Seeking comments from Samantha and others

Thread originally posted on the Aeclectic Tarot Forum on 13 May 2003, and now archived in the Forum Library.

cjtarot	13 May 2003
Samantha, Everyone, With Samantha's tale in mind...We (my friends and I) had a girls night were they were discussing their ongoing divorce and how what the X is doing is really upsetting and hurtful. So, they were asking me (like I know what I'm doing) for suggestions on spells that would wake these men up. I told them that it's not the men, lets face it people will be people and you really can't or shouldn't change them (duhh you couldn't do it while married the the nuckle brain). What you have to do is cast to pull his emotional influance out of your life. In effect make yourself stronger and more secure so the deeds they are doing won't hurt, but just cause you to shake your head and go "it figures". Samantha, you pulled your X out totally, do you think pulling the emotional hold he had on you out would have worked better? That is what I would like to see my friends do. It is so painful to see them start hating and resenting a man they at one time loved. Any suggestions that will help keep the spell from backfireing..I will be suggesting the burning a phrase because it realeases. (let the flames carry away the hurt) and make sure we all understand the intent (give them the spell before hand to really think about it 1st). Your help is greatly appreciated. Blessings, CJ

samantha	13 May 2003
Sorry cj , I didn't see your post(s) until just now (didn't help that I thought I wrote this in "divination"....) "You pulled your x out totally , do you think pulling the emotional hold he had on you out would have worked better?" At the time I knew that I must take responsibility for what I said . By this I mean that I was trying to focus on my side in the relationship.....take ownership of it , and not apportion any blame. Rationally I didn't want to say "He makes me feel X.....and I no longer want to feel X" But rather "I am ALLOWING myself to feel X ....and I want to rid myself of it " Emotionally it was probably another story ! At some level I was still angry ....and ,despite my intellectual good intentions, this "coloured" (tainted) the words. Hence the way it back fired. I really agree with what you say about how destructive bitterness and hatred for an Ex can be. With regards to how this kind of situation can be avoided..... I'm no expert on this (obviously!), I think sky twig and Zorya summed it up pretty well . 1) Only ever carry a spell out in a spirit of love ( and love for everyone !) 2) Take care with wording 3) Consider environment/ timing 4) Be aware of tools/ proceedures which suit some spells and not others. 5) Prepare yourself beforehand .....focus at the time. 2, 3 and 4 all seem "technical" .... I'm sure that Sky twig or Zorya(passing the buck here....but done in a spirit of love !) could give pointers of what to do to get well informed. I just know that , currently , I am not very well informed ....and would not consider any more" spells" until I was ! And even then I think I would hesitate.....

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