Donni - your website
Hi Donni
I just visited your website and read through your piece on the loss of your young friend. You said
"There are no longer social rituals for mourning."
This is so entirely true. Also, people who ascribe to the more new age ways of thinking often will negate feelings of grief, thinking one has to stick with positie thinking, or "everything happens for a purpose" or some such thing. Of course, these maxims have their truth, but they often disguise the need for time to mourn and come to terms with what's happened.
Without wanting to sound irreverant (especially, Donni, in the light of your moving story) I think the same can be said of celebrations.... there are no longer social rituals for celebrating - at least most of the time. Take for example what happens when someone gets divorced... I got divorced nearly 2 years ago and nothing happened. I received a notice in the mail. End of story. No acknowledgement of my new status, no acknowledgement of my new life, no nothing. The event passed with only a few conversations to mark it. Nothing. It can feel like a void - regardless of whether there's joy or sadness around the event.
Anyways, all that... just thought that under this Scorpio Moon this morning, it might be an interesting thing to reflect on.
Greetings
Lynda