former since pre-teen, the latter since late teen). Not really had the focus for self-readings during single parent period--stressed from juggling two part-time jobs & childcare; too little rest/sleep. My children very young: one in school & two pre-school. Decided to forego personal card readings in favour of the dreams & the intuition, both of which I used/worked with extensively throughout my life & before children because they were strong & proven sources of guidance on a daily basis. Dreams usually presented in symbolic terms or archetypal symbols which expressed complex or layered significance. Months in advance I was warned in a dream of the events to ensue regarding my marriage by a single sword hanging point-down in a night sky (shades of Ace of Swords). Perhaps 'tis because the young not yet corrupted by the world that I could clearly perceive their thoughts as images, feel their emotions keenly & anticipate their actions. I think this true of most parents. Harder as they grow older & take on the worldly mantle. An enlightening conversation with my eldest son whence he was 7 revealed curiosity regarding how I seemed "to know things". Half jokingly, I told him I had a third eye in my head. He apparently took it seriously. I found out much later he told his friends he could not hide things from me. To this day, my children's memories of the single parent period better than mine, which are mostly a blur of dark nights of the soul. They largely do not want me reading for them but ask for my opinions & send their friends as clients. I metaphorically grew up with my kids & still rely on a combination of the intuition, the cards & dreams.

WalesWoman	01 Jun 2005
As a former single parent, the impact that Tarot has on my parenting could be seen as contributing to not as good. EEEKS, but true. Actually it's not so much tarot as being caught up in A.T. I got an email today that reminded me very much of a few of my "creative flammbaed grilled cheese" and other scorched entree's because I sat down to read a thread while supper heated... or telling one of the kids, yeah, I'll help you make a Father's Day card... in a minute, I'm busy (reading more threads) and an hour later she is plaintive and getting impatient, but using the wrong tone... so I let her cool her heels for another 1/2 hour. When I do readings on being a better parent, it is to pay more attention to what is going one and not be so wrapped up in my stuff. So was I a better mom when I was single and read runes? I think it was because I was about 25 years younger and had more oompa and nothing else to do. Tarot and runes had nothing to do with it, (besides getting me addicted to spending time here)... becoming absorbed in my space and ignoring theirs has more to do with my parenting than anything.

FaeryGodmother	01 Jun 2005
Considering I read Tarot before I had my child I don't know whether or not Tarot has impacted on my parenting. I know my daughter was interested in what I was doing and I'd let her pick a card and put it where she thought it should go (which was often very appropriate). I put former single parent because I am no longer single, so reading Tarot hasn't prevented me from meeting someone wonderful to be with. Actually I think it helped, one of the things my partner and I were attracted to in each other was the fact that he (an artist) had always wanted to design a tarot deck, conviently enough, I had always wanted someone to paint me one. :D About the only different thing now is the amount of time I spend on doing readings for myself- I simply don't feel the need as much now as I did as a single parent. love FGM

psychic sue	01 Jun 2005
I am a single parent and hope I will always be one. I don't think I'll ever get married again - unless a 98 year old billionaire proposes to me (well it happened to Anna Nicole!). I don't think tarot has an impact upon that, other than it's a good source of second income where I don't have to leave the house. Sue x

mythos	01 Jun 2005
I voted former, primarily because my son is now 30 ... so while I am still a single parent, my role is very ... er ... 'former'. Gosh, making heaps of sense here Arrrrggghhhh! Both my cats passed on last year ... grieving still. Do elderly parents count? Have a dog! My first tarot deck came from my first husband as a birthday present, and he tore the cards to pieces a few days later in a fit of temper. So that kinda put paid to tarot temporarily. Has it impacted in any specific way when I was still in a parenting role with boychild? He'd roll his eyes and say "Oh Mum not more of that weird stuff?' So, it provided humour value. With my elderly parents, I ... er ... permanently borrowed my first ever tarot book from my Dad, and one on Kabbalah, and Levi's History of Magic and ... well ... you get the picture. As pure projection, my Dad feared for many years that I might end up in a cult. Then, in acknowledgement of my more mature years, he decided that I would probably start a cult. Has this interfered in anyway with my tarot ... 'no' .... has it influenced my attitude to it ... 'no'. My cats played havoc with my tarot. Picture this: Mythos gets into tarot mind set, shuffles, lays out cards, lurking cat bounces into room, jumps onto tarot table, slides through spread, falls off other side of table. Now for the dog: Bought the Animal Medicine deck back in the mid '90's. Bring deck home, open it ... examine the cards, phone rings, put down deck, answer phone.... come back ... no deck, no dog. Find dog on back lawn, cards scattered around her in a circle. She lies smiling in the centre looking very happy with herself. New cards with toothmarks. True story! So in summary... son doesn't approve of the 'weird stuff', but that doesn't concern me. Father worries about cults, but that merely makes for interesting conversation. Mother likes to look at the artwork on my decks. Cats play with cards ... effects readings. Dog steals cards ... effects readings. Divorced all three husbands without refering to the cards ... no regrets. Thay are part of me, my life regardless of my situation ... and that really sums it up. mythos

raeanne	01 Jun 2005
Hi all, I voted as a former single parent - my two boys are all grown and out of the house but I have three cats at home. Tarot has helped me understand my boys/cats better. I have been able to get some insight that I might not have gotten any other way.

ocho8s	01 Jun 2005
I am a single mom and I think Tarot has helped me realized that life is a wheel of fortune and that what I perceive as bad today could be a great thing in the future, so now with my son, we like to tell stories to each other from the cards.... Blessings Anaoly

gareth.	01 Jun 2005
Since I described my daughters most recent boyfriend and told her (all accurately) which month he was born so that she had the heeby jeebies about it I keep it personal. I dont read for myself anymore. I dont even take up on other readings except on this site. I find this site does have the extra dimension! Maybe distance helps! G

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