Hi all. I would like people's opinions on something. Looking for a unique birthday gift for my dad, in a bookstore I happened to run across a copy of Edward Gorey's the Fantod Pack, which I thought was hilarious, and since my dad enjoys EG's odd humor and artwork, I got it for him.
But now I'm thinking, since the cards mostly seem to represent dire scenarios and doom, and you really wouldn't want any of them to be true, and it hadn't ocurred to me when I bought the deck that any of them *could* be true, how would you best clarify to people who say Tarot is all "just a bunch of hooey" that the Tarot cards definitely are NOT "hooey" (as I obviously believe firmly in their reliability) but a silly deck which is not meant to be used for serious readings IS "hooey"?
Is it all based on how seriously the *reader* takes it? Because if I did a reading for a friend who thought it was just a bunch of hogwash, *her* perception wouldn't change *my* belief in the cards. I thought at first it would be based on the fact that the creator of the deck had no intentions for the cards to be taken seriously or used for "real" divination, but people sometimes use regular playing cards for divination, so that doesn't seem to explain it.
Or are these cards just as "true" as Tarot, and I'm giving my dad an evil deck full of dire predictictions for his future??
Ok, there are a number of different questions here, so let's see....
First of all that was very kind and considerate for you to get your Dad something you knew would mesh with his tastes.
Is your father a Tarot reader? If not he may well enjoy it very much, just for the artwork.
As to your question on how I clarify to people who think Tarot is just a bunch of hooey that it is not...In short, I don't. I know what it is from my experiences, which may well differ from the experiences of others. But it is not my job to convince others. I allow other people their beliefs, just as I hope they will allow me the right to mine. We are all entitled to our beliefs and I believe in treating others as I want to be treated.
I want my beliefs treated with respect and that means I need to treat others in the same way. Whatever the truth is, they have just as much right to their beliefs as I have to mine. if their beliefs are meant to change, they will when the time is right.
If someone is open to it and asks me, I will answer their questions as honestly as I can. But I do not ever try to convince someone. I just tell them that their way of seeing it is interesting and I respect it whether or not mine is the same or not...and that is the end of it. I don't try to convince people who are inclined to believe otherwise. They have that right to choose their beliefs.
Besides someone who has strong enough views to see it as a bunch of hooey....very little chance you could change their mind, imo.
Each reader is different, I personally do not do well with the "dark" decks. But many readers do. I don't know the deck, but I presume a good reader with that kind of deck could see all kinds of things in it, not just dire predictions. The cards are not always literal, but very metaphorical as well.
The cards are not "true" or not. it's what the reader sees in them that is either true or not. What they sense there is either accurate or not. It is possible to read well with any tool that stimulates your intuition. As you said playing cards, pendulums, crystal balls, crystals....I have used all those and they have worked for me. Also I have heard of people reading with tea leaves, match sticks, seashells and many others.
No deck is "hooey" if it reads well for someone. If it reads well for a reader it is a valuable tool. The Fantod could be just that for the readers that it meshes with.
If you're trying to convince someone, I think it's more about how seriously that person takes their point of view and how sure they are that they could not possibly be wrong than with how seriously the reader is. You can't convince someone who is sure they could not possible be wrong. There is a lot of this around as society tends to teach us to mistrust what cannot be proven scientifically and well, it does portray Tarot in somewhat of a negative light. There are no shortage of people who believe that you have to be crazy to believe it could work. And anyone who believes that has likely met many more people who feel just as he does and who validate their opinion. Whether or not it's true, that can make it feel true.
I try to make it a policy personally not to even read for skeptics at all. I can't help when with a reading until they are willing to at least admit it might work.
I am not at all sure there is such a thing as a deck full of bad predictions. Each deck reads differently for different people. And someone who see the world positively is not likely to see dire predictions. But personally I find that kind of deck hard to read with.
BTW, I could not resist and went to look up the deck on AT, here
http://www.aeclectic.net/tarot/cards/fantod/
It does not have to be as negative as you said. The Ancestor card does not look negative. It just looks like all the "faceless" ancestors of yours who helped shape who you are today. All the things you were taught from your parents who learnt it from their, who learnt it from theirs...etc. generations back to people you can't even imagine who they were or what they looked like. But they can influence you today.
As for the Child one, it might look a bit negative at first but it really does not have to be. Looks like a skeleton child. But I could see it as saying you should look deep inside you, and to look at the bare bones of the message your inner child is trying to tell you. That could be helpful information, it does not have to be negative. Or even like a skelton key, which is a key that would open any door. could be telling you that there was something you knew in childhood that you forgot. But when you find it again it will open doors in your life that are currently closed to you. That kind of thing....Again metaphorical.
Ladder could be about climbing to a higher spiritual level...Effigy could say you're not seeing clearly, you are seeing things the reverse of what they actually are. The number are reversed in the card. And while and effigy is representative of something or someone it is NOT that actual thing or person. It could say that you are confusing your ideas about something with the real thing. Like thinking you love someone but really you are just in love with love...
Limb could talk about someone who loves to eat, as in the expression they have a hollow leg. LOL Could be about food. Maybe asking them to eat more healthily. Or just advising someone they need to change their viewpoint as it is inaccurate and they don't have a "leg to stand on"....Which is helpful info when we are not seeing clearly and don't know it. Or saying that they are just having a "knee-jerk" reaction (reacting automatically to something without thinking) and that if they stop and think they might find another method would work better.
Anyway, the point is that no deck is necessarily negative. it's all in the eye of the beholder/reader.
And of course readings can be used for many many more things that just using them for predictions.
Babs