Elephant Ponderings
I ran a test spread on my brother and his wife. They have a long-standing marriage and have made a few "adjustments" over the years to keep it going. They have no children. I used the Spanish edition of the Rohrig Tarot, with the Lovers as the Significator.
Card #1- Compromise (Agreement Zone): Princess of Wands - They've reached an agreement that she can spend as much money as she likes on keeping herself youthful looking and glamorous (which at 67 she definitely still is) with Botox treatments, a roomful of pricey make-up and (my wife and I suspect) plastic surgery. All Princess of Wands stuff.
Card #2 - His Needs (Self-Interest Zone): Ace of Swords - He is very sharp mentally and also verbally, especially with his easy-going and somewhat naive wife. It can be uncomfortable to be around them when he goes on a tear. But he's a near carbon-copy of her mentally abusive father, so she basically married her Dad. He reminds me of the tyrant character in the old Zork graphic adventure game who was fond of saying "I am the boss of you!"
Card #3 - Her Needs (Self-Interest Zone): 10 of Cups - She loves to be pampered and is something of an emotional sponge. She absorbs his tirades and never says a word.
Card #4 - His Actions and Reactions (Conflict Zone): 2 of Disks - He is pretty much an "On/Off" kind of guy. He turns the switch on and the money flows in (to the tune of $200K a year), he turns it off and the money stops. But although he's reached retirement age, the switch seems to be stuck in the "On "position these last few years. He spends a lot of time on the road (salesman) keeping all his "balls in the air."
Card #5 - Her Actions and Reactions (Conflict Zone) 7 of Disks - She is perfectly happy to remain passive about the situation as long as the money keeps rolling in, and she doesn't have to work too hard at it (and with him away a lot, she doesn't).
Card #6 - His Outside Interests (Self-Interest Zone): Queen of Disks - We wouldn't be at all surprised if he has an earthy lady on the side. I watch him light up shamelessly with the young women when we occasionally go out to restaurants together.
Card #7 - Her Outside Interests (Self-Interest Zone): 6 of Swords - Her outside time has been spent largely in intellectual and spiritual pursuits; she has attended seminars and become certified in various techniques like past-life regression and dowsing.
After 40 years of marriage, I would say they have an "understanding."