im new, need help, understanding my cards

Thread originally posted on the Aeclectic Tarot Forum on 16 Jun 2005, and now archived in the Forum Library.

lynn	16 Jun 2005
im not even sure if im in the right forum, so please bear with me. this is my first post, other than when i joined. its about midnight now, i talked to my 14 year old daughter about 3 hours ago, {she lives with her dad, long story there}. anyway, it was a very upsetting call, my daughter and her dad and his new live in girlfriend and her 7 year old daughter are not getting along, i tried to do a reading, but, to me , it just made no sense at all, i think im just to upset to make any sense of it. any advice would be great. maybe a simpler spread might even be better. i havent been reading cards very long, so maybe thats my problem. thank you for taking the time to read this. lynn

light2000	16 Jun 2005
well you have right, you arent at the right thread. Here is for the presentations of the new members. But, you are a new member, so, welcome. I think that happened maybe beacuse you didnt work whith tarot a such long time like you had said. And i think that is very dificult to do a readings for ous self. For me is creepy. I never have good insights whith my personal readings. So maybe if you post your reading at the "your readings" you will have a lot of opinions. Nice to meet you, see you around the forum.

Mother Goose	16 Jun 2005
Welcome Lynn, I'm sorry you're in such distress right now. I got a little panicky just reading your post here. I certainly hope you find the help you need to understand what the cards are telling you! (((hugs))) If you just need to talk, I've been told I've got an excellent listening ear. :) MG

Amandajane	16 Jun 2005
I having being reading Oracle cards for about 6 months now and only have just begun my Tarot request but there is one thing that I do know it is very difficult to read for yourself and that when you are stressed or your mind is full with so any thoughts the cards are going to show this.As some of your thoughts do not make sense also the cards won't make sense. love and light Amandajane

Scorpion	16 Jun 2005
Lynn, Welcome to the boards. Sorry to hear about your predicament. I agree with Amandajane - reading for oneself isn't always easy as we're too close to the issues and certainly not when you're emotionally distressed: I wouldn't recommend reading for anyone then. You also say you haven't been reading long and this sounds like a heavy issue to take on if you're not feeling too confident with the cards. You haven't given any details of the reading so it's very hard to comment. If you've still got the cards and the spread, you could try posting in the "Your Readings" forum and people can give some assistance. It helps if you set out the spread in full - giving things like what question you asked, if any and what meanings you gave the card positions. Personally, I find it useful to know what the deck was as I can get it out if I've got it and I work more with the images than the book meanings. I've got to head off for work now but I'm sure there will be plenty of people who can give you some useful insights not only from the cards but also from experience. Good luck!

Major Tom	16 Jun 2005
Welcome to the community. :) The advice to post the reading on the Your Readings board is sound. You will get the help you need. :) I look forward to sharing with you and learning from you. Enjoy.

MCsea	16 Jun 2005
HI there, My advice to you for reading your own cards is to do a ONE CARD with a very specific question and do it on an internet site which provides a comprehensive explanation of the card - as not to rely so much on interpretation.. particularly when you are distressed, sad or desperate (Oh yea been there done that) hope you are OK now Marina

lynn	16 Jun 2005
i just wanted to say thank you to all of you who replied, i was very upset last night, today im alittle calmer, so im going to do another spread later tonight, after i call my daughter and check on her,and post it on the {your reading board } any advice and help understanding would be greatly appracted. lynn

Lady Maria	16 Jun 2005
lynn wrote: maybe a simpler spread might even be better. i havent been reading cards very long, so maybe thats my problem. thank you for taking the time to read this. lynn Hi Lynn, Sorry to hear about your troubles. Life is full of obstacles isn't it? I think the best way to do a reading is when you are feeling balanced. If you can do some breathing and calming excercises first, befor you start, the message will come through easier than if you're upset. I like doing 3 card spreads because it seems like enough cards to get a grasp the situation, and not too many to overwhelm you. The one I use is 1). Situation 2). Advice 3). Outcome Remember that every situations we're in is an oppurtunity to grow. Maybe imagining your daughter surrounded by love and light, and being happy would really help her right now. If you have a hard time understanding what the cards are saying you can post your reading under "My Readings" and someone is sure to help. Love & Light, Maria

WalesWoman	16 Jun 2005
Welcome to AT Lynn I hope you post both of your readings on the Your Readings section, because one... it will show the difference in your emotional levels and perceptions... since Tarot does act like a snapshot. I'm sure you want as much information as possible and that's why we usually pick much too big of spreads to begin with and end up confused by massive information. Plus being upset does nothing for the objectivity needed to read the cards clearly... that's why reading for ourselves is so hard... we can't get that emotional distance to see what is really going on. If you are new to reading Tarot, you are probably using the meanings that came with your deck and find them limiting or frightening... try just looking at the pictures, slow down and breathe, go with your first thoughts and write down anything, no matter how odd or off the wall it may seem. Listen to your feelings... also I would go to different Tarot sites for explainations and meanings of the cards in my spread and checked out the study groups, "Using Tarot Cards" and look up the meanings of cards in several different books. It took me forever to finish a reading, but the more I did that and spent time thinking about the cards and how they related to each other, the more I understood and had light bulbs flashing... sometimes it took days before the readings became clear. So don't fret over not getting it... you will and there are lots of readers here who are more than willing to share their insights with you. I'm sure you are worried about your daughter, but remember kids are also masters of the art of over reacting and pushing the right buttons to get the response they are looking for as well. She is a teenager and is also going through her second egocentric difficult phase... 14 going on 4 and for some reason kids at that age think life in general is out to make theirs a misery... everything seems to put them out, especially if they are expected to do more than they want to. Reality bites! She might be reacting to having someone else with her dad, since she probably secretly dreams of having her parents under the same roof and being a happy family... having a new woman and little girl in the house shatters that illusion to shreds. Been there... my kids didn't get over that until their dad remarried. For starts... take out the Star and concentrate on that for a bit, let it's light wash over you and fill you with some peace, hold onto the faith & hope that everything will be alright and send that loving message to your daughter. Blessings, WW

lynn	18 Jun 2005
thank you for your sweet thoughts and concern, i know she will go thru many changes , but its just so hard,, not knowing what to say or do for her.lynn

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