Actually, I think I am just the opposite. I had control of my life when I picked up the Tarot,
complete control. I needed the Tarot to lose (or at least loosen) control...
However, that coincides with the rest of your question regardless. I use the Tarot to see the possibilities ("this is the really, real world!"

), understand myself and my inner thoughts (what I
really want or need)... Or at least that is the
vague idea.