King of cups clarified by 7 of cups???

[Scarlotsmiles]

Hello wise ones.

So I have this pairing of the king of cups & 7 of cups for how someone feels for someone & I am stumped. Is it maybe that he wants you to feel he is the king of cups but really he isn't, ie, just playing the field 7 of cups or keeping his options open... and if that is the case why does he (the king of cups) come up directly in the feelings position for how he feels. Why is the tarot showing the King of cups & not some other card like the magician perhaps? Of course it is the clarifying card of the 7 of cups that is throwing me, just have no idea on this pairing.

Your thoughts, interpretations would be very much appreciated.

Oh, Just to give a little background on the situation as I understand it. He is making it very clear to the female querant that whilst he finds her sexually attractive, he is not looking for love & neither does his feelings go very deep. When doing a reading I would usually associate the king of cups as someone with very deep feelings/a man inlove, falling in love so to speak or maybe even feeling that way but keeping secret about it. Obviously I understand there are negs/pos to the cards I don't use reversals & used the RW deck.

Love & light to you all

[rwcarter]

He has deep feelings for her (KC), but he's not ready to settle down yet because there are too many other things that he dreams about doing first (7C).

[Anika.Layne]

I view the KC as a positive card for feelings in that they are real and established. Maybe the 7C is suggesting the man is afraid of losing his freedom/options if he decided to be in a relationship with the querent. Men tend to believe this more often than not. He has feelings but is afraid of commitment maybe?

[Scarlotsmiles]

Originally Posted by Anika.Layne

Maybe the 7C is suggesting the man is afraid of losing his freedom/options if he decided to be in a relationship with the querent.

Yes I kinda get that feel with this card too as the querent kept expressing that he had emphatically told her on numerous occasions over & over that he doesn't want anything heavy. However I am wondering if thats doesn't want anything heavy period, Or whether its a 'I don't want anything heavy with you' as in maybe his feelings aren't strong enough.

Originally Posted by Anika.Layne

He has feelings but is afraid of commitment maybe?

Again I'm still not sure. Although it was the King of Cups in the feelings position I'm still wondering if it would be more negatively aspected because of the influence of the 7 of cups so maybe the complete reverse of having deep feelings, maybe he's not really into her at all. The Querant says that he shows no interest at all yet he acknowledges that he finds her attractive phisically & wants to flirt with her & be aroused by having 'sextalk' with her, but she says she feels he isn't trying to jump her bones because he makes no attempt to spend time in her company to actually try it on with her. All of this upsets her because she is open to all of this too but wants them to spend time in each others company & go with the flow, open to possibilities, as in if they go for coffee & they flirt with each other then they run with it, if they go to the movies & sit in the backrow & something happens between them then something happens between them, but he just seems to be all talk - all sex talk that is.

To me it sounds like she is his muse & the 'talk' entertains him fulfills some kind of need perhaps but with out the emotional connection or actual physical intimacy. I have heard from the Querant again this evening & he has told her to leave him alone & that it is for her benefit & not for his, but given that his feelings for her were the King of Cups all of this confuses me. I am not one for trying to make the cards fit but even the negative qualities of the King of Cups don't seem to make sense to me either given the situation. I've done another reading for her asking the same question & this time I got the Queen of Cups as how he feels about her ironic don't you think, the natural marriage partner to the King & still doesn't seem to reflect the current set of circumstances between them.

[Anika.Layne]

Hmm, that is quite confusing... sounds like a tough situation to be in. Did you pull a clarifier for the Queen of Cups the last time? That might help too.

Yes the K & Q of cups are good feelings in my eyes, but he has been saying for her to basically move on, right? In this case, I feel that maybe his words should be heeded, for now anyway. Maybe he will come around, but right now, he has been pretty persistent with saying he doesn't want anything serious unfortunately for the querent.

Also, I actually just thought of this. By telling her it is best for HER to move on or there is nothing more, he is actually being quite mature and TELLING her it won't work, rather than dragging it on or making her believe otherwise. Sometimes guys would rather lie or sulk away than be truthful and honest with someone. This could potentially be him feeling compassion for her like the King of Cups by letting her know the truth? He cares enough about her to let her know the truth!