goldenquince
I generally treat the whole world like my therapy clients goldenquince (which I then have to be careful to 'turn off' otherwise I end up a 24/7 gal) - and am pretty good at other peoples shoes...
And now that 'gentle letdown' that you describe - I agree with nisaba - it could all go horribly wrong. Far better to have the horrid truth now - than a deeply convoluted disaster later on. I'd rather not assist people in deluding themselves.
But there is something about that particular turn of phrase which makes the truth less stark for people...
I very much appreciate your comments because I think 'the group dynamic' will assist me somehow. Whether it's with what I've originally asked for - that remains to be seen.
It sounds as if you have everything under control and have figured out how to make things work for you, Tanga. BTW, I didn't mean to sound condescending with the whole "other people's shoes" line--no offense intended. I'm definitely a diplomatic kind of girl, which isn't to say that I don't like it when someone just tells me like it is. I do, in most situations. I guess everyone's approach is different, and if you ever did want to try reading again, I'm sure you could find a lot of people out there who like to get down to the nitty gritty, just like yourself