Are you ready to die??? ( OR Are you afraid of death???)

Thread originally posted on the Aeclectic Tarot Forum on 23 Feb 2002, and now archived in the Forum Library.

Ramses	23 Feb 2002
Hello folks... here I am again... You know...sometimes I think about death...of course we never know when we´re going to die, so , once in a while I think about being prepared or not to die... I know I´m not afraid at all of death...have no problems about it ...But, of course, I don´t wanna die, cause I know I still have so much to do...I´m still young, being only 22... Anyway...I think about it, from time to time...and that´s when I realize I should be demonstrating more to people how much I care about them, how much I love them...and, that´s what makes me try to grow, to improve, to do things better, to BE better as a person...cause, if I die tomorrow, I don´t wanna leave things unsaid, or things undone...when a simple "I love you" or " You mean a lot to me" could make somebody else´s life much better... So, friends, that´s today´s post... Are you REALLY prepared to die???....Be honest...Are you prepared for death, in case you were to die in a few time??? What kind of feelings does the thought of death cause on you???...but, be honest, alright?! LOVE,PEACE AND HARMONY TO YOU ALL !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Liliana	23 Feb 2002
Well, I am afraid of death, but not of what happens after, im afraid of the phsyical pain of dying and the pain others will feel by my death. I will NEVER be "ready to die": because I will always be hurting someone by my death, especially my 2 children. Sometimes I'll go through a down cycle where Id feel everyone would be better off if I were dead, even if it hurt them for awhile, but only when majorly depressed and feeling like nothing i do can turn out right . But Ive always lived for the day, Ive always thought I should do what I like in life, and if i die earlier at least ill die happy (usually this is in refernce to food, I hate being told what i should and shouldnt eat lol) All I can do is try my best and let what happens happen

faunabay	23 Feb 2002
OK - I don't think about death very much at all. I believe it's a part of life - it's going to happen so just accept and live your life the best way you can. Still though I'm not ready to die, as I feel I have much to give to this world, but I'm definitely not afraid of death. I believe in reincarnation and in doing so believe that this life I'm living now is not all there is. I know I'll be back so why fear death? I also believe death happens for reasons - many, many reasons. Some reasons we here on earth could never truely understand with our linear way of thinking, but for reasons none the less.

RainbowFire	23 Feb 2002
Well physically dying I don't fear, as I believe in the afterlife and reincarnation, but I don't feel ready for death as I am only 15 and there are so many thing I want to do in this life... with my friends and loves ones now, I want a career and this is the best life I've had yet I suppose so I dont want to lose it

aciddragon	23 Feb 2002
Ok now I'm really starting to like your subjects. First off no I'm not afraid of death. I wonder about death as in how will it be or what's the next door. This again is on the line of your astral projection topic. They say that projecting while your alive will help you when you actually die. That you will be able to make the transition easier. The only difference will be no silver cord nor body to return too If this is true..I don't know. My saying on death is when it's your time it's your time. No amount of hiding with protect you. I do believe that you can cause your death to come premature, but I don't think you can live past your set time on the world. On the reincarnation - I've read that you pick the life and trials your going to face in the next life?!? If this is the case, Someone please kick me and say what the heck were you thinking. ;) Adding on after reading liliana post - I get like this to..."Sometimes I'll go through a down cycle where Id feel everyone would be better off if I were dead" To add to this - I also wonder when I'm this majorly depressed. If the world would have been better off without me? Or, Have I being a good enough friend to my friends or other people in my life. Have I touch someones life?? Have I better someone? In this time I try to realize what my purpose is in this life cause I'm not just here to work all my life without meaning. If this is the case then yes I'm very ready for death. But, I know I have a reason for being here it's just for me to find out what it is. Maybe I will before I die?? Who knows.

Mateo06	24 Feb 2002
I am not afraid of death really, but more afraid of eternal life afterwards. I just can comprehend or grasp FOREVER... I guess i am afraid to leave this world but i would surely lay down my life to save anyone i love. or if i had to maybe even a stranger. I know i was put on this earth to help ppl and thats wat i am gona do. i use to have those " ppl would be better off without me" trends, but i grew out of the, now i have the occasional "what would ppl say/ do? how would ppl react if i died/killed myself" thoughts. there not as serioust though

Pollux	24 Feb 2002
I don't fear the physical pain - maybe there's none, you brain stops working... - and maybe I don't even fear dying. I'm not afraid of death. And, maybe I also am ready to die. I think about my being ready often - once everytime I look at Death or Judgement Cards, I can't tell why... Of course, if I died young, I would leave so many things undone, and therefore the transition would be quite difficult (I think I'd be so bound to this life I'd become a spectre) and probably also the reincarnation... This especially because, as you all said, it's not easy to think about the ppl you are leaving, those you know you would hurt if you were no longer to live. There's something curious about my view: I started thinking about death when I fell in love. I have you know I am one of those people believing that one just falls in love once in a liftime (argh! I sc***ed up my occasion!!!). I started thinking of this right after I met the person I fell in love with - 2 summers ago, and I still am! :-) - I can't explain why. Maybe because before I died, I wanted to love and be loved as I did/do. Because I wanted to avoid carrying this chain of a lost love from the past in my next life, a sort of Karmic sorrow... Who knows. :)

Kiama	24 Feb 2002
'm not ready to die. I don't think I ever will be, cuz 'm the type of person who carries on starting new things and planning ahead and doing stuff, so for me, there will always be something left to do, something not finished.... I am also afraid of the feeling of dying. The loss of breath, the knowledge that you are dying, watching your love ones grieve, trying to work out what your last words to your loved ones will be.... That's what I'm afraid of most: I love all my friends, family, and esp. my boyfriend, and I can't think about saying goodbye to them without crying. I'm not scared of the after death thing, Im pretty confident about that, and it is consolation that I will meet my loved ones again in the next life, or afterlife. But until that time, we'll be separated... And that scares me and makes me feel lonely. Kiama

amyel	24 Feb 2002
I'm not afraid of death. It's gonna happen someday, no matter what I do to try to stop it. Am I ready for it? Well, yes and no. I mean, since I'm not afraid of it, I guess I am ready. But, this doesn't mean I am in any particular hurry, if you understand.

New River	24 Feb 2002
I am not afraid of dying. it can't be any scarier than living! love, light and hope, New River

jade	25 Feb 2002
totally! but i would like to wait until my 3 year old is an adult! in light, jade ps besides i have alot more light to shine!

Major Tom	25 Feb 2002
I can only echo my wise friend Faunabay, who has said it much better than I could have: Quote: faunabay (24 Feb, 2002 09:56): OK - I don't think about death very much at all. I believe it's a part of life - it's going to happen so just accept and live your life the best way you can. Still though I'm not ready to die, as I feel I have much to give to this world, but I'm definitely not afraid of death. I believe in reincarnation and in doing so believe that this life I'm living now is not all there is. I know I'll be back so why fear death? I also believe death happens for reasons - many, many reasons. Some reasons we here on earth could never truely understand with our linear way of thinking, but for reasons none the less.

Diana	25 Feb 2002
I don't mind dying, but I do really hope that my next life will be a happy one. I wouldn't like to be born as a starving Afghan, or in the middle of a tribal war in West Africa. So I'm not afraid of death, but I'm definitely not ready to die, because I want to be able to mother my kid until he is able to cope for himself. His heartbreak if I died when he is still a kid would be too much for me to bear.

blumoon	25 Feb 2002
since we are talking about passing over to other worlds/dimensions, what do you guys think about John Edward?

funkpuss	25 Feb 2002
Yes I am ready to die now as my life has been a totall mess for the last 6 years. + I've lost my faith from BAD Clairvoyant, tarot readers etc. Even if i think positive nothing seems to go right for me. I've just split with my boyfriend, I'm homeless, I have NO friends, my mum died 5and a half years ago, my brother is paralised 3 months after my mum died. I had pre cancer cells+ I fell very very depressed. So why not end my life? Funkpuss

Kiama	26 Feb 2002
Quote: funkpuss (26 Feb, 2002 04:04): So why not end my life? Because somewhere out there, I can guarantee you here is somebody who you mean the world to. Somebody who will always remember those wonderful things you did for them, the laughs you shared, the hardships you faced. When you've hit rock bottom, there is no place else to go but up again, and soon everything will be better than before. Some people say that we suffer these things because without pain we cannot know truly what happiness is, nor can we appreciate if fully. Suicide is not an option. Think of it merely as something to think about to pass the depressing nights. In the end, lif is a gift. Life is the best thing that will ever happen to you. I know that if you weren't born, there would be many people in this world who would be worse off, because you had never touched them with your light. Each of us has worth, light, and love to share with one another. However, there will always be a constant struggle to feel better, to get a better house, salary, clothes, etc... That's part of the enjoyment of life, cuz when you're older, you can look back at what you did, what you tried, what you failed, what you succeeded and laugh. Kiama

funkpuss	26 Feb 2002
Hi Thanks for your advice but I'm finding it very difficult as I have given up everything in England to move to France with my ex-boyfriend and only for him to tell me that he thinks of girls and prositutes and doesn't want to to me about any emotions. I'm now homeless and I have to go back to London. Also he told me that he is bisexual so what place is there for me in the relationship that's why i had to end it but he should of told me when I was in London not when I'm stuck in France and can't speak any French. I'm see in 3 Dr's which help alot but why are people sooooo selfish because of there own insecrities. He has messed up my head and has mad me feel like ending my life soooooo many times. He wants to be with me but I can't trust him as he is likey yo go and see prositutes. I have tried to help him but I can't help him when he has caused my depression. Funkpuss

Malachite	26 Feb 2002
funkpuss:...I'm not going to make patronising comments....all i can say is one b***ard doesn't(shouldn;t) make the world a worse place....there are always the right people out there that can remind you of that...hope you bump into them...;-) original thread: I actually went through an 'I'm going to die' phase when i was about nine....I was lying awake in bed one night, and i started thinking.. 'one day, I won't BE...something I actually can;t imagine...in what, say 70 years....10% down already...woosh...' since then, I think I;ve been kinda...ready to die.....having said that, I still feel there are things to do and say and see, but when the time does come, I'll be ready.... malachite

Mystick Dragon	26 Feb 2002
There have been many times when I felt that death would be an escape from the pain that I recieve everyday from my family. I've almost tried suicide, the right way with a 12 inch long butcher knife, but it was my dog who looked at me with her saddened amber eyes and her wiggling tail that made me put the knife down. I'm scared and not at death, I know that if I'm not reincarnated, that I will be with my lost loved ones untill the next life. I'm afraid of losing my friends and family. I used to think that I would die in a car crash at the age of 16 by a drunk driver, yet now I'm 18 and still not driving! --Dragon

Moonklad	26 Feb 2002
Well, I see and deal with death on a daily basis because of my job. It is something I think about alot since I am exposed to it frequently. I am terrified of dying hooked up to machines and surrounded by tubes and lying in a pool of my own waste. Sorry to be graphic but its my thoughts. So, yes I am afraid of the physical pain of death and right now I feel that I am not ready in the sense that I feel there are still some things I need and want to do before that time comes. Other times I feel like I want to kill myself. Sincerely..I just get tired and want to rest..really rest, forever. But..whats the point in that since I believe in reincarnation..lol. I would probably just have to deal with all the same crap again in another body. Being dead, on the other hand might be a grand experience except the pain it will cause others left behind. Sometimes I think about being dead and I look forward to it like I would any new experience. Moon

GeminiLady	26 Feb 2002
Ramses, Are you sure you are only 22? Your body might be, but you sure post like a wise old soul....:-) ok..good question... I also have much left to do...So much that I wonder if I will get it all done in one lifetime.... Aside from that, I definitely want to be around to raise my child. However--I am looking forward to being reunited with my loved ones on the other side. I can't wait to enjoy the welcome home party and be with the people I love that have crossed over. Love and Light, Gem

truthsayer	27 Feb 2002
do i fear death? no. 3 years ago i faced death 3x and escaped alive. from those experiences, i have decided that what i truly fear is suffering a prolonged agonizing death. i have all ready suffered a chronic long debilitating illness that almost took my life. death didn't frighten me. living another day with the pain i suffered 24/7 was worse than death. TO FUNKPUSS RE: SUICIDAL FEELINGS: i started having chronic pain in 1994. my pain and a myriad of other serious medical problems including major depression plagued me until i was forced to leave my full time job in 1999. i loved my job and was proud of the work i did. that was like a mini death just having to face i was not able to work. i was completely distraught over never ending physical and mental pain, financial problems, medical issues, marital problems, grief over giving up my job, feeling like no one cared if i lived or died and loss of a dear friend--her choice not mine. i have never felt such despair in my whole life. i had hit bottom so hard i was licking up dirt. i decided to kill myself but one person stood up and told me she loved me and would be devasted if i died--that was reason enough to live. i sought psychiatric treatment. my friend stuck w/ me thru thick and thin to help me w/ the marriage probs, et al. part of the mystery pain issue was resolved when i had to have emergency gall bladder surgery. my gall bladder was gangrenous and if i hadn't sought treatment i would have died. when i wasn't debilitated by pain i became more rational and able to think thru the mess my life had become. i realized that my despair had been caused by too many years of physical suffering and not enough emotional support in my life at home or on the job. i'm still not completely well but due to my friend i have turned my life around. i am retraining in nursing, resolved financial issues and saved my marriage. things did not look this good 3 years ago. i won't say it was easy and it's still not but at least i wanted to live enough that i hung on for issues to work themselves thru. it was damned hard but got easier to live over time. i had to accept bing alive on a moment by moment basis and learn how to communicate my feelings better. now i rarely have suicidal thoughts and those are fleeting. my life has renewed meaning. no one can talk you into living if your mind is made up but consider living life moment by moment. depression is anger turned inside out. you are projecting all your angry feelings for your boyfriend towards yourself. get out of france asap. start looking for another life. i know these things are exhausting to do right now but work w/ your doctors. the feelings you are experiencing have a long history. what happened in france is "the straw that broke the camel's back". it seems to have started around the time your mother died. everyone has a breaking point. everyone is human. everyone makes mistakes. give yourself a well-deserved break from punishing yourself for what happened. live in the moment and it will get easier. i'm glad i saw the suffering thru but i really do not want to suffer 7 years like i did again before i get some relief. i know what my breaking point is and it's a dark place i will never forget nor do i desire to ever return there. hence, my feeling of not fearing death but the prolongation of life when i see no hope in sight of physical recovery and a meaningful life. unless you've ever experienced the depth of such feelings it's nigh to impossible to comprehend.

funkpuss	27 Feb 2002
Hi, First I would say to anyone how is depressed and feel like killing themselves is come to France the systems is soooooo fast it’s unbelievable!!!!! So that’s one good thing that has come from my depression. I’ve had severe migraines since I was 4 yrs old and I’ve been to Dr’s in England but nothing. I’m going through a hellish time with my ex –boyfriend and I havn’t had a migraine since I’ve had acupuncture. + I’ve seen 2 other Dr’s for Psycotheapy . I will continue my treatment when I go back to London but I know it’s going to take a long time before the Dr’s refer me as I can’t go private. Yes I feel much better today but I still feel up and down re: my ea-xboyfriend, that’s life and I know that I will feel much better one day even though I feel like ending my life. I had a friend who killed herself just a year before my mum dies and all the other bad stuff. I was soooooo angry that I didn’t get to say good bye and I couldn’t talk about it as I was so cut up. But I told myself that I will never do that as it was not worth it. But I can understand why she killed herself. I haven’t even up on hope just yet. I also took some anti-depressant many years ago which made me feel like I was on acid and I will never take them again that’s why I’ve gone all herbal etc. Anti-dressive tablets can help most people but they are not proven that they can treat depression. They make you put on loads of weight and affect your sex drive and + they don’t deal with the problem that has made you depressed in the first place. But I would say to those try everything even going on hols, going to the gym. + big thanks for all you help and I know I’ve still got a way to go before my problem is sloved. I also feel that if my ex-boyfriend told me the truth aboy meeting up with his ex-girlfriend and seeinf prositutes things could have been different, but we can't even talk about the weather. funkpuss

Ramses	27 Feb 2002
Hey folks ... how are you?...Hope you´re just fine... And , thanks Geminilady...for what you´ve said... Well, I can notice a common sense here...most people, or at least many people, don´t fear death...and I think that´s a good thing...if we fear death, we won´t live the way we were supposed to live, always worried about the day when we´re gone... We just gotta understand death...and accept it, without desiring it...understand that death is to come, some day, and that´s why we gotta live as if there was no tomorrow... We can´t let negative things to affect us, and take away from us the oportunity of living our lives the most and the best we can...bad things do happen, but these bad things can´t affect us if we do not pay attention to them... You know...the girl who is in France, and the ex-boyfriend said bad things to her, and now she wanted to commit suicide...I understand what she feels...I also think that, at least once in a lifetime, everyone in the world has already thought of suicide...I , many times, thought of suicide...until I decided not to pay attention to things, or people, which make me suffer... If someone hurts me...well, too bad for this person, for he/she is not evolving, not growing...I won´t be affected by someone´s bad acts...At least I´ll be in peace with myself...I can be enough for myself...Having someone by our side is great, but we gotta be just as ready for when we have nobody, and focus on the good things in life...even if at the moment, the only good thing we can focus on is just the wonderful moon above, or the breeze passing by... Well, that´s it...live, and let live , folks!!!!!! LOVE,PEACE AND HARMONY TO YOU ALL !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

raeanne	27 Feb 2002
I am surprised at the number of people that say they are not afraid of death. Maybe my mind is a bit too graphic but I can’t imagine being in the World Trade Center and not being horribly afraid as the building came crashing down. I don’t think I could calmly sit in my car while I watched a semi-truck heading right at me at full speed. Being trapped underwater, unable to breathe, would probably make me panic beyond belief. If I were in a burning building and not be able to get out, I don’t think I could just say “oh, well”. Dying scares the willies out of me! Now, the afterlife? I’m not afraid of that at all!

Malachite	27 Feb 2002
raeanne: I think that fearing dying painfully and unprepared is different from fearing the end of your life. Not fearing death is not fearing change, assuming the time is right for that change to occur. Not fearing dying tragically and without preparation is common sense...;-) btw...has suicide become too fashionable...I mean, 70+ years ago, if you were unhappy, you didn't mope about it, you found something to MAKE you happy....like crochet, or tennis..:-)....now, we all feel comfortable with ENJOYING depression (as a hypocrite, i raise my hand..)...and having some perverse social obsession with suicide....for Gods sake...lets not be so passive...if you don;t like your life, change it!...(energy here is meant to be exhaltive, not offensive, btw...) I did go through a phase a couple of years ago, but i got over it by holding a knife against my wrist, and asking whether I was really ready to give up life...i found i still had things i wanted to do... If you still have something you want to do, get out there and do it. enjoy life, not death.... :) malachite

lilmystic	27 Feb 2002
I'm a writer, and I know secretly that I AM very much afraid of death. I keep journals and write down things obsessively---it's probably for posterity, in case I 'wind up' dead. I'm 17, and who knows. I resent the comments that 'suicide has become too fashionable'. So perhaps it has. But as someone who has undergone depression and mental issues, it's not fashionable at all. There are days when you do not fear death, but rather you don't care about it. As in, you don't care if someone enters your room without knocking--its importance is greatly underestimated in such mental states, and it is a painfully flat experience. Life flatlines before you, not your heart.

Ramses	28 Feb 2002
Hey folks... well, I can notice here that the world is all messed up...or at least, in parts... it seems that most people are not afraid of death, but AFRAID OF LIFE ... it seems that this present world has gorwn into such a confusion, that people don´t know what to expect from it anymore...and are disappointed with their lives, with the world... I realize now what some people have told me on these forums, and now I know what my mission, and other people´s missions, in this world is: to change this situation, to make people think... Yeah people...we gotta change it , and give inspiration to those who have lost it ...let´s do our part, and help others to love life again!!!!!.... LOVE, PEACE AND HARMONY TO YOU ALL !!!!!!!!!!!!!

Mystick Dragon	28 Feb 2002
All right people. TO THOSE WHO WANT TO COMMIT SUICIDE: If you succeed, and I find out, I will kill myself just so I can follow you to the afterlife to kick your ass for leaving us behind! I don't mean to sound rude, but I know what they are going through, and I wanted to die too, but that's what a good friend said to me just so I WOULDN'T kill myself. So, don't. Remember, Karma's comin back, and you'll be DAMN HAPPY later on! Pardon my language, but it makes it sound better! --Dragon

funkpuss	01 Mar 2002
Dragon Your right! I feel much better but still up and down but I know know that I won't kill myself. But I really now understand when poeple feel that it's the only way out. I'm leaving my ex-boyfriend tomorrow as he is taking me back to England. Thanks for ALL your help folks!!!! funkpuss

Kiama	01 Mar 2002
Funkpuss: Good luck with moving back to England and leaving your ex-boyfriend. It takes alot of courage to even realise that the relationship is not gonna work, let alone finally cut those ties and move on. And I just know there's someone else waiting for you somewhere! Kiama

magdalene	02 Mar 2002
Well, unless one dies in one's sleep, I think when death comes a first response will be "oh ****". You may think about it intellectually, but I think it probably catches everybody off guard. My last thought might be something like, "this is it?", or "what's the date?" I'd probably like to be aware of the date of my death if I was tuning out. Intelectually, I am not afraid, though I prefer not to die any time soon. I have children, so I know my genes will live on. I find great comfort in knowing that. It's taken me some years to understand that nothing, absolutely nothing, comes before my children and husband. Their well-being is my well-being. I live that belief every waking hour. The creepy thing is, is that one of us reading these comments could be dead within the year, or even a few days. Chilling, ain't it? magdalene

Ramses	02 Mar 2002
well, Magdalene... I hope none of us will die so soon...but, if it happens, then that it be a peaceful death...and that all we had to do in this life be accomplished... LOVE, PEACE AND HARMONY TO YOU !!!!!!!!!!!!

raeanne	02 Mar 2002
“I’ve been lately thinkin’ about my life’s time, all the things I’ve done and how it’s been. And I can’t help believin’ in my own mind, I know I’m gonna hate to see it end. I’ve seen a lot of sunshine, slept out in the rain, spent a night or two all on my own. I’ve known my lady’s pleasure, had myself some friends, spent a time or two in my own home. Days, they pass so quickly now, the night are seldom long, time around me whispers when it’s cold. The changes somehow frighten me, still I have to smile, it turns me on to think of growing old. Although my life’s been good to me, there’s still so much to do, so many things my mind has never known. I’d like to raise a family, I’d like to sail away, and dance across the mountains on the moon. I have to say it now, it’s been a good life all in all. It’s really fine to have a chance to hang around. And lie here by the fire, and watch the evening tire, while all my friends and my old lady sit and pass the pipe around. And talk of Poems, Prayers, and Promises, and things that we believe in. How sweet it is to love someone, how right it is to care. How long it’s been since yesterday, and what about tomorrow, and what about our dreams and all the memories we share.” John Denver – Poems, Prayers, and Promises. I can’t improve on this. “I know I’m gonna hate to see it end.”

truthsayer	02 Mar 2002
how much i have loved john denver's music for over 20 years. i was so sad when he died. "poems, prayers and promises" is one of my favorites. i also love "annie's songs" and "country roads". personally, i think that if i were to die in an accident or some other unexpected way, i would be thinking,"oh! sh**!!!!!!" :D i think the horror of the final moments of life is worse for the living to imagine than it was for the person in question. it's over for them but we the living continue carrying the memories and aren't released from that pain. funkpuss, i really happy for you that you are going to have some kind of resolution to this situation. trust me as someone who has been there--give it a year or even less and your life will look different. be sure to stay on the path of personal growth you have started and that will ease the transition.((((((((funkpuss))))))))))

funkpuss	10 Mar 2002
Hi everyone, I'm funkpuss..the girl who was felt like killing herself and had lots of problems with her boyfriend in France. Well I'm back in London and I feel much better now!!!! I no longer feel like killing myself but I know I have to still bet this depression. I know I will come out of it but I just need time. But thanks for all your support!!! I really mean it BIGTIME! Funkpuss

Kiama	10 Mar 2002
In that case, 3 Cheers for Funkpuss! I think you're very brave, FP Keep it up! :) :) :) Kiama

Malachite	10 Mar 2002
3 more cheers...

coldsuns	04 Jun 2003
6 cheers more =P Okok..i guess not many new comers get to see this topic. So..i bring it up to see how the others see about -die- and -death- To me..im not ready to die yet. And i dont want to die. If let me choose..i will choose not to die, of coz -.-! But..if my day is here, i'll let it be, and choose to die loRz. Im very willing to give up my life for others- my 1 life for 3 more lifes or more. Actually..not really afraid, but dunt want to? ^_^

Inana	05 Jun 2003
To be honest, i think is very easy to say you are not afraid of death. Thats easy when you think only about yourself. But... aren't you afraid of the death of your loved ones? Anyways im afraid of my own death, not because of what will come later if something comes. Im afraid because of the physical pain, like others have said. Dont think death is something one can be ready for. Its like love or parenting. One can be more or less ready, but never at 100%. Funkpuss, im happy you are feeling better. And for those all who think about suicide or feel depressed, just think that even in the darkest hours there's always a light. Suicide is something most of the people have thought about, but if doing so, one lose all the oportunities to discover the good things of life. So is needed to keep the fighting spirit. Like we use to say here: All has a solution except the death.

marlowe	05 Jun 2003
I used to be scared of death, but I'm not anymore - I'm ready to die for what I believe in, and I'm prepared to die fighting for what I believe in.

Kismet	07 Jun 2003
This topic is utterly fascinating to me, each of you offer such various emotions and views on death. I relate to each of you, depending on my frame of mind at the time. I do not fear death currently. I most likely would be scared in the few moments before it occured though, such as if it were a robbery and I were at gun point or such. I hate knowing those left behind suffer when we pass. Having children, I wish them to be grown when I pass, as many of you do. I'm currently no longer suicidal, though this time last year I couldn't have said such. Having lost someone I love to suicide, it's not an option for me, to leave someone that loves me behind to suffer not just with grief but the other questions and emotions this causes. Anyone considering such, feel free to look at this link http://groups.aol.com/spouseso?mmch_=0 If it doesn't cause you to reconsider, I don't know what would. As others here, I too look forward to seeing my loved ones that have passed. What a day of rejoicing that will be! :) Love and Light, Kismet

Moongold	17 Jun 2003
My fear was always more about life :D And having regrets when it came to the end. Fear of death was more to do with regrets about life. Of course the answer to that is obvious:)

Alex	17 Jun 2003
Quote: Originally posted by Ramses [b] Are you REALLY prepared to die???.... [b] No Quote: Originally posted by Ramses What kind of feelings does the thought of death cause on you???...but, be honest, alright?! Fear. Alex.

Alobar	18 Jun 2003
i haven't been afraid of death since i was quite little, but lately i've been rather fascinated by it. i mean, it's the ultimate mystery, right? since i've been working deeply with Hekate, i've been very curious as to what lies ahead... not curious enough to volunteer, mind you! but i'm absolutely at the point where if i knew it was coming soon, i'd be at peace with it. the ONLY thing that would bother me is the affect it would have on my friends, and my beloved Dragonfly. but death is a part of life, and it should be as beautiful as we can make it. unfortunately for many, it can't be that due to the programming of society or their particular spiritual path. they see death as something to be run from, kicking and screaming in abject terror. and that is too bad, as NOBODY beats the reaper!

zorya	18 Jun 2003
been there, done that ;) i'm not afraid of death itself. the thought of my children being left motherless terrifies me.

buzzbee	18 Jun 2003
I'm fearful of suffering & the means of death, but not the crossing over or the after-life. I've dealt with my parent's deaths & sought to ease their transition. I've been a trance medium since the '70's & have chatted up a few experienced personalities. Reasonably I can't prove what they report & take it with the proverbial grain of salt...in a 5# bag! & I have interacted with my parents since their deaths. For example, dad popped in & told me when my sister was ill & needed assistance. Stuff like that. I'm definitly not ready nor willing -- when I go it'll probably be with two handsfull of grass! I want to outlive my cats. I accept but can't prove reincarnation. I'd like to keep the slate clean, but I know I have an awful lot to learn yet, & trust I'll have 'nuff time to do it.

Alex	18 Jun 2003
Oh, tell me. Every single day since my son was born I pray and wish for a long life. My son's father tried to kill himself, and I must confess, I can't forgive him for that. Unfortunately. I feel as if he'd stabbed our son in the back with 100 spades and plus. Alex. Quote: Originally posted by zorya the thought of my children being left motherless terrifies me.

sagitarian	18 Jun 2003
I'm PETRIFIED of dying! I have my somewhat beliefs in what happens, what "feels" right after you die, but for some reason, I'm scared of it. I'm scared both of "how" i'm going to die (wether it will be painful, being murdered, sickness, etc) and I'm also scared of what really does exist after you die. I believe that no matter what happens, I will go to a good place, but I don't want to leave anyone I love behind. I want to stay and help guide my children, my husband (if I die before him), some of my friends. After my family can come with me, then I'll allow my spirit to move on. I don't know, no one knows what's REALLY there when you die, and that's what scares me. I want to know what to expect, and I don't. I guess when it comes down to it, I'm scared that I won't like being dead, that somehow I will still carry my mortal feelings into the afterlife, such as sorrow, that I'd want to cry everytime I see my children crying b/c I've passed. I couldn't take that!

Woof	18 Jun 2003
I believe in reincarnation or, at the very least, some continuation of the life "force". But I think that I still have some primal fear of THE VOID. I have a friend who has an arrangement with one of these cryogenic places to have his head removed and frozen upon his death. When they have perfected cloning, he will, so he believes, (and he pays for an insurance policy to fund this belief) have a new body cloned. I find that much scarier than death. Woof

Tor	22 Jun 2003
I'm not afraid of dying and this day is good as any other day. I also don't have the urge to tell people stuff before I leave. I know I can do it later........in another life, another place. Death must be good. It's the only sure thing in life, and doesn't make any difference between people. It's fair... I love death like I love life. They're both part of the cyclus. My soul is immortal anyway....

Alex	22 Jun 2003
I kinda fear that more than anything. Coming back, oh my, once shall be enough. I don't want to come back. But given the undevelloped state of my spirit, I'm probably in for many future lives. Alex. Quote: Originally posted by Balder My soul is immortal anyway....

The Enchanter	23 Jun 2003
I'm afraid of the moments before the passover. But I'm prepared for the aftermath. A quote i made "you may not die from what you're afraid of, but you may be a afraid of death" it isn't that great..and i think it contridics itself...but it makes you think.

Sorceress_Jade	24 Jun 2003
I am not yet ready to die, but I'm not afraid of it. I'm actually incredibly curious. I wish desperately that I could remember dying and I look forward to it eagerly. However I know that I have a lot left to do and learn here, which is what keeps my curiosity form LITERALLY killing me. Funny that.

isthmus nekoi	25 Jun 2003
Quote: Originally posted by Alex Coming back, oh my, once shall be enough. Yeah, once is plenty enough!

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