What can make you cry (or smile) ???

Thread originally posted on the Aeclectic Tarot Forum on 07 Mar 2002, and now archived in the Forum Library.

Ramses	07 Mar 2002
Hey folks... How are you ?...Hope youīre all fine!!! Now, my question is: What can make you cry? What can touch your heart, your soul... Oh, and remember...when I say cry, it can be either of happiness or sadness... Well...I think Iīm gonna have to start with myself, wonīt I? Sadness - I usually cry for sadness( I say "cry", but tears rarelly come out from my eyes), when Iīm not satisfied with myself...Iīm very self-critical...Iīm ALWAYS analizing myself...and thatīs why my self-steem is often pretty low...Itīs a bad thing...and I also feel pretty bad when I see people being bad to each other...or when I see people who are sad, or hopeless...It really makes me cry (inside)... Happiness - I could really cry of heppiness when I see people being kind with each other...One day I saw someone being very gentle and kind to a stranger, and that put a huge smile on my face...I simply couldnīt avoid smiling that way...Nothing could make me happier than that...People donīt have to be any kind with me, as long as they are kind with someone... I donīt know...I may sound a bit corny here, but thatīs the way I feel... How about you, folks?...What can make you cry(or smile)???

jade	08 Mar 2002
cry - an abused child tears of joy - a flower blossoming opening, my daughter smiling, my son's hug etc etc etc smile - just about anything :)

kayne	08 Mar 2002
I *bawled* during my all time favourite movie "Dancer in the Dark". A bit embarrousing in a public place but everyone else cried too. Bjork is just so real in that movie and it supported my views on the death penalty. And I am with you Jade, nothing is more horrible than an abused child. It doesn't take much for me to laugh :D I regularly laugh to the point of tears - it keeps me sain!!!

Hush	08 Mar 2002
friends! make me cry and laugh and everything..they're great. laughing till you cry...keeps me going through the day :D

Kiama	08 Mar 2002
The Green Mile made me cry for about half an hour, as did The Elephant Man. Happy Tears: When my emotion gets too big for my body. Usually when I remember how much I love my boyfriend, when I watch a happy film (Patch Adams and Cool Runnings always gets me) when somebody tells me how much they like/love me/appreciate me... When I've acheived something I've been trying to achieve for ages. Sadness: Never usually. I just get sad. I only really cry when I'm angry. Kiama

truthsayer	08 Mar 2002
really that's a tough one. it's seems to change all the time. most recently i cried b/c i was approaching my 40th b-day and hadn't done well on a test. in other words, feeling like a failure and hitting middle age. today it seems silly but not at that time. the other recent time was when my kitty died. i cry when bad things that happen to my family. sometimes i feel that i see so many terrible things at the hospital and when i was counselor that i tend to numb out to deal w/ really sad things. i know that it's imp that i do push my emotions away in order to be an effective helping professional and healer. however, this sacrifice seems to be a high price to pay in order to do the type of things i love and want to do. things seem to have to get overwhelming before i can release my emotions now. sometimes i fear that being numbed out emotionally to cope w/ the world may make me seem cold and unapproachable. that emotional numbness makes it hard to even laugh sometimes. things that make me laugh are my pets and the silly things they do. my husband's crazy sense of humor. the off the wall things my mother and i talk about.

Bings	09 Mar 2002
Seeing my children cry will make me cry. My youngest was crying yesterday because she thought her best friend didn't like her anymore. I found her sitting on the floor in the corner of her bedroom crying. It broke my heart. We cried together. Then we wiped our tears and had some chocolate ice cream. I cry at wedding and when babies are born. Dianne

tempestfire	10 Mar 2002
I am a very emotional person. (More so as i get older). Things touch me/ affect me in ways that make me so happy I cry. Like when someone does something to help out someone they may not know. During my marriage- my self- esteem was shattered... so now I tend to cry when people say something nice to me. (It is actually a happy thing- but my emotions get so overwhelmed by the unexpected). I cry for my children- knowing that they have suffered because of my decisions. I cry when I see other people cry. I just become so overwhelmed with compassion and a desire to help them- I feel their pain. I also cry when someone does something silly- I laugh so hard that I cry. (My children are really good at doing this to me). Wow- reading over this- it sounds like I spend most of my time in tears. But I assure you- its not that bad. tempestfire

Malachite	10 Mar 2002
I actually went through a weird phase with crying....I found I couldn't cry at my grandfather's funeral, but i could at Forrest Gump...which i realised while crying, thus causing me to cry even more... It actually got to the stage where i prayed for the ability to cry to come back...happy or sad, which thankfully now is resolved.... Definetly seconding on Cool Runnings...!

truthsayer	11 Mar 2002
malachite, thanks for posting about having probs crying sometimes. if it makes you feel any better i had difficulty crying at my grandparents funerals. honestly tho, i cared and cried more during the years they were living and suffering from pain and multiple hospitalizations so it felt welcome that life at last released them to go on. last week i took care of this elderly lady at the hospital who i knew was really suffering but i couldn't allow myself to get too involved emotionally or i'd be ineffective w/ caring for her physical and psychological needs. then saturday night at this con's awards banquet, one club lost their advisor very recently to leukemia. the members were holding each other and weeping on the stage while the presenter spoke about woman who died and what a worthwhile life she had lived. i couldn't hold the tears back while i listened and watched. i guess i could relax and cry b/c i didn't have some kind of expected role to play except be old emotional me wearing my heart on my sleeve again. i also laughed at lot at the con. ppl were just doing funny things and i started lightening up and acting silly. it was fun to make others laugh. it was a real emotional release for me. one i've needed for a while. the only way i know how to describe the repressed feeling is emotional constipation. very much into a fun deficit and very uncomfortable but the only way to cope w/ my outer world at this point. i have been chastized by the nursing instructors for being too emotional and crying on the floor or laughing too much. i understand why i can't but i wish i could figure out a happy medium so i don't totally repressed what's in my heart.

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