Farzon
A subliminal coming-out then?<grin> Yes, but I was also making a serious point to her - and by retelling it, to the people in this thread.
It is not incumbent on a person to come out about their sexuality. After all, I don't remember my parents EVER calling a big family gathering, clearing their throats looking embarrassed, and telling us all that they were ... er ... straight, and that to be straight was actually okay and didn't mean they loved us less. Nope, that never happened. My parents never came out as straight. I'm willing to bet most of YOUR parents didn't have the courage to come out, either.
If your parents haven't come out to you, why should you come out to them? Just take the people-of-your-choice to Family Christmases and Family Birthdays. After about twenty years of taking along people of my own gender and insisting I was NEVER getting married, they finally got it.
You're completely right about this point. A coming-out should not be necessary. But in most parts of the world homosexuality is at least regarded as "not normal".
That's why a lot of us thought to be straight for some time of their lives. Some even decades of their lives.
But coming-out should not be a duty... it should be a ordinal choice, depending on the circumstances. I too haven't come out to some people and I wouldn't let the cards decide if or when I should. They only can help me in getting my thoughts straight (haha).