Energy Vampires

Thread originally posted on the Aeclectic Tarot Forum on 22 Feb 2003, and now archived in the Forum Library.

imagoddess	22 Feb 2003
Upon the advice of a friend, I have come to the conclusion, that there is a particular person in my life who is unconsciously sucking my energy. I have had a good strong wall around me for a long time, and am a mentallyemotionally strong person, but this person, is breaking through it. Everyday, I get more and more tired, and throw up frequently. I eat well, exercise, and am a healthy person. I tried to construct a wall last night, but it isnt working, and I feel even worse today. Does anyone have any advice? imagoddess

Kirali	22 Feb 2003
You might try to distance yourself from this person you think is an energy vampire until you can create a sufficient wall. I would just stay away from that person if it were me. Keep trying to put the shield up! Someone posted a great site on how to ground and shield but I can't remember where it was. Perhaps someone else does. sorry! :)

zorya	22 Feb 2003
the simplest, quickest method is to imagine yourself in an egg of light. most people use white light, but i find blue works very well. if it's not working well for you try grounding first. grounding is feeling yourself connect down to the earth and the energy flowing up through you. at the same time feel energy come from above and flow down through you. there are many old threads on sheilding. using the 'search function' (above) type in the word 'sheilding'. here is one of the more recent ones; http://www.tarotforum.net/showthread.php?s=&threadid=10799&highlight=shielding

imagoddess	22 Feb 2003
Thank you Zorya, those posts have helped enormously. I was unsure how to perform a search on this issue, and you directed me straight to the source. I am not in the position to remove myself from this person now. It is my Mother and I am currently living with her, I am moving out on March 24m and thank god, will be moving 900 miles away. She is someone who cannot manage her feelings, especially anger. I have tried to heal our relationship and myself both verbally and psychically to no avail. It seems to be getting worse. When I hear her move toward me - I feel this huge force of anger, and I feel myself tighten in defense. It is very huge. Today, I could barely get out of bed, I am freezing cold, and sick to my stomach. I cannot continue like this, I have five weeks to pack and move and too many tasks to accomplish. This is uncharacteristic of me, I have always had energy to spare. Today, I am forcing myself to be productive although I want to stay in bed. I plan to take a long drive and spend the day running errands and lurking around Barnes and Noble. imagoddess

Woof	22 Feb 2003
I know where you're coming from but from a different angle. My 9 year old is a special needs child. Serious behavior problems including empathy and anger management. She has been to all sorts of doctors and we've had all sorts of specialists in our home. None can find a diagnosis or any fault with our family life. She is considered and extreme "difficult personality". Since birth I've called her my little energy vampire. Center yourself, try to remember that some things are beyond the control of the person at "fault". Your mom probably can't control herself and may be unable to even see the flaw in her personality. How can you describe color to a blind person? I suggest you do what you can emotionally and spiritually for yourself and reach out to her (when you have to) with loving kindness. If you need to put it in this perspective have pity for her. Meditation has helped me immensely Do whatever you have to strengthen yourself emotionally and spiritually. Believe me it helps to instead of feeling tension when I hear her footsteps approach try to feel loving kindness and sympathy. Emotionally distance yourself from her actions: don't let what she says hurt you, just try to remember she can't help herself (even if you don't believe this100%). I know it's hard. But you have a finite time frame ahead of you. Work on making that time as positive as possible. I think you may benefit from that instead of counting the minutes. I may always have my daughter with me and I've been working to improve things keeping that in mind. Oh well, life is weird in what it throws you. Enjoy what you can; try to focus on the beauty and goodness that exists. Woof

cheekyminx	24 Feb 2003
Quote: Originally posted by imagoddess Upon the advice of a friend, I have come to the conclusion, that there is a particular person in my life who is unconsciously sucking my energy. I totally understand what you mean. A very good friend of mine (who I rarely see, due to this) is a psychic VAMPIRE!!! She realises & has apologised for draining me. There's another thread on this topic, its one of mine. "feeling drained"

HudsonGray	24 Feb 2003
Sucks, don't it.....BWA HA HA HA HA ha ha ha! Boy, I gotta cut down on the sugar. ----------------------------------------------------------------- "There are more things in Heaven and Earth, Horatio -- hey, donuts!"

cheekyminx	24 Feb 2003
Quote: Originally posted by HudsonGray Sucks, don't it.....BWA HA HA HA HA ha ha ha! Boy, I gotta cut down on the sugar. ----------------------------------------------------------------- "There are more things in Heaven and Earth, Horatio -- hey, donuts!" that's not very nice Hudson....behave!!! ;) :O do you get on sugar highs like me? lol Its great ain't it :)hehehe

HudsonGray	24 Feb 2003
I LIVED on sugar for 5 years waitressing (all the free soda you can drink!), tried cutting back, had withdrawal symptoms, and am currently cutting back again. But it was 2am, I'd just had a soda and a bowl of frosted flakes with the white residue sugar from the bottom of the box...and a candy bar..... man, I am NOT good on the stuff, I can actually bounce off the walls. Sorry if I offended anyone. Caffine, sugar & tired don't do a body good. ------------------------------------------------------------- "Methinks cravings revealeth the addict-"

truthsayer	24 Feb 2003
imagoddess, maybe i have a different spin on this. i do agree with what others have already said. but the symptoms you are describing aren't just that of a psychic vampire but of anxiety severe enough to affect your physical functioning. re: throwing up and extreme fatigue. it sounds to me like you are putting so much energy into defending yourself against your mother that you have nothing left in you for other activities. i don't know if this is possible but do you have a friend or a place you can go for overnight or a few hours weekly so you can bolster yourself thru rest, good food, self nurturance, exercise, etc.? when the human body is under this kind of severe psychological strain, it is very easy to get sick. perhaps you should visit your family doctor for a check-up just to make sure this is a physical reaction to anxiety not some other disease process. remember that the body and mind are one--in no way seperate. i know everyone doesn't agree with getting medications for anxiety but this may be one of those cases that you are too drained to do this all by yourself. another thing i suggest is to find some pure herbal essence like lavendar from an aromatherapist. use some in your bath or spray on your chakras after bathing to help rebuild and strengthen your aura. i swear it worked for me. i've tried everything i mentioned here and they helped me. another thought is that your mother may not be a psychic vampire. it sounds to me that you are under a full fledged psychic attack from someone who is emotionally volatile. being out of explosion range of a psychicly abusive person is the best way to survive. another thing to check is if there is a way to diffuse her voltility? sometimes projecting love and empathy does the trick. sometimes you have to fight fire with fire. i don't like using anger on an angry person but sometimes it's the only thing a psychic attacker understands. when you are under the stress of severe psychic attack, it's very easy to get depressed and down on yourself. try to involve yourself in activities that improve your self-esteem. maybe arts and crafts, music, volunteer work or being around people that have "softer" energy and are more empathic to your needs. sending you love and energy! put yourself FIRST in this difficult time. it's not being selfish. it's called survival.

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