In my initial tarot explorations on the Net, I found the American Tarot Association's wonderful site
and enjoyed perusing it, particularly the archives of their newsletter, Tarot Reflections.
During my explorations, I came across this wonderful relationship spread by Valerie Sim-Behi.
I find that it's a very in-depth and insightful spread, which gives more insights because it's very astute as to what the nature of a relationship really is.
Though I am not an expert on relationships, I firmly believe that the best relationships are those in which he, she, and the relationship itself all grow, both individually and in tandem. I consider the relationship itself to be an entity and believe that forgetting that can be a huge mistake. She needs to grow into herself, he needs to become the man he was meant to be, and together, if they are mutually dedicated to the union and are willing to work on it, the relationship should mature and blossom. Well, thats my theory <g>
and the premise upon which this spread was based. (The choice of pronouns used herein is conventional, but by no means judgmental, and this spread works equally well for he/he and she/she relationships.)
I find this a very insightful way to examine a relationship. It's not just a matter of who two people are on their own, but the "gifts" they give each other, the aspects of the other each person brings out, the challenges they give each other, and importantly, it's also about the entity the relationship itself becomes. What characterizes the relationship? What is it based on? And so on.
Sorry if someone's already posted a link to this spread before, I did a search and didn't find a thread where it was mentioned, and I thought it was too good not to share.