The Spider & The Fly Spread [Sticky Situations]

[Nica]

Hi Aeclectic,

Recently I designed my very first spread, and it is my honor to give back to a community that has helped me so much. The purpose of this spread is to work with underlying conflicts in a toxic or predatory relationship you may be stuck in. It offers insight on the shadow side, the side that we can tend to overlook if we're not conscious about it. I've been lurking these forums for years and I really admire your work!

SPREAD:
If you place them diagonally, you could imagine the spiderweb image. The cards may even interact more closely!


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SPREAD EXPLAINED:
01 Predator's Signifier. Who is the spider?
02 Victim's Signifier. Who is the fly?
03 When the Plans Hatched. When did the spider weave the web?
04 How it Affects the Fly. How did the fly get caught in the web?
05 What the Plan is. What is the spider planning for the fly?
06 How to Escape it. How can the fly escape the web?
07 Predator Outcome. Outcome for the spider.
08Victim's Outcome. Outcome for the fly.


Imagine a spider stalking around its silky net, hungry and in search of a victim to feed off of. It takes the time to weave the net into a trap to befall an unsuspecting passerby. The plan is etched and the trap is barely noticeable, so it’s only a matter of time and waiting until somebody gets caught in it. The unsuspecting fly is on its way to spiritual growth and development, when suddenly it finds itself in a hostile situation. It struggles and perhaps breaks some of the links on the web, but the spider has been expecting it all this time. The spider stealthily moves over to embrace the fly, and then spins a silky cocoon around the fly so that it won’t be able to leave. Defeated, the fly waits for the spider to decide its fate. From then on, it dies in rapture or by the kiss of the spider.

Another idea can be of an unwilling commitment, binding or contract. While involuntarily, it may keep us as prisoners to a specific circumstance. Care should be taken — if possible — to avoid it at all costs. Sometimes we can't identify secret agendas when we're interacting with new people, sometimes a friend you've known for years suddenly seems different, sometimes you just open your eyes to the truth. Entertained with the idea of relating this to the tarot, I have designed my very first spread. It will clarify messy or otherwise predatory situations we are known to get ourselves into.

Being on the losing side of this chain is difficult. There are possible exits from situations like these that we may not notice on our way down. These doors to opportunities are fleeting and can easily pass under the radar if we're not looking in the right places. How do we avoid falling prey to these situations? I hope this spread serves as a tool for you to overcome a dark obstacle in your life. A little extra insight doesn't hurt in identifying the problem. React on time; don't let others take advantage of you!

I hope you enjoy trying it out as much as I enjoyed making it for you!
Constructive feedback will be very appreciated.
♡♡

[Mysticlee44]

A very interesting spread idea, could also be used if somebody is the spider also and raise there awareness of how they are treating somebody else etc...

[summerbutterfly]

I tried out this spread and was wondering if the outcome was if the person continued on this path or if they actually changed their path. Please advise.

[SagiChar]

Nica: Thanks so much for sharing your first spread with us! I, especially thank you dearly, as this, I think, may help me personally...can't wait to give it a spin!

[Frannie]

This is an extremely interesting spread, thank you for sharing! Can't wait to try it out, I'm in a sitiation that would be best clarified using your spread

[Nica]

@ Mysticlee44
I really like the spin you gave it because it helps the spread become more positive. I may adapt it as well to provide that type of insight. Thanks for the observation!


@ summerbutterfly
Hi Summer, in this case I would pull one other clarity card to provide information on where the situation is going. The important thing is to become aware of the situation and all the aspects around it. After that you could go into a more specific spread like the Celtic Cross or try a new 3 card/4 card spread.

I really wanted it to focus on the situation itself and understanding why things happen as they do, because usually that provides us with the tools to go out and do something about it. It gives you options.


@SagiChar
Thanks so very much too! It's really electric to give back to the community I rely so much on for updates. I love it here!

If you'd like to share your results too, that will be great. Keep me posted!


@Frannie
Please let me know how it goes! Feedback and personal modifications are welcomed.

[SagiChar]

Originally Posted by Nica

Thanks so very much too! It's really electric to give back to the community I rely so much on for updates. I love it here!

If you'd like to share your results too, that will be great. Keep me posted!

I, too, love it here, what would we do without such giving people?

I certainly WILL share with you and give you my results when I do this spread...it's the least I can do!!

Thanks again...so interesting!!!

[Nica]

Looking forward to hear the results!

[SagiChar]

Hey Nica!

I finally have had a chance to sit down and do your spread! I'm not sure if you wanted me to post the actual cards I pulled or if you just wanted my general feedback...so I've just decided to post my general feedback since this isn't the "Your Readings" section.

This spread showed me quite the insight. The spider turned up to be the person I thought it might be, and showed me what I needed to do to "escape the web" so to speak! I won't go into it here, but, pretty much the solution was for me to strap on my armor, knowing that I'm climbing an uphill battle, and move forward with my life with what I've learned so far, to work hard and steady as well.

The person (the spider) will come to understand where I am coming from and will soon be able to see things from my point of view (or will be able to put their feet in my shoes). For this person to be able to do this...it will be quite a shock to their system, as they are NOT used to seeing things from my perspective!

My outcome is showing that I will in some point need to walk away - but with some reservations...but, knowing me...I'll end up walking away and not looking back!

The "spider's outcome" well, it's almost like they will actually be wearing my shoes...and again, for this to happen...a real shocker...a wake up call....

(The Chariot and the Seven of Swords came up...and I have written in my tarot journal that sevens represent reflection and assessment (and also nearing an ending) and that rings true as well, as this would end a bitter chapter in my life.)

I know that I will, for sure, use this spread again, as it was very useful to me...and actually the results were very surprising...so, again, I really appreciate you sharing this!!

Thanks so much Nica!!

[Nica]

Originally Posted by SagiChar

Hey Nica!

I know that I will, for sure, use this spread again, as it was very useful to me...and actually the results were very surprising...so, again, I really appreciate you sharing this!!

Thanks so much Nica!!

Wow! It sounds like you got some unexpected messages that resonate with you. I am very happy to hear that it worked for you and that you have posted it online. I will refer to your thread out of curiosity. I may have something to add to the dialogue!

Thank you for trusting my spread and giving it a shot — it means a lot!

:ove & Light