Does a house choose YOU???

Thread originally posted on the Aeclectic Tarot Forum on 19 Aug 2002, and now archived in the Forum Library.

Dark Inquisitor	19 Aug 2002
A friend recently went to a very good psychic to ask about a move she was considering. The psychic told her that when we buy a house, we don't really choose the house, the house chooses us!!!! Any insight into this theory would be appreciated - I think it's an interesting concept, but I've never heard it before. Tarotphelia

wavebreaker	19 Aug 2002
Interesting concept, yes. Both times I bought a house (my previous apartment and my current house) I knew the minute I entered it that it was going to be mine. Similarly, with all the other houses I viewed, I knew right away they weren't going to be mine. I think my current house definitely chose me. I had employed an estate agent to help me find a house and they would send me emails every morning with available houses that matched my search criteria. This house was one of the first they sent me, and it matched all my search criteria, except for the price, which was too high. I did look at the pictures, and I liked them a lot, but I took no further notice because of the high price. A week later, they sent it to me again. I ignored it. Then, after a few weeks of looking at houses that were within my budget but all needed extensive renovating, I though of THE house again. It was still available so I decided to check it out. I drove into the street, and I loved it. I crossed the threshold and, even without having seen any of the rooms, I knew I wanted it. And I ended up buying it... :) I moved in about a year ago and I still absolutely love it. :) :)

Emily	19 Aug 2002
I also believe that a house chooses you - When I moved into my house 18 years ago, it was at a knockdown price because it had been empty for a couple of years and needed extensive, but within budget, modernisation. I remember it was a cold day but the house was very light inside and warm, it felt right. My husband felt it too, we put an offer on it the next day, the only people who did and got it lol I've also been in a house that my sister was going to buy and felt the hairs rise on the back of my neck, she didn't buy it, I couldn't have lived in a house with such a weird feeling to it either.

amyel	19 Aug 2002
Well, maybe a bit of both is going on. I started looking for a house before hubs returned from Bosnia, because I didn't know the city all that well, and didn't know how long it would take to find one we liked. Found a real estate agent through a friend's recommendation, and he was great! Really took the time to help me out. Anyway, I saw lots of photos. Selected 5 to view over two nights. Real estate agent said "You'll know within the first five minutes - maybe sooner. So don't feel bad if you don't want to see a whole house". This house - my first - was marked right up at the upper end of my price range. The photo was taken on a grey winter's day. The house is white stucco and there was about 4 ft of snow in the yard - so imagine this photo: white house on a white field on a grey day. I liked it when I first saw it. Saw some more, and started to compare them to this one. Hubs came home and we started to look at houses, but he hadn't seen this one. I'd told him about though. One day we saw 22 houses in one day! This one was the last - and it was the first time hubs had seen it. He felt it immediately. By then, it had dropped in price by a substantial amount. We had seen another house we liked, too. So we did the old pro & con list for each. Finally, we settled on this one.

the hermit	19 Aug 2002
I agree with amyel. You chose each other. Pets, houses, rocks, friends and lovers... All involve something... call it vibrations or whatever. I think it's always a mutual decision or it won't work.

ladycj	19 Aug 2002
I agree that a house chooses you, then you choose the house. That welcome feeling is the house's invatation, then you decide if this is the feeling is one you can live with. When you choose a house that hasn't chosen you, it can be very unpleasant. Just ask a couple that one of them liked the house, and the other didn't. I bet they end up with a lot of problems the minute they move in.

VGimlet	20 Aug 2002
Ken and I knew the moment we stepped inside that this was the house for us. There was just something about it - and the more we saw, the more we both liked it. We'd looked at probably 30 houses, and none of them were quite right, but this one felt perfect. We were both totally comfortable the day we moved in, and felt like we were home. And after almost 20 years, we still like it.

the hermit	20 Aug 2002
I have some friends who didn't listen to themselves enough. He loved the house, she was ambivalent. Now they're both very unhappy and trying to sell it, but can't seem to find a buyer. I think the house is getting even with them.

catlin	20 Aug 2002
Hi hermit, Something similar had happened to friends of mine. When I first saw their new house I tried to tell them gently that I had the impression that this house will not meet the needs of a family with small children but neither my friend nor her husband would listen to me. When they were expecting their 3rd child and it turned out that the house was too small for 3 kids, they tried to sell the house but in vain. Now they have to arrange themselves in it.

zorya	20 Aug 2002
the house was ok, but then i walked the woods, over the creek, up and down the hills and knew i found a home.

DarkElectric	22 Aug 2002
My house definitely chose me. The building I live in is a reconverted high school. It is huge. There are 111 (My number, by the way,) units in this building, and some of these are the equivlent of 10 room houses. It's an entire neighborhood in one building. Anyway... A few years before I moved in, I was living in my art studio (basically squatting) and really wanted a home of my own. I wanted a condo, because a house was too much for me, single and on the go all the time. Besides, I've always loved apartment buildings, because I like living in a place with other people in it. So. I looked around, and this building was really a stellar place to live. I wanted to move here. But there was no way, really. This building does not rent, it is unit owner priority. And expensive.So how could I possibly get in here? I mean, I was SQUATTING! Well,I ended up joining this band... The guitar player lived in this apartment once. We ended up getting together, and he wanted me to move in, so I did. The house welcomed me, and my old dog Myles, who was a dear ancient soul. It was sort of a "mistake" you could say, but we got married. For about 15 minutes, no joke. He was older than me, and in about 6 months had his "mid life crisis". He decided he didn't want to be married anymore, or be a homeowner either, took up with some internet bimbo, and moved out. The divorce was really quick. There was NO property dispute...My mom and I bought him out. He had gotten the house on a forclosure deal. We got a 50 thousand dollar condo for 10 grand. That's all he wanted. It was affordable. I lived on tunafish and peanut butter for months to be able to contribute to the purchase. We got it, and now I have an affordable place to live for the rest of my life. The house liked me better, I think. And before Myles died, he invested his energy in the house, in certain spots he used to sleep in. He's still proptecting me. There's a lot of spirit energy in this building. It has assured me that I can stay as long as I like, even if that's longer than I expected:) That's ok with me.

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