My daughter is lesbian and while I was on my little vacation trip with her and her SO, she said again, as she's said many times before, that it's not about sex. It's about
loving another person who is a woman. Sex isn't love. It's an expression of love. I honestly don't know what my sexual orientation would have been had I had a choice. Someone made the choice for me, in a manner of speaking, before I was a year old. I'm sure that will sound preposterous to everyone, but those who have seen me mention my life's details might understand. If they don't----oh well. My life is mine and I can only speak for me, so there it is. Like gregory, I could fall in love with a woman were I to choose to explore that but I don't choose to at this point.
I'm not going to get too personal here. It's not appropriate. So back to the topic. I have mixed feelings about a "lesbian" tarot. Why not a "genderless" tarot? I do understand that being a lesbian and using a deck with only men shown involved in love and sex isn't really right. But there are also the transgendered people---how do we include them? Drag queens, how about them? LAMBDA---how about them? Making separate decks based on sexual preferences misses the mark in so many ways. Sex isn't life. It's a
part of life and a small part at that. Love is huge and all-encompassing. No matter what your sexual preferences are, that holds true. The fact that most of society confuses sex with love is where we go wrong with this Tarot thing, you know, just like we go wrong with it in life. Why not a deck that's genderless and just portrays people for whom sex is a
part of life but isn't love and that just portrays life as it pertains to us all, but without leaving anyone out? We're all people, no matter what floats our boat in the bedroom. Whether I choose to achieve orgasm with a man, woman, b.o.b. or however just isn't
all of me any more than my choice of food is when I'm hungry. I'm far greater than what I do to satisfy that urge.
A little comment on Motherpeace and Daughters of the Moon. I respect the Motherpeace, but I don't like it. The in-your-face crotch shots hit me like a sexually abusive man's "here it is, take it whether you want to or not" and I don't think that's necessary or helpful to women's issues. I think the DOM is much more beautiful, sensitive and respectful of women than the Motherpeace. Again, just me telling my own story. I realize many people will disagree.