Maru
This may seem like a strange connection to make, but I sometimes see 7S as signifying someone is looking for "a way out".
I had this thought when you mentioned you going straight to Tarot post-sex. This is just me, but I don't really read other people in my life until I get a tingle. Unless there's an obvious red flag or the paranoia is keeping me up at night (i.e. may be a block I need to break through in my own life), then I don't feed into these idle thoughts. I always read from n inward aspect, focusing on the accuracy of my intuition rather than just aspects of a reading, so Tarot helps me to separate my feelings from the matter, so it helps to keep me balanced. If you don't feel your own intuition/gut is trustworthy sans cards... then that may be hinting that you're maybe relying too much on the cards to excuse a fear or set of behaviors, so that you can continue living your life as "friction free" as possible... Tarot should help to increase your awareness, not create more fear and friction. That would be a sign you may need to reframe how you read the cards so that it can assist in healthy development of your intuition, instead of fear-based intuitive thinking. Which often is blocked, muddier, harder to confirm readings imo.
Often stalker cards are hinting at patterns, so if we look at 7S as a "pattern" and not focus on just a single behavior, it may be easier to discover it's true meaning. It can be your inclination to want to do it on your own... that is, you're not really looking at Tarot as a lens to provide insight, you're looking at it as a way to support your current chosen way of life. Could be a tendency to "go it alone" versus having to deal with the difficulties of long-term/friction filled relationships. Could also be hinting at your tendency to "keep a weapon" at your side should someone cross you. That is, you're secretly keeping your shadow side at the ready, just in case you may need to be a little bit more ruthless in order to achieve your goals... so could be with relationships, but if it's chasing you, it could be hinting that this cautious nature--once embedded with good intentions--is now slowly taking over your life and controlling more of your decision-making. I think that this aspect is more than self-sabotage... it is hinting at a courage problem if this ill-dignified. That you're relying more on this aspect than you'd like, maybe because you're allowing situations to make you more jaded than you'd initially had liked... so 7S could be your shadow self not having proper reins and it is slowly shaping your life for you, without your knowledge. Almost like going off path slightly, but not as bad as some other cards.
May be too that you're choosing the wrong person (subconsciously) over and over, as a method to continue to fulfill this self-prophecy... that you will never meet your own standard in terms of your selection of good people--your ability to see the best aspects of people... almost a nihilistic/sarcastic/permanently cynical perspective in life <-- this is how I see 7S ill dignified btw
Cards may be are just reflecting back "Um, 7S!...7S! If you don't know 100% what I'm saying, maybe make no rash decisions here!..."... meanwhile, the 7S is ruling over you more than you'd like. Would be my intuition.
I had this thought when you mentioned you going straight to Tarot post-sex. This is just me, but I don't really read other people in my life until I get a tingle. Unless there's an obvious red flag or the paranoia is keeping me up at night (i.e. may be a block I need to break through in my own life), then I don't feed into these idle thoughts. I always read from n inward aspect, focusing on the accuracy of my intuition rather than just aspects of a reading, so Tarot helps me to separate my feelings from the matter, so it helps to keep me balanced. If you don't feel your own intuition/gut is trustworthy sans cards... then that may be hinting that you're maybe relying too much on the cards to excuse a fear or set of behaviors, so that you can continue living your life as "friction free" as possible... Tarot should help to increase your awareness, not create more fear and friction. That would be a sign you may need to reframe how you read the cards so that it can assist in healthy development of your intuition, instead of fear-based intuitive thinking. Which often is blocked, muddier, harder to confirm readings imo.
Often stalker cards are hinting at patterns, so if we look at 7S as a "pattern" and not focus on just a single behavior, it may be easier to discover it's true meaning. It can be your inclination to want to do it on your own... that is, you're not really looking at Tarot as a lens to provide insight, you're looking at it as a way to support your current chosen way of life. Could be a tendency to "go it alone" versus having to deal with the difficulties of long-term/friction filled relationships. Could also be hinting at your tendency to "keep a weapon" at your side should someone cross you. That is, you're secretly keeping your shadow side at the ready, just in case you may need to be a little bit more ruthless in order to achieve your goals... so could be with relationships, but if it's chasing you, it could be hinting that this cautious nature--once embedded with good intentions--is now slowly taking over your life and controlling more of your decision-making. I think that this aspect is more than self-sabotage... it is hinting at a courage problem if this ill-dignified. That you're relying more on this aspect than you'd like, maybe because you're allowing situations to make you more jaded than you'd initially had liked... so 7S could be your shadow self not having proper reins and it is slowly shaping your life for you, without your knowledge. Almost like going off path slightly, but not as bad as some other cards.
May be too that you're choosing the wrong person (subconsciously) over and over, as a method to continue to fulfill this self-prophecy... that you will never meet your own standard in terms of your selection of good people--your ability to see the best aspects of people... almost a nihilistic/sarcastic/permanently cynical perspective in life <-- this is how I see 7S ill dignified btw
Cards may be are just reflecting back "Um, 7S!...7S! If you don't know 100% what I'm saying, maybe make no rash decisions here!..."... meanwhile, the 7S is ruling over you more than you'd like. Would be my intuition.
