Owning your own house??

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Originally Posted by Minderwiz

I'm not sure from this, whether it was the issue of owning your own home that led to the inlaws becoming a problem but my feeling is that whilst that might have been the specific trigger here, if you had not have owned your own home, there could well have been such a disruption set off by another issue.

I think I was not clear when I was writing, hence a minor misunderstanding here. My in-laws have no problem with my house (as much as I think I know). Its that the differences on varied issues started creeping up along with interferences from their end after I bought this house. That the problems started after buying the house (the problems didnt exist when I stayed in a smaller rented house) made me ask this question to my astrologer and then here for a clarification...

Originally Posted by Minderwiz

I agree with your Astrologer here, Saturn is indeed a hard taskmaster and he forces us to learn (and hence develop) even if the experience is uncomfortable. Saturn also represents the 'father figure' and 'time' and in a real sense your challenge here is the transition between 'son' and 'father' - that is of becoming an adult both physically but also gaining social and familial recognition as such. The same holds true for your wife, who may still be seen as 'daughter' rather than 'woman'.

The task is to convince your father in law that you are a 'responsible adult and in turn the father (either present or future) of his grandchildren - he and you need to get on as respected equals, even if you don't agree on everything. This is a learning process for both of you. He needs to recognise that you have now taken his place as the guardian and protector of his daughter and that your role is based on a deep and committed mutual love (you and her) more especially he needs to learn that you value his advice, experience and friendship but that also, as an adult, be free to make your own decisions, even if he feels some of them are mistaken - that's not easy but you have to find a way of doing it, otherwise the disruption in your home will continue, as one issue gives way to another, with periods of uneasy peace in between.

I absolutely love the way you write. I dont know if its your experience speaking (since you are almost double my age and have seen more of the world than me) or your inference from my natal chart. But whatever you have written above is true right till the last word. Our differences are based around whatever you have written and the fact that he doesn't respect me as an adult.

Once again thank you for the advice and clarifications that you offered me. It has meant a lot to me, and has definitely set me thinking about how I should go about it (especially changing my behavior). I guess Tarot might help me in it