A friends goodbye message

Thread originally posted on the Aeclectic Tarot Forum on 07 May 2002, and now archived in the Forum Library.

Bings	07 May 2002
I was in my kitchen the other day, and for no reason thoughts of an old friend popped into me head. It wasn't like "Gee, I wonder how So-and-so is doing... I haven't spoken to him in a long time." It was more like a message... "I'm Ok. Don't worry about me." I found out yesterday that he died Friday. And although we hadn't spoken in a while, he cared enough to say goodbye to me. I think maybe he knew I would take his suicide hard and he wanted me to know he would be OK. It's the first time anyone has said goodbye to me while crossing over and it is really really hard to deal with. I wasn't even sure where to post this but wanted to talk to friends who I thought would understand what a message from someone crossing over is. I also needed to get my feeling out so now I can, hopefully, get through the day. Dianne

Rhiannon	07 May 2002
Hi Dianne. (((((hugs))))) My grandfather said goodbye to me after he passed as well. It is definitely a different experience, for those of us that it doesn't happen to often, anyway. Sending light your way, Rhiannon :)

cjtarot	07 May 2002
Dianne, I am glad you posted...close your eyes and feel the hugs from all your friends here. The msg. was "I'm ok" , keep that in mind when you think of your friend. It's hard to lose someone you care about, but the fact that he is at peace now will eventually help you deal with your loss. I wish I knew more comforting words.. Love and Light CJ

lunalafey	07 May 2002
Bings, I just got done reading a book about After Death Comunications. Your post could have been an example from the book.... try www.after-death.com here you can find out more about ADC's as well as talk to other that are going through the same loss. I have lost many friends, it can be a bumpy road at times, a wonderful stroll down memory lane, or just smooth sailing.

Umbrae	07 May 2002
Had the same (ADC) when my best friend of 27 years passed. He was hooked up to the machines, while the family waited for me to get to Albuquerque (and unplug him). Best to you. Think how many folks out there, their loved ones are saying good-bye, and they cannot even hear it…? We are blessed.

debins	07 May 2002
I’m of the same mind as Umbrae. Try to realize that you are blessed with a goodbye message from your dear friend. Your dear friend was counting on you hearing him. A man I dearly loved died two years ago. He came to me in a dream to say goodbye and three days later I discovered he had died three days prior. I’ve had one vision since, two symbolic type of messages, maybe three, and three dreams—not about what I wished but a form of communication I am certain is from him. Your dear friend DOES what you to know he is all right. The thing now will be to not unduly mourn. I KNOW how awfully difficult that is, REALLY, I know. But in reading some books about those who pass over before us it is stressed that we not impede their journey with the weight of our emotions. I am praying for you at this very moment that you might have wisdom and peace. When the going gets difficult send him love. He'll receive your message and he'll send message of love back. Cultivate your listening skills and try to dwell on excelling in that psychic area. I'm a better teacher than practicer, but I'm learning to do this myself. And the reward is that it works. Namaste, Debins.

funkpuss	08 May 2002
Hi Dianne, Sorry to hear about that but at least you must of found a tiny bit of comfort knowing that your friend said goodbye to you. My best friend 6 years ago this week killed herself. I had a feeling that she would do it as she made everyone she knew little gifts, mine was some earings, which I never worn as yet. BUT I must say I took her death really bad, even worse than my own mothers death and I just couldn't talk about it and I was in fits all the time. The other day I got a message from her from a medium. I didn't expect her to give me a message as she only gave me a message twice before since her death. The medium told me that she had a lady for me and it's her birthday today, which I totally forgot about but the other thing was that she was OK and happy and she just wanted to thank me for being there for her a few weeks before she killed herself. I also got messages from one frind that died in his sleep due to to much drink and another 2 guy's who got shot ead. I think I know about 10 people who I used to go to school with and got messages from them before knowing that they had passed on. So I know life lives on! Dianne I'm sure when your frien has settled you will be able to talk to him and even ask questions, it doesn't have to be WHY did you do it but something silly like what did you think of that film on TV, just like before but coming from another dimention. Funky

zorya	08 May 2002
i recieved the same basic message from my father-in-law, when he died. he told me that "everything is going to be o.k." and left me with this overwhelming feeling of comfort and love, it was a great gift. now i KNOW that when someone dies, they are not truly gone. please know that your friends suicide was NOT your fault, or something that you could have prevented. i'll pm you more on the subject.

Bings	08 May 2002
Thank you everyone for your replies. They really are a great comfort. There was this feeling of guilt over the message to me... How he could think of me at such a time while I hadn't thought of him recently... Then I was told that there was a list of people he wanted told of his death. I topped the list. The guilt I felt over not talking to him over the past few months was so strong. I'm also taking his death harder than I thought I would when I was first told. Such a wonderful man is gone and I will never have those great conversations with him again. I will miss him so much. I think he KNEW I would feel guilt for not getting in touch with him in a while. I think he KNEW I would be wondering that maybe if we had been talking lately I could have made a difference and somehow stopped his suicide. I think he also KNEW that because I cared about him so much I would take his death hard. That is why his message was "I'm OK. Don't worry about me." I still remember the comfortable feeling that came over me with the message. And I didn't feel the need to go to the phone to call him. He was in his own way reassuring me. Telling me not to feel guilty, that there was nothing I could have done to stop him and that he cared about me as much as I cared about him. I will remember him always. Thank you everyone, Dianne

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