Mediums

Thread originally posted on the Aeclectic Tarot Forum on 14 Nov 2002, and now archived in the Forum Library.

Kismet	14 Nov 2002
Hi to all, I've been away a bit with a support group. Today has been a really bad day. It's my birthday, the first without my boyfriend in 5 years. I called a medium yesterday and have an appointment set for Tuesday, she came recommended by an aquaintance. I'd like to know if any of you have had any experiences with such, as I wasn't very impressed when I called. I'd also ask if any of you have any feelings on if this will go well. Thanks, God Bless, Love and Light, Kismet

zorya	14 Nov 2002
((((((kismet)))))) i am so sorry your birthday has not gone well. i wish you great healing and lots of beauty and joy in your life.

Kazz	14 Nov 2002
Oh Kismet! (((((Happy Birthday to you))))) ****:*:*:*:*:*:*:*:*:*:***** IMHO, I think it would be a good thing for you to keep your appointment with this Medium, I haven't been to one myself, but I think for you, it will not only be a great experience, but it may also give you a little sense of peace, and who knows... it could be EXACTLY what you need in order to let your heart heal. I don't even pretend to know how you feel, and I don't even know if any of this will be of help. What I DO know......is that time heals all wounds, and you must remember to allow yourself plenty of it. Kismet...you are in my thoughts and I hope that life will shine brighter for you soon..:) Take care of yourself, and best wishes are sent to you for your BIRTHDAY! Cheers Kazz :TQC

allibee	14 Nov 2002
Yeah, everthing that Kazz says! I'm am very much into mediumship and development, so would like to give you a few pieces of advice to help ensure a successful reading: 1) dont - underlined, DO NOT - give out any information to the medium apart from yes or no. As: a) an unscrupulous reader could manufacture a reading from little snippets of info from you and your body language and, b) if you have already given information to a proficient ethical medium, if they then give you that info as evidence of survival of the spirit, then it wont seem like much very much to you. Imagine how you'd feel if the medium gave you real evidence of survival of the spirit, wouldn't want to spoil that, would you? 2) If you can't immediately place any info the reader gives, just say so, and that you'll have a think about it at home. There is nothing worse for you, or them, than a sitter who tries to make things fit, when they don't. Just be honest and say. 3) Presumably - I'm new here - you have lost your boyfriend? Have you told the medium any of this? If so, don't fret too much, just keep it close to your chest please, ok? 4) Evidence of survival does not contain a heading for your spirit guides - this is not evidence. What IS evidence, which should sustain and invigour you at your lowest, is identification of the communicator (spirit), names/description/location of other loved ones in spirit, statement of something that has occured since the passing of the communicator, i.e a recent birth in the family since the passing of your communicator. 5) Remember always that spirit is only ever a thought away. A good medium should put you at ease, and then start something along the lines of : "Ok, I have a Bob here, I feel he was about thirty years of age when he passed. I'm feeling that there was a problem with the throat area which contributed to his passing....." and all you're required to say is yes or no, or OK ....ok? When you find the right medium, you'll know. Best wishes allibee

Sea Sprite	14 Nov 2002
Happy Birthday Kismet! :) Ditto on everything Kazz said. Be strong and have faith; time heals all. :)

Kismet	15 Nov 2002
Thanks for the birthday wishes, I'm glad it's over. Allibee, I've shared nothing with this person. She did a group party and was refered to me from it. An older lady answered when I called to set the appointment, the medium was busy, so she asked what time and day I wanted, I actually wanted it yesterday, but wasn't able to so set up Tuesday from 5 til 6. She took my phone number, and that was it! Is that how mediums usually work? Am I to take anything of my boyfriend's with me? Am I supposed to reveal anything to her at all?? I will take your advise on the answering yes, no, and I don't know. And to answer your unasked question, yes my boyfriend passed away, he commited suicide April 28th (ODed) and was found May 3rd. I say he passed May 1st because I had a feeling come over me, I wish I knew if that were accurate though, maybe she'll be able to tell me that as well. KAZZ, thanks for your words of encouragement. And thank all of you for listening. God Bless, Love and Light, Kismet

allibee	15 Nov 2002
Hi Kismet I'm truly sorry for your loss. It's so hard, I know, when we lose our landmarks in life, and we feel very lost. Yes, that is usually the way a good medium works, so you are off to a good start :) They will usually have a time at the end of the reading to answer any questions you may have if it has not already been covered. Usually you get more than one name come through, like: I have a Bob here and he also gives me the names Noel and Graham, an Arthur and a Louise. Now these people may be in spirit or living, but it is just to help identify the communicator. May I suggest when it comes to revealing info that you listen to your inner voice. Just don't offer too much up front, is all I'm advising. You can take something small with you like a piece of his jewellery, or a scarf. Some mediums can do this. I'd be inclined not to use a photo as this may confuse and taint their perception. Hmmmm, I can't think of anything more at the moment, apart from to say that our feelings when someone we love passes are usually incredibly accurate. I'd listen to what your inner voice is telling you on that one. Please, please let us know how you get on. L & L allibee :)

Kismet	15 Nov 2002
Allibee, Thanks for your response. I was planning on wearing a dress he bought, it was one of the most memorable days of my life. I bought matching necklaces for us when he passed, his has a lock of my hair, mine holds a lock of his. If I were to take something she could "feel" him through, I have his Bible, it still holds notes jotted in Church fliers in it. I could take the bottle of medicine he ODed on, but I think that'd give her more info than I should have to give her. Thanks again, and keep the responses coming! And YES, I'll let all know how it goes. God Bless, Love and Light. Kismet

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