feeling for another person - no cups

Thread originally posted on the Aeclectic Tarot Forum on 14 Apr 2005, and now archived in the Forum Library.

wind	14 Apr 2005
Does the absence of cups suggest that the person has no feelings for another person? (If you ask such a question) Or maybe it only suggests that the person does not let feelings to control his/hers life? How to know, finally, if a person has any feelings, love for the other person? Can even pentacles and swords suggest that? Or only cups? Because I saw one woman who was giving readings and if she saw no cups she said, there is no love. I can not really agree... What do you think?

Kiama	14 Apr 2005
Love comes in so many forms, and I have seen wonderful relationships with no Cups in them... A long term relationship, for instance, where the foundation is trust and commitment, often includes quite a few Pentacles. (Earthy, grounded, supportive, foundational.) Love which is built on lust, energy, passion, and the sharing of common interest or a business partnership I often see in Wands cards... The 3 of Wands particularly has shown up indicating a marriage that centred around the couples' business. Love where the main common interest is, say, philosophy, or study, or something intellectual, is often seen in the Sword cards. That's not to mention the different kinds of love such as friendship, parental love, purely sexual love, etc... :D Blessings, Kiama

contradiction	14 Apr 2005
No, cups are not needed. After all the cards speak to us in so many ways, there are alot of cards, which would show that kind of commiment, unity, and balance. It would all depend on the reader, their deck, and how they communicate. Not to mention the person the reading is about, and how the cards relate to that person. And what the cards want to tell that person.

jmd	14 Apr 2005
Each reader may also have their own specific manner of reading. It may be that the person using the particular spread tends to also focus, perhaps, on personal relationships, and focusses very much on the question of 'living love' within such. She may further therefore read that the love - as perhaps even passion rather than care - has subsided. The very term 'love' may also have more specific meanings in various cultural settings. But as others have already said, absence of cups certainly does not, in itself, indicate an absence of emotions or feelings - let alone an absence of love. At least, if not for the reader mentioned, for myself.

Fulgour	14 Apr 2005
:) Kako ste? I did a reading today for someone wanting to know if, after telling someone they loved them, would the other person ever let them know if they loved them too... "King of Pentacles ~ 6 of Wands ~ Knight of Swords" The "missing" Cups were very big to me, so I turned the deck over to see the peek-a-boo card on the bottom... "Knight of Cups" There are ALWAYS Cups in a reading, because it's Tarot! Nasvidenje, Fulgour

mike gorth	16 Apr 2005
Cups aren't neded. Yes, they might be the emotional/loving suit but that doesn't mean there is no love

SunChariot	17 Apr 2005
wind wrote: Does the absence of cups suggest that the person has no feelings for another person? (If you ask such a question) Or maybe it only suggests that the person does not let feelings to control his/hers life? How to know, finally, if a person has any feelings, love for the other person? Can even pentacles and swords suggest that? Or only cups? Because I saw one woman who was giving readings and if she saw no cups she said, there is no love. I can not really agree... What do you think? No, I would not agree with that. And I would not agree that you can generalize like that. Each reading (and each reader for that matter) is different and part of it is feeling what it means. I don't believe there are set rules like that. If there is a doubt that the two people are in love, Cups could show up to clarify that. But if the two of them know they are in love, it is not necessary for the cards to point out something that is already obvious to all concerned. The reading then can focus instead on teaching them what they do need to learn--on a specific aspect of that love that perhaps needs to be looked at and considered. Like a couple could be very much in love but instead of Cups a loneliness card could come up. Perhaps at that point in time, one of them is spending too much time away, and the other misses him. And this could just signal they need to spend more time together, not that they are not in love. Just that there is an area of their love that needs "correcting". And if you want my opinion, your skills as a reader seem more developed that the those of the woman who told you that. Your instincts seem much better. And in the end, just follow your heart and soul and don't pay to much attention to what others say is right or wrong. You need to find what is right and wrong for you inside yourself.:-) Bar

Elizabeth Genco	17 Apr 2005
SunChariot wrote: And if you want my opinion, your skills as a reader seem more developed that the those of the woman who told you that. Your instincts seem much better. And in the end, just follow your heart and soul and don't pay to much attention to what others say is right or wrong. You need to find what is right and wrong for you inside yourself. Well-said. Looking at a situation holistically, and interpreting the cards based on one's intuition and understanding of card meanings goes a lot further than following arbitrary rules like "no cups" == "no love". Simplifications like "no cups" == "no love" really cut down on the richness of readings, IMHO.

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