zorya
fm, i do read from inside out and outside in and in all directions.
it might help to think of how real relationships work.
forget the cards for a minute, and take any two people with a relationship... some feelings come from past experiences, some feelings come from hopes; and doesn't person a's feelings sometimes effect person b's and visa versa? doesn't person b's expected outcome impact on person a's expected outcome and on person a's feelings and needs?
what happens when person a's needs is in balance with person b's? doesn't that effect both of their expected out comes or feelings? doesn't that impact the relationship? what about when their needs are very different from each other?
a relationship is what exists between two people. so it is a third thing in of itself. but it is still part of each of and both of the individuals. of course the relationship impacts each of them and each of them impact the relationship.
it might help to think of how real relationships work.
forget the cards for a minute, and take any two people with a relationship... some feelings come from past experiences, some feelings come from hopes; and doesn't person a's feelings sometimes effect person b's and visa versa? doesn't person b's expected outcome impact on person a's expected outcome and on person a's feelings and needs?
what happens when person a's needs is in balance with person b's? doesn't that effect both of their expected out comes or feelings? doesn't that impact the relationship? what about when their needs are very different from each other?
a relationship is what exists between two people. so it is a third thing in of itself. but it is still part of each of and both of the individuals. of course the relationship impacts each of them and each of them impact the relationship.