anyone got a good easy spell out there?

Thread originally posted on the Aeclectic Tarot Forum on 16 Jan 2003, and now archived in the Forum Library.

pozt	16 Jan 2003
A guy and I liked each other mutually but things never got off the ground. Suddenly, just overnight, he appeared very cold and distant. I tried communicating with him, asking him what was bugging him, whether I had done/said sth wrong. He said, "No, don't worry." But it's kinda obvious that there is sth wrong. Anyone got a good spell to attract his love, YET will not interfere with his free will (in the event that he has lost interest in me)? Sth that doesn't require much memorising of words or too many materials. Thx.

tarotbear	16 Jan 2003
Forget it, you cannot make someone who doesn't love you fall in love with you. It flies against Free Will. Why would you do a spell to MAKE someone love you? What kind of relationship would THAT be? What if you could do a spell that would make 'anything' happen? Would you force a college to give you a diploma as a brain surgeon? Would having a diploma MAKE you a brain surgeon? Think about it.

zorya	16 Jan 2003
to attract his love with a spell would be interferring with his free will, anyway you look at it. besides, wouldn't you always wonder if he was with you because he wanted to be, or because you cast a spell? to attract love in general, including self love etc.. would not be interferring with anyone's free will. funny thing about self love spells... when you love yourself more, you become more attractive to others.

pozt	16 Jan 2003
Hmm...seems correct, but I read before that to "attract" love isn't the same thing as "make" someone love you. That was my view, just in case anyone misunderstood.

HudsonGray	17 Jan 2003
Well, the attract love spell would be done on you, not him. It's done as an open ended spell--no particular person is mentioned. What you do is broadcast out the intent that you're ready for a relationship & anyone who is interested in approaching you with the same intent of a relationship is welcome to do so. This keeps it very open ended--both you and the guy (or guys, it usually pulls several out of the wood works! It'll do same gender too, so be specific as to which gender you want & what sexual orientation is needed!) can back off & drop the contact if you don't feel right about continuing once you make contact. Be open to who approaches you the first 2 weeks after doing this spell. Look at who comes up to talk, they're all potentials. All it does is ATTRACT them, you two must do the rest. It opens communication & the follow through depends on what the contact works into. It won't work on specific people because that interferes with what their personal choices would be. So if you aim it at this guy, he'll be more frustrated with you than anything else. It's like shooting yourself in the foot. So, yes it's ok to use an attraction spell that's not manipulative if it's open ended like this & done on yourself. No, it's not ok to direct something specific at a particular person once they've made known that they're not willing to follow through at the moment. There's a huge difference between the two. The first will not get any bad backlash at all. The second can intensify any problems you're currently having because it raises stress & frustration levels in the other person.

rostie	17 Jan 2003
Quote: Originally posted by zorya to attract love in general, including self love etc.. would not be interferring with anyone's free will. funny thing about self love spells... when you love yourself more, you become more attractive to others. how do you do that, specific??? especcialy self-love then... thanks, with love, sara.

pozt	17 Jan 2003
Yes, then I was really referring to the "self-love" thing then. Sorry for the confusion. Anyone know any suggestions?

divinerguy	17 Jan 2003
Perhaps a spell to provide you with greater understanding. Guys are simple creatures. We say what we want, and we're clueless when it comes to non-verbal communication. Subtlety is about as useful with us as are ice cubes to eskimos. If the guy says nothing is wrong with him - believe it. Some guys, me included, hate it when people try to pry things out of them. When we feel the need, we'll talk about it. Guys like women who are playful and upbeat. A good sense of humour is better than any perfume.

Kiama	17 Jan 2003
A spell for self-love is very simple. I'mnot going to give you any scripts for one or lists of ingredients though, cuz I tend to make up my own spells, which I would suggest is useful for you to do here. I'll give you some ideas and a brief outline however. You could try something which helps you see how beautiful and wonderful you really are. Visualisation would work well here. You could try a simple affirmation and visualisation exercise once each morning and once before bed. Somthing along the lines of, 'I am beautiful, I am attractive', whilst visualising yourself blooming, like a beautiful red rose. You could try what the Buddhists call 'Metabahavna' (spelling?). This is a meditation known as 'Loving Kindness' or simply, 'Love', which aims at you becoming more loving towards yourself, towards you friends, family, and towards strangers and those you find difficult. What you do is get comfy, sit up straight, and get into a meditative state of mind. You may want to burn some incense, and do it when there is th emost silence, at night if you have to , when everybody is in bed. The first thing you imagine, is that you are in front of you, and you see loving kindness, or love, radiating from you,maybe in the breath, or in the form of a rose opening up in the heart chakra. Spend about 5 minutes doing this. Then, do the same with a friend you care for alot. Then, the same with a mere aqcuaintance, who you don't really know, maybe the newspaper boy or milkman. Then, try it with somebody you find difficult, and finally, the whole entire world. Try this a few times a week, and you'll be amazed at the changes. On a less magickal side, you could try simply being proud of everything you do in life: Enjoy being you, and be pleased that you are doing what you are doing! Hope this helps. Kiama

WolfSpirit	17 Jan 2003
I once did a spell to get to know someone better (hoping that the getting to know him better would lead to romance), and well I got what I asked for. By coincidence I met his brother, the only person he really confided in, and he told me he was still trying to get over a former very painful relationship. So a love spell would probably not have worked anyway... I agree with divinerguy: if people (don't know if it's just men though) say they are ok they are not ready to share their problems with you. All you can do is let them know subtly you are still there for them should they want to talk about later on, and not dwell on it too much for the time being.

january	17 Jan 2003
Quote: Originally posted by pozt I tried communicating with him, asking him what was bugging him, whether I had done/said sth wrong. He said, "No, don't worry." But it's kinda obvious that there is sth wrong. If there is something "wrong" then all you can do is offer your ear. Don't beat yourself up wondering if you've done anything wrong. Been there, done that. People open up when they're ready. Don't make another's worries your own. Here's a "spell" for attracting love... some of it sounds corny, but it really works. It boosts your confidence and increases your self validity. Do this everyday, even if you don't feel like it. - Buy fresh flowers to brighten your room - Say something nice to the cranky curmudgeon in front of you in the grocery line - Hold a door open for a harried mom with a baby stroller. - Daily affirmations - tell yourself what makes you so unique and wonderful - Wear a scent that makes you feel pretty (I LOVE jasmine!) - Put extra effort into your appearance to make yourself feel beautiful - Compliment a stranger on the cool outfit they're wearing - Get involved in a new activity and get really into it - Light some pink and white candles - Innocently flirt with a cute stranger on the bus, train, etc. Love will radiate from within and you'll get yourself noticed in a good way without even realizing it. You may even be surprised at who you attract. And if he (or any potential date) can't see that glow around you then he must really be blind!

pozt	18 Jan 2003
thanks to all for their precious suggestions!!! I feel so much better doing small nice stuff to myself and other people.

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