Dark Angel,
I would think that he hasn't shown himself very much due to you already have a good understanding of what it's like to be hurt often, being judged before being heard, or understood.
It was a while ago that I posted this about SS, and I'm shocked to see that it's been bumped and new posts added, that's awesome. So, after working with him for a while now, I would like to add a few other messages from him.
I would like to first start out that I had business cards made with Spirit DAncer on them, and then a faint faint faint soul shrinker laid on top. The person who did them for me swore I said if there's a way, please add Soul SHrinker to the card, but I said nothing of the sort. However, to me it's perfect and here's why.
To start off with, in case your wondering, I choose Spirit dancer due to an excercise I did a while ago. I shuffled the cards, asking the cards if I was a faery who would I be, and Spirit dancer showed up. After talking to my sister (Alissa) it made perfect sense to me why spirit dancer fits me (i'm very attuned, and very enraptured by spirituality, to the point that in my own way, I dance with it). As for SS, I think he's perfect as a faint overlay due to why people come to a reader, they come because their hurt, they want answers to things that no one else can answer. They don't want a psychological answer, or a scientifical one, they want a metaphysical one, perhaps they want to contact a loved one who has passed, or to see what's in store for them with their love life. Not all, but many are hurt, where the soul is being ripped apart (in one way or another) by internal pain, pain leads (or can lead) to anger, hurting other people, etc. He does (as another posted here) help take on some of the pain to ease our pain, as well as a warning of danger ahead, also, a card of internal pain/anger.
Now, you can't notice him on there unless someone points him out. Heck, I didn't even notice him on there until the person who designed my cards pointed it out, and I thought it to be perfect with not only my affection towards this fae, but also his meaning. Protective, consultant, and pain...which are common reasons for people to consult a psychic.
Thanks for bumping this thread, I really enjoy reading the new posts that's been added on to.
Sagitarian